Whats the attraction

Ive been reading a few threads on here, about some women thinking younger men only want them for sex, and to brag to their mates about having an older woman.

But is the feeling not mutual for you too, are some women only attracted to younger guys because they may be nicer looking, may be better in bed, and to have an ego boost by having a younger man.

Hello Jack,

I have often asked myself some of the same questions that you pose here. It is more complex than simple Freudan analysis. I've put two links here, short articles I have read, one written by a man, the other by a woman, dealing with the attraction between younger men/older women. I found them quite interesting. Thought I would post them, instead of trying to explain it all, when the authors do a better job of it than I would..

Gen


http://www.ivillage.co.uk/relationships/dating/men/articles/0,,139_181212-1,00.html

http://www.suite101.com/article.cfm/age_gap_relationships_retired/24010

u know...honestly ive NEVER thought that...probably because all of the people i know and hang with expect more from me in relationships than something that shallow....and really, i know nice looking older men and younger men....guess i just wouldnt be the type to 'brag' about it either way.....i also know some JERKS that are nice looking and yet...would never choose to be in a relationship wif them;) LOOKS in a man are not the number one priority....nor really are sexual performances in or out of the bedroom....call me weird=).

For me it's not a preference. The guy I fell in love with just happens to be 12 years younger than I am. When I "brag", it's about the fact that he's such a wonderful human being.

To be brutally honest, I often wish he were older. I think I would be less scared of certain things. Not to criticize people who have that preference.

To me, younger men have an outlook and an energy that I really enjoy. They were primarily raised by women like myself, who go out to work everyday and do not cater to their every whim. They appreciate a woman's independence, unlike their older counterparts who are sometimes threatened by independence. I seem to relate better to younger men ..I listen to "young" music, I dress in current styles but still keeping with what's appropriate for my age. Younger men tend to keep themselves in better physical condition.

What I especially like about a younger man who seeks out older women is the fact that they are looking for a quality person on the inside. They are knowingly and willingly forfeiting the traditional male ideal of what a woman should look like .. you know .. the ones on the magazine covers. They already realize that an older woman maybe have some lines, creases and other typical signs of aging . To me, that is a special man. One who knows the true value of a woman's spirit and one who realizes that class, sensuality and brains do not begin and end with the year on their birth certificate.

To me I have never "searched" ym out, it just happened, I could just as easily fallen in love with OM (and have).
And at first realtionships with OM and YM are both electricying sexually ;)
I go for the love :)
Now to some YM are a preference, to me a man is a man, no matter his age. I would never give up true love because of age.

I DID NOT come to this site looking for a YM, I had one 15 years younger, just didn't know what it was all about, looking for advice, than I dated a guy a year older than me, now I have a boyfriend 9 years younger than me.
So for ME I never sought it out, it just happened.
El' natural

It's no "ego boost" when society, family and friends think you are off your "rocker". :rolleyes:

The funny thing is, before I fell in love with a guy 10 years younger than I am, it never even crossed my mind that dating a younger guy would be possible. It just didn't occur to me. It sort of pains me to say this, too, but I was sort of ashamed at first of having feelings for someone so much younger. I felt like a deviant of some sort. This site helped me get over that!!! THANK GOODNESS!!

So... no, I didn't go out for an ego boost...

I wasn't looking for a younger guy, but now I see definite advantages. But if, heaven forbid, things don't work out with my sweetie, I don't think I will seek out another younger dude. I won't be against the idea, either.

No, I don't believe OW go out with YM for an ego boost. Not from what I've been reading. As the others have posted, most of us do not seek these kinds of relationships, they just fall on our laps.

Also OW don't have the gigantic egos that men have whether young or old. Most men egos are define by what car they drive, what giril is on their arm, or if they can drink the next guy under the table better....always, always a delicate matter with men's egos. OW egos are more simply define....a good man, healthy children, a strong (relationship) marriage, her overall health and outlook. Its not complicated really, but alot of men haven't figure this out yet. Looks and body...big deal...quality men come in all kinds of looks, bodies and ages. I once saw a liscense plate that said..."you exercise, you diet, you still die"...this says alot.

I think this new generation of men, at least the two after me are being raised differently then men were raised in the 50s, 60s and some 70s. As another posted stated. There are more single moms raising these men, so their outlook is different towards women in general and they would like to continue the stability they had being raised in a single parent home, not that they want to be babied, but they've been given equal status and responsibility. Great thought.

Paris

I certainly didn't set out to look for a younger man. It just happened. I found myself very attracted to him. Unfortunately he comes from a large family and wants lots of children and I'm 42. I would be willing to have a couple more but it may not be enough for him and I wouldn't want to deny him a big family. Besides, we check each other out but neither of us has made a move. My gut tells me he isn't interested just curious. And I just found out he met a girl a month ago that he really likes alot. His sisters love her and so he may be off the market soon. She is also his age not 14 years older. Do I like the fact I'm so into this guy? Not at all. Why? Because nothing is happening and I don't want to deny him all he wants in life because of my age. I may be 42 but I'm 25 inside. That's why if things don't work out with this man I will probably look for another younger man. I need someone to keep up with me.

Originally posted by terrill
. . . I need someone to keep up with me.

LOL . . . my sentiments exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!:D