Hit The Jackpot!

OK, I thought I was really going overboard in '99 when I met Mr. Fabulous thru the internet in Sept. while I was in VA. We talked for a couple of months non-stop (he had a whopping phone bill) until he convinced me to visit him in Key West Fl on 12/31 for about at week at his expense. He was 35 me, 51. We made love once, New Years Eve, 1999. Kept in touch. He got the job he wanted as a pilot and will be buying a house. We are now both in Calif. He in San Fran, me in LA. He says he is coming here, soon and wants to resume.

BEFORE this, I met another Navy man ,41, on the internet who insisted on driving 2 LA for a date. I told him about #1, he said if we were not exclusive, one date would not matter. OK, I'm lonely and unsure of #1. Even took a bodyguard. We all had a blast. His ship is out until Aug 8 and he wants me to come to visit him in SD when he returns. He took a long time to say this after the date. Soooo,

Met met Mr. Mannish, 24, Exec/Mgr. in DC. Will be moving to LA but wants to talk to me for the next couple of months about an exclusive relationship. Told him about the other 2. He says he'll take his chances.

I like them all! But of course my mind is going crazy and am really embarrassed about Exec/Mgr's age but he is as mature as the others. I want #1 the most, will take #2, but #3 is exciting me...I'm going crazy!:rolleyes: :confused:

No ...You are just having fun!!
Enjoy it while it last.
Adri:cool:

Date all three! Until one of them wants you to be exclusive, and you agree, you're free to do whatever whenever, and it's none of their business what you do and with whom! Enjoy yourself, shop around, stop to try things on and find the best fit! :)

Originally posted by Adri
No ...You are just having fun!!
Enjoy it while it last.
Adri:cool:

Thanks! Either Feast or Famine! :) :(

We hope its feast;)
Adri

Originally posted by Polly
Date all three! Until one of them wants you to be exclusive, and you agree, you're free to do whatever whenever, and it's none of their business what you do and with whom! Enjoy yourself, shop around, stop to try things on and find the best fit! :)

It's the "AND YOU AGREE" segment that I really need to listen to. Thanks... I needed the support!

You've given the impression that you <b>have</b> to choose one of the three. Why make that your goal? It could end up confusing the results. Date, date, date.

But let me preface that by saying that <b><i>for me</b></i>, dating does not mean intimacy. Dating is exploration, learning about each other, and having fun. It should be the way you decide who is to be eliminated and who has won the prize of moving to the next level. Once you choose to get naked, you should be thinking about exclusivity. If one puts pressure on you to be the one and only, and particularly if you're not ready -- give 'em the boot! :)

I also don't think that you have an obligation (as long as you are not being intimate) to inform one about the other. By doing so, you've made it a competition and you will never truely know if it is you they want, or just the idea of beating out the others. Men are like that you know... :rolleyes:

Well #3/24 Y/M is somewhere on the curb in DC shouting he wants and exclusive relationship with someone who will meet him 50/50. I don't need a roomate and don't know him well enuf for the pushy conversations we are having. He wants to talk more in a couple of weeks when he is here on his business trip. Too much work for me. I'm not interested in moving ahead with him.

I'm a 2 yr celebate virgin and even that was just an encounter.

#2/41 Y/M is on a ship somewhere in the Pacific writing notes about how much fun we had on our date, wants another one, will put me in a hotel in San Diego upon his return. 'Be Good, don't forget me', and calls himself my man. We never discussed that. He is gorgeous and a gentleman I would jump his bones any day (don' t tell him), retiring from the navy in October. .

#1/38, love of my life. We made love once 12/31/1999 when he sent for me for a week in Key West, FL. It was natural, started while we were in the middle of a friendly conversation and spent the rest of the week getting to know one another really well. We didn't make love the whole week. He just kissed me gently when he went to work, did all the cookin and showed me the Keys. I thought I was too fat, he didn't like me. He said he was a gentleman and thought I didn't like him . ;) His favorite movie is Stella's Groove. Retired Navy, Autopilot for US Gov. Telling me to look for 5br/3ba house in area near base where he is moving. One of those things he mentioned when we first met. He always refers to things he said when we first met. I somehow feel I am on a list of women he is interested in but I'm afraid to ask. His favorite quote 'Have I ever lied to you?" He knows me well, and I will do anything for him. Six feet tall and the best kisser I have had in my entire life.

Either way, my body is starting to win the fight over mind and morals. I'm in a first come position and don't want anyone to get hurt (especially me). You are right about men and competition. When they stand outside a ***** house with their money in their hands they don't care who just left or who is going in next.;)

I was married twice, total of 26 yrs. 2nd husband was 11 yrs younger... he 23, me, 34. We lasted 14 yrs. It was great. No hard feelings I want to dramatize at this time. I haven't been intimately busy with anyone just because I don't have to. I love having choices and celebacy gives me more than I need. I was always attracted to older men until my 2nd husband. Age is just a number to me but for some reason I don't get along with men in their late 40's and above. I'm too fiesty and independent.

I just started feeling that I want to get serious with someone since #1 has taken so long to get back to me. He says he thought I would be taken by now. The time he took training to be a pilot and secret agent stuff had to come first. He thinks I waited 4 him. I just said I couldn't find anyone I liked better than he. I feel like Jaimie Lee Curtis and Arnold in 'True Lies' . He's very happy about that. When I got a webcam after he asked a dozen times I saw his face when he looked at me and it told the story. It was the same face that had eyes full of tears when he put me back on the plane leaving Key West. But he is so tied up in his career I don't know if I will ever come first or any woman. He tells me there is no one else.

I never promised to be faithful... we stay in the 'don't ask don't tell' mode but he is moving closer. In the meantime... I just want sex.

Opinions PLEASE!

*sigh*

I haven't been intimately busy with anyone just because I don't have to. I love having choices and celebacy gives me more than I need.

This is a healthy attitude since you are still getting to know these men and trying to decide who is the best match for you. You can remain more objective this way.


In the meantime... I just want sex.

I think your chances are better for ending up with a good relationship if you stick with your original plan. ;)

Good Luck! :)

Originally posted by Moonshadow
This is a healthy attitude since you are still getting to know these men and trying to decide who is the best match for you. You can remain more objective this way.




I think your chances are better for ending up with a good relationship if you stick with your original plan. ;)

Good Luck! :)


The best move I've made is joining this forum. I don't get to talk to many folks about this especially my sons 31, 36 who believe any young man who wants to marry much older women have a self-esteem problem. I keep my private life to myself and if I make something exclusive they will be told. Not asked. It sure feels good up in here!