He went back to Denmark today

Hi all,

Thought Id give an update. MY love left today after a month stay with me. It was a rocky month, in the early part of the month I wondered how I could last a whole month. Today he left, and I am devastated. I didnt want to fall this much in love, and I cant stop crying since I left him at the airport. I know I should know better, I am 31 years older than he. But ............. What now? He says he will be back at Christmas or maybe I should come see him but.. that is5 months what shall I do? Gilraen ( Diana)

/hug

I can imagine how you must be feeling, I only spent one week with my YM but I am missing him badly atm, so after one month it must be really bad :(

Wish I could give some advise, but can only say, try to get together as soon as possible again, although I think the distance might be a problem there, I know :(

I am feeling for you, sorry that I don't have any solution :(

Ya I know sorry dont mean to boob to all u out there I only got home about an hour ago. I will be ok I am a big girl. Gilraen

I identify with you so much! Gilrean, I have a 22 year age diff and when we met IRL it was exactly the same! As a matter of fact...each time we meet ( LDR) it goes through the same phases. I send good thoughts your way! Thanks for posting!

((((TRU)))))

Al and Bedazzled
Thanks so much the suggestions. Yes, we play Eq online every day, when he is home, and talk live, voice, on yahoo( no phone charges haha) He wants to move here, he hinted at it several times during his stay but I didnt respond in kind. I wasnt sure til 2 days ago I should let this relationship go any further, gap is 31 years. He has health problems, I am old, whos to say who has longer to live and how long any relationship might last. I want us to continue and I know part of my grief is the fact he has just left ( 2 hours now) He is coming back for Christmas ( or I may go there) I have never been to Europe. We talked yesterday of meeting in a country neither of us has been to before, I suggested Paris but I would like to stay with him in Denmark and see if he can handle his friends seeing the reality of me, he says he can. But at this moment I just need to write and hear what this wonderful board has to say, because each of u offer something in the way of care, concern, advice and maybe even disapproval, but it is all good, thanks everyone. Gilraen

Gilraen--

I know just how you feel. My guy has been to visit me twice from Australia. We have a 22 year age gap. Each time he stayed for 3 months. The first time he left we both spent our time in each others arms crying our eyes out. He told me he sobbed for at least an hour after he boarded the plane.

I called him the moment I thought he might be back in OZ. And we spent every day sending emails and talking on the weekends. We took each day at a time. And he began planning for his second trip to come see me. It was 5 months before he would be able to come back.

Whenever I thought about that 5 months..I thought I would never be able to stand it. But the way he looked at was...each day we were apart brought us one day closer together...and before I knew it...he was on a plane back to me.

The second time he had to leave...I didn't go to the airport with him...we said our goodbyes at home. I did not want to see him get on that plane. We both cried and held each other the last hour before the shuttle came to get him...

He has been gone for almost 4 months now and we email every day....he calls me on Friday and Saturday mornings....and every once in a while he surprises me with a call from work... And we plan for his return

LDR's are very difficult...but hold on to the memories of being together...and begin to paln for your next reunion....and keep romance alive! Send love letters...sometimes sexy ones...snail mail letters and little trinkets to each other...visit sites together online...we have visited museums and stuff like that online....like having a cyber date....

Cry when you miss him...laugh with him when you are voice chatting...and love him with all your heart...and know the separations are only temporary in the long run...if you choose to spend your life together...

~hugs~

BLECH
the leavings suck.
If we have a time we're feeling snappy with each other, one way to get over it is to talk about how it felt every time one of us left.
He still gets nauseous at the airport because of it, even when we're just going on vacation.
It makes the apartness more bitter, knowing the difference.
I'm glad you want more, now comes the working through the distance.
In some ways its good communications training though. We still do some of our best communication by writing or on the phone.
Hang in there.

, I suggested Paris but I would like to stay with him in Denmark and see if he can handle his friends seeing the reality of me, he says he can.


This is very brave on your part. I have often wondered what I would do in a similar situation, and have thought that I might not have the nerve to intrude on his world where I could be a source of embarrassment. But I think your attitude is much healthier. You recognize that there are no guarantees in life and yet are willing to risk for your newfound happiness. I admire you for that. And I wish you all the very best.

Gilraen, first of all hugs,
When King first came here to visit, my middle son 14 and me drove him back to the airport, I kinda felt relevied, it was a long 10 days, we didn't talk much in the truck until I missed the exit and jumped a curb to get to it and my son said " Were from the country" lol that was so funny!
Anyway we had to hurry when I dropped him off and he reached in his pocket and gave me his Rosary, and we had but a sec cuz the cops were moving vehicles outta there and I had to drive away, and my son looked in the back window and said "Oh ma, he looks so sad"
And we all felt sad......
and I guess this probably isn;t cheering you up :( sorry!
It will work out Gilraen. Hope you feel good soon :)

And MOONSHADOW!!!!! You could never be a source of embarrassment to your man, you are so beautiful and smart, so quit it!!!!!

*sigh*...hugz

thanks all for ur lovely words of support. He got back home today and is in Denmark again. He is as sad as I. but he says we will be together again soon. It feels good to be able to speak with him live and hear his voice. Gilraen

And when they arrive, You read them 10 times, you see the calligraphy, etc.

You read them 20 times and you gently touch the ink with your finger and it makes you happy to think his very hand wrote these words just for you.

Thank you, Snow. :)

Reading your post made me so sad that I shed a tear myself. Lots of good advice has already been offered, so I'll just wish you the best. Never let go of your dreams. :)