concerned

Hey guys! Havent really posted as much as I have should but I really need some advice. This site has been great in terms of what I have seen in everyone helping others. Here is my concern:
I am 25 and have been dating a great women that is 37. We have gotten along great and it seem some conversations we have had have lasted into the wee hours of the morning. We have similar interests and seem to enjoy each other's company.
Several days ago we talked about "us." She has been really hurt in the past. She said thar she is having trouble opening up to me. I have heard some great things that makes me realize that she can be great to me. I keep telling her I'm not going away and I'll keep proving myself to her.
However, it seems that she has reserved herself to me. She says that she really wants a relationship with me but sometimes I seem to be second on her list of priorities. Its know its no big deal and I would never stand in the way of her speniding time with her friends. Sometimes though, I really wish she would make time for me.
I know we have been together for only a month. Maybe its just me and I'm trying to speeed things along. I know I should just let things happen and be cool. The idea that she'll come around should be my focus. Hell, she is taking me to meet her family this weekend should be an indication. Let me know if I'm doing the right thing. Keep in my mind I think that I have been cool about things and would never let her know I'm concerned. Is this the right approach?

Brian

Welcome, Brian!

You're right: going to meet her family is usually a good indication that she's taking the relationship (and you) seriously.

Sounds like she's already been quite open with you -- and reading between the lines, I hear that she's asking you to take things slow. The best response you can give is to tell her, "Take your time, I'm not going anywhere".

As for making more time for you, I'm sure she had a full life before you came along, and an emotionally healthy person isn't going to just drop that for a romance. (An emotionally needy person will) I'm around her age (39), and I'd have trouble squeezing dates into my schedule these days.

You're on the right track -- take it slowly, and try to be sensitive to her pace.

Savannah hit the nail on the head. Just take it slowly for a while. In the first month or so it's not unusual to only see each other occasionally or whatever. If you were to rush, it might ruin what you could have!

How often do you two see each other?

It always great to hear people reinforce what you think you should do.
We see each other about 2-3 times a week. Which is great. I guess the thing that bugs me is I usually call every night and sometimes she calls back and other times she doesnt. I keep telling her its no big deal. She says she doesnt want to wake me which is true. I guess I'm probably reading too much into it, when in actuallity there is nothing to worry about. Just keep the reinforcing going, its very beneficial.

Brian