i think this topic is timely

and i hope all you good folks read it and ponder its wisdom.

common unenforceable rules

my partner has to be faithful

people must not lie to me

life should be fair

people have to treat me with kindness or care in the way I want

my life has to be easy

my past should have been different than it was

my parents should have treated me better

recognize yourself in any of these? they are things you wish might have happened, but did not, so what can you do about it now? hmm?

I always grew up with the teaching to treat others the way you would want them to treat you, I admit that on the road when driving I have lost my cool, but I'm getting alot better. And although I'm very shy I can be very out spoken, when someone really irks me, I don't always choose my words wisely, but again I'm getting better. I've always found that through life that you can't please everyone, no matter how hard you try. You just have to be honest, kind and trustworthy. But not everyone will like you or accept who you are, but that's ok......because I like me, and those who I care about also will. I guess I'm content with how my life has turned out, I'm ok with it (wink)

I got the point M. Thanks....

now, would anyone like to share about having unenforceable rules? and the consequences thereof?

yep,I'll share,but I don't have time to this AM.I'll get back to you on this one when I have more time to post.:)

would anyone like to share about having unenforceable rules? and the consequences thereof?


I used to have a rule that I could "fix" people that needed "fixed"....boy was it unenforceable..
I would gravitate towards relationships with men with problems,be it drinking,emotional,or whatever else it may be.
and the fact that I could fix stray animals,I just assumed I could fix people too...you can't fix people,they have to want to change.

live and learn I guess...now I don't try and fix people,I stick to animals and am really grateful I have a husband that does not need any "fixing".

my partner has to be faithful


oh yea,as far as this rule goes...I maybe can not "enforce" it.but I can choose not to stick around if he isn't.

some things are just a matter of choice and what one is willing to put up with.

my parents should have treated me better I had this one WELL into my forties. Especially about my Mom. She seemed to favor my little sister, four years younger than I. I built up a ton of resentment towards her. It wasn't until I needed to forgive myself of my own faillings with my children that I realized that she did a much better job rearing me than I did my children.
We are best friends now. She is a doll!
Barbara