HELP- I think he is scared!!

HI everyone: First, thank you to everyone who replied to my initial posting...I could not get back to anyone because the computer died!!
anyway, I am 26 he is 49 and I know he cares about me....The relationship would be wonderful and loving BUT I get a sense that he is a little timid about the age difference and my question is how do I make him feel that it is okay? I am a very emotionally and intellectually mature woman....I am educated and will have a doctorate degree next spring...but that may not be enough...

For instance, he'll call me "babe" and in the next sentence say "I'll call you, kid!" I sense his anxiousness and I care enough about him to want to tell him that it it okay. I also think he feels he could get hurt. I also feel that way too....I mean he could want to proceed with a relationship and then decide the age thing bothers him and dump me.
Please advise. THANK YOU IN ADVANCE...you are all so great!!:)

I think the only thing you can do is be honest.... Tell him how you feel and tell him tht it doesn't matter to you and what you want out of it.... and tell him you need him to be honest with you....if he can't handle it you can't force him and sometimes you may have to let it go... sometimes if you love them you need to set them free if it comes back than it was meant to be!!!!!!

Good Luck

Or if you can, get him to come online with you here and see what obstacles others with the age difference have overcome and are overcoming. There may be a question in his mind about whether he may be holding you back from achieving something you may otherwise achieve and it may not be an age thing at all, depending upon what his educational background may be.

Check out the thread in the relationship support section called "sounds familiar." In that thread, we discuss OM's fears, why they say certain things and do certain things.

Most of us have faced this same situation...
Good luck!

i thank that sounds good. to have him vist us here at agelesslove to see and understand other in an age gap relationship.

could not hurt. lol. it would be good for him. and you too.

First of all,

How do you know the relationship would be wonderful and loving?

Is this your opinion?

How did the two of you come to be?

Is he intimidated by your maturity?

How long have you two known each other?

Sometimes our actions speak louder than words but we may have to do alot of actions or speak louder.

Her~

Oh girl, welcome to the club! There are quite a few of us here that know this feeling. In my situation...D and I have seperated twice (by his choice) and he still comes back because there is truly a deep connection between us.

hhdt39~

How do you know the relationship would be wonderful and loving?

Because the time we spend together is so wonderful. We are both romantic, we love public displays of affection, we are kind to each others needs....etc., etc.


Is this your opinion?

I can safely say that we BOTH feel this way.

Is he intimidated by your maturity?

Never! We laugh at how I am more mature that most of his friends.

How long have you two known each other?

We have know each other for a year and a few months. We started to date almost immediatly after we met.

None one on this board knows everything about everyone's relationship, so we kind of have to generalize things to the best of our knowledge. I know those questions weren't for me, but I thought I would answer them and give everyone (new) insite on D and me.

now that was funny.

i like your new pitcher. i need to get on up.

i am glad to here and find out more about u and D.

emc...

you know what would be nice. if we had a thread telling people about us and our om/yw relationship. so we could get to know each other better.