The Boy Next Door Moved In>part2update

:rolleyes:
Hello,
I recently recieved an update request from a friend on ageless, he knows who he is.
K, so, here goes..........*(closes eyes and takes a dive)*

Im not sure where to start. But i will try my best.
I have faithfully been reading these boards, can't seem to stay away from all the interesting post. think im getting to know the members. lol.......and they don't even know it....ok back on track.....
After, my last post here, i began trading e-mails from a friend>here on ageless>special thanks goes out to >hunny<
who gave me a bit of support.:)
among others as well......
My Y.M. and I thought it over, and talked about it, for awhile before we made our decition.
I think my feet were colder then his when it came down to it. we talked online every day til the day came when i said (YES you can move in with me) it was a big step for me. I wasnt sure if either one of us were ready for this yet.
so far everything has been going smooth, he and my son, (who btw is 15, and my b/f is 18) have gotten along more like brothers. Things with them are kosher, but here is the kicker..........Still no one knows about our relationship.believe it or not......its been 8 months, since we met, and he's moved in for 3. he is room mating with my son, so they have thier own rooms......hes looking for his first job, and plans to save for collage. sometimes we still have our time alone.........we go for drives, or curl up to a movie when we have the house to ourselves. we havnt told a singel person about us yet, though, I don't think we are quite prepared for it .I'm sure we will when the time is rite. we are both sorta trying to get our lives together first, i supose....time will tell.

"I think my feet were colder then his when it came down to it. we talked online every day til the day came when i said (YES you can move in with me) it was a big step for me. I wasnt sure if either one of us were ready for this yet.
so far everything has been going smooth, he and my son, (who btw is 15, and my b/f is 18) have gotten along more like brothers."

--- Ladie_Fair

Super news!!

I always thought y'all could do it and things would be
fine. There is still time for problems to pop up (like in
any relationship), but I am really glad to hear that it is
"so far, so good."

It's great that your household is peaceful and your son
and boyfriend get along. I know that was a big worry.

Thirteen years is not a huge gap; I would call it a
medium age gap. :)

Good luck with letting the rest of the family know! ;)

Best Wishes,

Harrison

:D*WAVES Hi Harrison, sorry that i didnt get back to you in the pm ,Glad you liked the responce to your update request. and thank you for your support, it really helps. I have been a bit swamped with moving, yes, we all got a larger place......the only one who knows anything at all is my son, who says* mom it's just natural* wow, how did he get so smart? and when? any way things are harmony at the moment, geuss thats why we havent told. I like things the way they are. I don't need any publicity....lol...He met my parents last week end, but they just think he is a room mate...:rolleyes: My mother did make a comment that he should find himself a g/f before he falls for me..
.:( . and I have met his mom, she is only about 9 or 10 years older then me, she is seems nice, she is also unsuspecting, for now.:D hehe......any way..........Im ready to take what ever you all have to throw at me.....:) So bring it......if you'd like.......:D :rolleyes: cuz im prepared

Ladie Fair I am NOT going to say "Just come out and tell everyone"
I think, that in time, it will slowly grow on everyone.........
Slowly with time people will say, "I knew you 2 were right for each other" Or "I knew you 2 had something going"
Lady, remember for now, this is between YOU AND HIM, and of course your son who knows, but this is your thing, when you feel the time is right for people to know, than the TIME IS RIGHT.....
There really is no rush for the "world" to know, in time, if everything works out, it will come out, and it will be as natural as the rain on a rainy night, or the sun on a beautiful day. It will work out in time.....
Peace
~Tammy

*WAVES Hi Harrison, sorry that i didnt get back to you in the pm ,Glad you liked the responce to your update request. and thank you for your support, it really helps.

Sure, you're welcome. A lot of the time I piss people
off, so I'm glad I can make someone happy. :) :D

I don't have anything to "throw" at you except to say
that your Mom maybe a little wiser than you think,
judging from her comment. In my opinion, it is
unusual for an unmarried man and woman to be
housemates and not have something "going on."

If I were your Mom and heard you say "Ma, he's my
housemate," I would think "Yeah, right!"

LOL :D

Not criticizing you; just saying don't think you're
fooling Mom. ;) Moms know this kinda stuff; they've
been around a while. Remember, they had to hook
up with our Dads somehow! :p

Im ready to take what ever you all have to throw at me..... So bring it......if you'd like....... cuz im prepared

Okay, since no one else is, I'll ask:

What if you have a long-term relationship or a marriage,
and then at age 24 he wants to have a kid?

Are you up for being a Mom again at age 37? ;)

Oh Harrison, that's one of the risks in any relationship. What if he married a girl his own age and wanted a kid and found out she was infertile?
When you marry someone, you marry them, not their breeding capacity. If that's the most important thing, better go have all the fertility workups done before announcing the engagement.
Its something couples of any age need to discuss and plan before they get married, or commit, but it shouldn't call off the game in a healthy loving relationship.
Like my David said when we talked about it, "what if I decided I wanted a baby, and I left you because of it, and I either never found someone, or I found someone else who couldn't. I wouldn't have a baby, and I wouldn't have you either. Right now I have you, and that's the main thing."
Ladie, you take it as slowly as you need to, but I wouldn't lie, if someone, well, someone who's business it is, asks. I agree, Mom could probably tell something was up, and your guy's feelings obviously show. Family could be more upset over being lied to, than a secret kept.
Luck to you, and hugs.

(I think, that in time, it will slowly grow on everyone.........
Slowly with time people will say, "I knew you 2 were right for each other" Or "I knew you 2 had something going")
humm, well, snow princess, my son has already said that....There really is no rush for the "world" to know, ) what a relief for that.

it will be as natural as the rain on a rainy night, or the sun on a beautiful day.) wow how did you know? it already feels thatway to me.
:rolleyes:

What if you have a long-term relationship or a marriage,
and then at age 24 he wants to have a kid?




Hummmmmm, well.............good question harrison...
Let me see, If we accually went as far into our relationship as to get married, then, he asked me this, YES of corse id consider this for the man i loved...........he told me that he doesnt care about that, he only cares about me...........(what a sweetty)
hummmmmmm but i wonder though, has anyone from ageless had a baby from an age gap relationship????? that would be intersting to hear.please post.....

Thank you Bella. This gives me something to keep in mind....
:)

Maggs, where are you?
One of our members had a baby with her ym. He was, umm, let me think, about 23? and she was late thirties? Someone correct me if I'm wrong.
He's a great daddy, the only time they had trouble was with a nasty teacher at her daughter's pre-school. But you could get that anywhere, for anything, age-gap or not.
Try emailing her, I'm not sure she's around here much anymore.
We've discussed it, I could still, my last baby was born when I was 39 after a tubal reversal. But I don't know that I could do it anymore, just because I've spent my life since age 19 parenting, and looking at 20 more years doesn't sound so appealing to me.
I totally love my daughter, though, don't get me wrong. And if the Great Spirit decided to play some hilarious menopausal joke on me, I'd deal with it.

A very close friend of mine was married for 5 years to a guy her age (both in their early 30s), they divorced each other about 6 years ago, Reason for divorce?,.....Well they loved each other very much but she wanted children and he didnt, NEVER he said.
Because he loved her so much he thought of letting her go and find someone that will give her the childrens that she so desperately wanted. After a year of being divorced they met other partners and married again.
3 years now in the new marriage and she was told by several different doctors that she can not get pregnant EVER, she even tried In Vitro fertilization without success. so now she gave up hope and bought a little puppy.
Him...her ex husband has a baby boy now with his second wife!!
HOW IS THAT???
Is it fate?
Life works in a very mysterious way sometimes:confused:
Adri

WoW adri, what a story, so i geuss what bella had to say rings true, you should never pick your partner, for breeding purpuses...pick them for Love.....
Bella? was it very exspensive for your reversal? and how long after the reversal did you get pregnent?
BTW .......Im 31 he is 18.....:eek:

Yah, really expensive. It was right at $12,000 for it. She's worth every penny, though.
We'd kind of gotten messed with by the insurance company actually, the doctor and the hospital had both done a precertification, the insurance co had authorized and paid for the surgery, then changed. So it was done, and not paid for after all. The doctor and the hospital both had to refund, due to that little clause that says "precertification does not guarantee payment."
Oh well.
It's about a four hour micro-surgery. The incision was hipbone to hipbone. I think now they can do it laparoscopically though. One of my tubes is only 3cm long, and the other is 1 1/2 cm. I got pregnant on the shorter one, both times actually. I miscarried first, then two months later, bam. They made me wait three months after the surgery, pregnant the first month, then two more after the miscarriage, then pregnant again right away.
Hence the reason I got my tubes tied in the first place....
My ex had had a vasectomy, one of my conditions for the reversal if it worked. Now, I'm on the pill.
Not all tubals are reversable, it depends on how they did it. Some doctors do what is called a fimbriectomy, where they remove the whole end of the tube. That's not reversable. If it was cauterized, it's harder to reverse too. The easiest one to reverse is a simple ligation. Unfortunately most doctors don't do those these days, as those are the ones the ends tend to regrow if it's going to happen. If you had a tubal, you can request the report of operation from the hospital, and that'll tell you more.

"its been 8 months, since we met, and he's moved in for 3. he is room mating with my son, so they have thier own rooms......"

Could you clarify that situation a bit? I'm confused - why isn't he sleeping in your room, with you, if you're dating and living together?

As far as what others think, I wouldn't worry too much about it. People are going to think and say what they want to - you have no control over that. If they have a problem with your age gap - it's THEIR problem, not yours!

Congrats!

- Jesse

Hi Ladie!!

I am so glad you are doing well, and you are all together. so glad to get an update, cause I suspected you were busy.

Im five months along in my pregnancy. My YM will be turning 21 in a few days, and he is excited. So he will finaly be an adult, (well, by legal drinking standards) and have his first child with me. In october we will be married.

I always considered him an adult though, since I met him when he was 19. So I cant wait when you and your YM will show the world you are a couple. Dont worry about the reaction. It is always a surprise at first, then people get used to it.

Well, I am so happy your doing well, please update me again.

Hunny

Originally posted by Ladie_Fair
(I think, that in time, it will slowly grow on everyone.........
Slowly with time people will say, "I knew you 2 were right for each other" Or "I knew you 2 had something going")
humm, well, snow princess, my son has already said that....There really is no rush for the "world" to know, ) what a relief for that.

it will be as natural as the rain on a rainy night, or the sun on a beautiful day.) wow how did you know? it already feels thatway to me.
:rolleyes:

Did I miss something with the eyerolling?:confused: