manofmisteree
07-26-2003, 07:07 AM
I wrote the exact same think in the thread entitled "What you have about the opposite gender" but for those who don't read the chit chat section much i thought this post belonged here as well. So hopefully this will help me to find out if i'm somewhat adequate in my thinking.
somehow the thread talked about 14 in getting involved in things like drugs, sex, alcohol. I've edit this a few times but it's 4am here so something of this might not make sense.
so here goes:
Hmmm....Having sex, drinking, doing drugs at 14 i think is ridiculous cause you dont yet have the mindset of an adult. shoot, adults at adult age dont have the mindset of an adult. It's tough because at that age you want to start "acting cool" and engage more adult like things. I remember at 10, (yes, ten) some school friends had a tree house where they would smoke. Luckily i've have "SAY NO TO SMOKING" drilled into my head and i've had caring parents. So in an attempt to blend in with my friends, i pretended to take a puff and pretended to cough, thinks that may happened to a first-time smoker. Peer pressure is a very difficult thing to avoid. Sort of like "if you can't beat them, join them...or make THINK you're joining them." Luckily even at that age i realized that they were heading down that wrong path so little by little i did away with contact with those "friends." If their smoking regularly at that age they must've had emotional/psychological problems anyway. I'll admit though that i've done my share of expirementing with drinking and smoking but that was after i was at least 18. (i know, only a year ago, lol.) Haven't most of us though? (yes, i know that isn't an excuse...but again the peer-pressure thing) i rememeber the most adult thing i think i did at that at 14 was seeing a porno for i thinkg the first time. i remember feeling adult-like and intrigued by the porno. Ok, so we're all little young horn-balls. isn't that the age where the hormones start kicking in?
another huge risk, is ow dating ym. I think around each ten years you start to act differently. I'm 19 now, but i know i wont act or think the same way in 29. You probably didn't think and act the same way at 10, then 20, then 30. Although i think at 30-50 the thoughts and actions of people start to stabilize, i'm not there yes...so maybe not. it's hard to know whether us ym truely do lovely a ow and want to spend eternity with them or if it's a long lasting infatuation that dies-out. sometimes insane hormones make us say things that might harms the opposite unintentionally. might not have a big effect on the ym but might have a long lasting effect on the ow. i've seen these quite a few times since i've joined ageless. I think this is why i dont really try to make relationships at this age, just friends. There's no telling how i'll think of a person in about a month or so. Though, in that retrospect, there HAVE been success stories regarding ym staying with ow till they've reached geriatric age. So there are some lucky couples. Perhaps those successful stories are of old souls born in a younger mans body. Like all relationships, agegap or not agegap you just have take a risk hoping it turns out for the better, i guess.
by the way, as i mentioned in another thread i'm in one of those rare contemplative moods where i feeling like posting like crazy. So i've i sound like a 40 year old don't be fooled. I still love to act like a 12 year old at times.
if any of you think i'm wrong about this please tell me so, because who knows, maybe i am. you never stop learning from your elders.
okay...i think i feel the mood of contemplation waring up so i'll do you people a favor and probably shut up soon.
somehow the thread talked about 14 in getting involved in things like drugs, sex, alcohol. I've edit this a few times but it's 4am here so something of this might not make sense.
so here goes:
Hmmm....Having sex, drinking, doing drugs at 14 i think is ridiculous cause you dont yet have the mindset of an adult. shoot, adults at adult age dont have the mindset of an adult. It's tough because at that age you want to start "acting cool" and engage more adult like things. I remember at 10, (yes, ten) some school friends had a tree house where they would smoke. Luckily i've have "SAY NO TO SMOKING" drilled into my head and i've had caring parents. So in an attempt to blend in with my friends, i pretended to take a puff and pretended to cough, thinks that may happened to a first-time smoker. Peer pressure is a very difficult thing to avoid. Sort of like "if you can't beat them, join them...or make THINK you're joining them." Luckily even at that age i realized that they were heading down that wrong path so little by little i did away with contact with those "friends." If their smoking regularly at that age they must've had emotional/psychological problems anyway. I'll admit though that i've done my share of expirementing with drinking and smoking but that was after i was at least 18. (i know, only a year ago, lol.) Haven't most of us though? (yes, i know that isn't an excuse...but again the peer-pressure thing) i rememeber the most adult thing i think i did at that at 14 was seeing a porno for i thinkg the first time. i remember feeling adult-like and intrigued by the porno. Ok, so we're all little young horn-balls. isn't that the age where the hormones start kicking in?
another huge risk, is ow dating ym. I think around each ten years you start to act differently. I'm 19 now, but i know i wont act or think the same way in 29. You probably didn't think and act the same way at 10, then 20, then 30. Although i think at 30-50 the thoughts and actions of people start to stabilize, i'm not there yes...so maybe not. it's hard to know whether us ym truely do lovely a ow and want to spend eternity with them or if it's a long lasting infatuation that dies-out. sometimes insane hormones make us say things that might harms the opposite unintentionally. might not have a big effect on the ym but might have a long lasting effect on the ow. i've seen these quite a few times since i've joined ageless. I think this is why i dont really try to make relationships at this age, just friends. There's no telling how i'll think of a person in about a month or so. Though, in that retrospect, there HAVE been success stories regarding ym staying with ow till they've reached geriatric age. So there are some lucky couples. Perhaps those successful stories are of old souls born in a younger mans body. Like all relationships, agegap or not agegap you just have take a risk hoping it turns out for the better, i guess.
by the way, as i mentioned in another thread i'm in one of those rare contemplative moods where i feeling like posting like crazy. So i've i sound like a 40 year old don't be fooled. I still love to act like a 12 year old at times.
if any of you think i'm wrong about this please tell me so, because who knows, maybe i am. you never stop learning from your elders.
okay...i think i feel the mood of contemplation waring up so i'll do you people a favor and probably shut up soon.