I want to propose - how ?

I am 40 and my mate turns 50 next week. We have been together for 13 years and I am looking for ideas on how to propose (finally!).

She is a quiet, private person while I am outgoing. I could do with a flashy proposal but I think she would hate that, so I am looking for something private and romantic.

We are both university-educated, strong-willed and a bit quirky, so anything memorably different and unique would be appreciated by both of us.

Also, if anyone thinks doing this now as she turns 50 is a bad idea, please let me know.

Thanks!

I turn 39 today. wow im old now ....not.

Its funny because we were just talking about ideas.

I was saying that it would be romantic to do it during some type of firework display.

Or send an email to all your friends telling them how much you love her and wish she would be your wife, but if shes private than she wont like that one.

Or I was thought of a web page saying how great she is and how awsome she is etc. but she most likely wont like that one either.

rent a limo, take her to her best romantic place, maybe the beach, on top of a private hill, bring drinks, music, etc. hug, kiss, back rub, no sex though. tell her how much you love her and care for her than ask her. than when she says yes well,....

Write her a letter detailing from the beginning of your relationshipto now, I mean every detail you could remeber how you felt, what you thought, include things about the first time you did this or we did this etc. Tell her all the things you love about her and give at least one example for all of them. Talk about how you have grown has a person from her and what you learned from her, finish with how you want your future with her to be. Paint a beautiful piture for her.

Corny but cool, make a memory box. Fill little slips of paper with one memory of you and her together to open eveyday. maybe for 1-2 weeks. Make the last one not a memory that you had togehter but one that you want to have with her, your marriage.

Have rose petals leading to the bath, have candels, music, bubbles, a new robe for her and new towels, champaign and chocolate, Make it so great the best spa would blush with shame. Than, welll you know what to do.

Get a prrecorded tape of her favorite romantic music. Play it out side her bedroom window. Than have a ladder climb up it and tell her how you feel and propose. I would like this one but I live on the second floor.

Hmm lets see.....out of thoughts for the moment but I'm sure one will pop in my head any second. Good luck let me know your feed back.

I was thinking it would be fun to write a book about this topic.

I can't imagine why it would be a bad idea at all.

Quirky.....what comes to mind is when I watched a television show on people proposing to the ones they love. The most memorable one was when the man proposed to his girlfriend by placing a note inside of a fortune cookie. They had ( i assume) finished with dinner and as she cracked open the fortune cookie she reads "will you marry me". The look of puzzlement on her face as she read it again was memorable indeed. She said yes.

Anyhow, that's my input.:cool:

Best Wishes

pick a date you like...for example Oct 20...then ask her what she is doing on the 20th of Oct, when she replies she doesn't know what she's doing on that day and why are asking....say to her since she has no plans for that day and neither do you,would she like to marry you.


and as far as even caring what anyone else thinks because she is turning 50......Don'T......it's not about what others think,it's about the two of you.

What a sweet idea. How cool!

Thanks for your replies folks. It was going to be today (her birthday is tomorrow) but something came up. So if anyone out there has any more ideas, please feel free to add them.

She loves gardening and we have a large flower and vegetable garden ... so one of my ideas was wait until the fall and place the diamond and emeralds (loose stones at the moment) inside a pea pod for her to pick. Or a ring tied to a tomato vine. We'll see.

Well, I did it, and she said yes! We went on a 4 km hike on July 15th (her birthday) and I carried the ring the whole way, but by time we got to the right place on the trail, the bugs were really bad, so I didn't do it then.

The funny thing - freaky really - is that this hiking trail is a geological tour of the rocks and ancient volcanic activity in our region of northern Canada. There is lots of quartz in the exposed rocky areas of our region. By the end of the trip she was looking for a nice, shine quartz rock to put in our rock garden at home ... and the way she was saying it was "I want a stone, a nice shiny stone!" ... over and over again.

Talk about a sign from above! Anyway, too bad I didn't have the stone in my pocket (it was hidden in the bottom of my camera bag) or I would have turned around and said, "Here's your shiny stone baby!"

As it was, the next evening (last night) we had planned to plant a tree in our backyard, so I sat her down in the midst of the potato pants. She loves our garden and yard so this seemed just right - I sat her down and gave her a new pair of gardening gloves with the stone on the ring finger of the left glove.

I think I just about succeeded in giving her a heart attack, and I think she is still in shock - 13 years together and I choose to do this now? But she said yes and now the delicate task of planning a middle-aged wedding begins.

Wish me luck, or better yet, pray for us!

Congratulations to a fellow Canadian! Yay! :)

I used to work in a Chinese restaurant.....some guy put the RING inside a fortune cookie, and when she cracked it open the hoopla began. It was cute. And I'm not much for cute.

whats wrong with taking her out for a meal and getting down on one knee, its better than her choking on the ring in the champagne at the end of the day.

Congratulations! One idea that I have is to go to a bookstore and buy a hardcover journal(blank). Write all the wonderful things that made your relationship memorable for example... My dearest "name"... I remember it like it was yesterday while I saw you hanging around the campus and I was like this blushing school boy who wanted to win your heart and be your soumate. Something romantic and something that has feeling in your journal while you have a private dinner and as she reads the journal, you have the ring ready to propose after she reads what you wrote. That's just something different and romantic since she is shy and quiet. :)