blind date

First off, I'm glad I have found this site and hopefully I can receive some great advice. So lets tell you my story:
I am a 25 year old guy that has been living in Washington DC for the past year. I have met some great people of all ages. Several weeks ago, my neighbor that I have become friends asked me a strange question: "Would you ever consider dating an older women?" No one had ever asked me this question and so I had never though about it. I asked her why. She said that she has a friend that is very fond of me and would like to get to know me better. My neighbor kept insisting that she had never dated a younger guy but liked something about me. I had met this women before and found her quite beautiful and just a great person. I told my neighbor "why not, I have nothing to lose." I realized she was 43, but it didnt seem to matter. I received her number and gave her a call. We talked for about 45 minutes and thought she sounded really cool, like I had thought several weeks ago. I took her out to dinner and we hit off and its been great ever since. We have been getting closer and closer. I am a bit concerned about the age gap though. I know it shouldnt matter b/c this has been the best thing for me in a while and we just click. We are always holding hands givng each other kisses. Its like high school. I know she hears comments like "Why are you kissing your son?" "Do you realize you are old enough to have changed his diapers?" She said it doesnt matter but I can tell its irritating to hear these things. I guess I'm worried for her. That she might think its too much. On my front, I couldnt be happier and can see no one else in my life. Any comments or advice. I would love to hear what everyone has to say. I thank you in advance.

Brian

IF it is bothering her. You said she told you it doesn't matter. Maybe she is working through it on her own, with your support. I bet you just being there for her and assuring her of your feelings will help her. It does me...I am 44 and my YM is 21 so I understand the concerns.When he reminds me of his love and how he does not give a rip of the age diff it melts me. If it comes up though you could direct her here! How sweet of you to post and be concerned for her.
She is already one step ahead having a caring guy like you in her life!


WELCOME!!!

It seems she adapted perfectly to the situation, which was somehow expected, since she was the one to approach you. But you say "I am a bit concerned about the age gap though" and don't say exactly why.
If you are happy, what are you afraid of? Other people's judgments? Changes as time passes? Is your concern any different from what you would feel in a "non age-gap" relationship?
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I think you sound so sweet and wise. She is very luck to have a man that is confidant and secure.

It may be normal to have weird feeling about things. Even in non age gap relationships people go thru stuff at first.

Don't worry about the naysayers or people that are negative. Hug her more kiss her more when you hear those comments. She will be so encouraged.

I felt funny at first in my relationship but now its been a year and I dont feel it anymore. In fact I swore before that everyone was looking at us now I don't ever even notice. Its irrelavent its old news.
If anything what do they say in the movies "bad press is better than no press at all" If they find you two so interesting let them have their dinner time disscusions. Oh well, they can't live your life so screw em.
In any event this relationship sounds like from what you said making you very happy so just go for it and let it unfold the way its going to unfold. Best of luck.

My wife of 25 years is 17 years older than me. It CAN and does work out sometimes.Have her come here and read some of the post. She and you will find tons of info and advice. You will also find a bunch of great folks here.