Honeymoon Phase?

How long do you think the "Honeymoon Phase" normally lasts? I'm just kind of curious what others have heard.

I think it can be anywhere from 6 months to 2 years... what does everyone else think?

Great question! Let's see, my YM and I have been together 16 months and knew eachother for 6 years before that. The honeymoon is still going on......but in past relationships the honeymoon would last no more than a year at best.

BTW - this is my first post, although I have been hanging around for a couple of months. This is a fantastic forum, and I'm very grateful to have found it.

Welcome, Happy D, and thanks for your response! That's so great that things are still going so well for you after 16 months!

:)

so far almost 3 years?

Same as Bella, almost 3 years now and going strong! Actually, it is getting more intense all the time. Never thought I'd believe it.

I believe the honeymoon phase depends on the couple, some peoples honeymoon never ends well into many many years of being together, others it can fizzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzle in a matter of months, even days? lol :)

Right there with you Midnight
Adri

How long do you think the "Honeymoon Phase" normally lasts?


I guess that would depend on the couple.some couples never have the "honeymoon phase",some have it and once it's over,so is the relationship.

my husband and me are in the "best friend phase",but then again we were friends for a long time before we ever dated.so we have stayed friends,lovers,partners and a "team" as he say's.

real life issues have a way of getting in the way of the "honeymoon phase" sometimes,but no matter what we have a way of staying "best friends",which is the most important thing to me:) :)

We just celebrated our fourth anniversary yesterday!!! Honeymoon phase is not only still going strong, it's better than ever! My best advice for prolonged honeymoon phase...NEVER stop dating! Never stop courting eachother. I'm a romantic at heart, so I NEED romance. I believe Robin does too. We both do things to make the other feel special, just like when we were dating before we lived together. Another tidbit? COMMUNICATION! Never stop talking about anything and everything. Be a great listener. Focus on what he's saying, and give feedback. This shows him that you care and makes him feel valued and worthy. In my opinion, the honeymoon phase can last as long as the relationship, 75 years or more! :)

In this relationship, I would define the honeymoon phase as the 2 1/2 years that we didn't fight :>

Totally bewildering to me as my marriage
had been a fiery relationship for the ten years we were together, and in this new relationship - we just didn't fight.

Finally, we had a scrap over parking places while in the car and I felt like we crossed over to a real relationship from our little idyll - and I was happy :>

We still don't fight much, but we manage a cross word every once in a while, so I don't freak out :>

Originally posted by nafadda
real life issues have a way of getting in the way of the "honeymoon phase" sometimes,but no matter what we have a way of staying "best friends",which is the most important thing to me:) :)

I like this idea. Could you share some tips on how a man and a woman become "best friends"? I always have trouble being friends with guys. :eek:

Originally posted by whisper
Same as Bella, almost 3 years now and going strong! Actually, it is getting more intense all the time. Never thought I'd believe it.

Question for bella, whisper and other members:
:rolleyes:
How do you and your man keep your "honeymoon" phases going? I dated a few times before. I think seeing each other too often will kill the intensity, even though sometimes it's hard to resist seeing each other. Also living together wasn't a good thing for my relationships. Normally I myself can keep it going for about a year at most.

[mqt]I like this idea. Could you share some tips on how a man and a woman become "best friends"? I always have trouble being friends with guys. [/QUOTE]

yes,I sure can...I'm a little pressed for time this AM.I have get to work.....but I will be back later and tell you.

My hubby and I have been married almost 3 years and the honeymoon is still going on. We seem to never get enough of each other. All of our time is spent together except for when he is at work or of course when he is deployed. ( like right now) It seems that time just makes us want and love each other more. He is truely my soul mate.

Hey, mgt! I'm best friends with my ym too. The way to be best friends with your man, is first of all, to be involved with someone who has a lot in common with you. Second of all, to be with someone who is really trustworthy, someone you can tell anything to and he'll still love you. Thirdly, someone you adore and want to make happy, and he feels the same way. I mean, those are the requirements I have for girlfriends, so why wouldn't I have them for the man I choose to be with? I obviously don't love my girlfriends the same as I love my man, but the principles are the same. :)

ok mqt,told you I'd get back to you........first off,we were friends before we ever dated,we knew each other for years,and we REALLY just liked each other during that time...friends,just friends that REALLY enjoyed seeing and talking to each other.that was for starters and made it easy to become BEST friends when we fell in love.I mean we liked each other as "people" and we REALLY knew each other at that point.

we LOVE doing stuff together.I mean given the chance to "hang out" with anyone we know,we would choose to hang out together.that's because we have more fun together then we do apart...we get asked to go do things with other people alot,and if we both want to go,we go.we hate going without the other one,because it's just not as fun...like something is missing.

we both can REALLY be ourselves with eachother,whether it's just us or we are with other people,no front's,no trying too hard,just a comfortable feeling...

we are a team,like as in partners.we both enjoy the life we made.we don't need anyone else to make us feel "complete",sure we have alot of friends and know alot of people,but there is nothing or no one that can ever come in between us,because as I said,we are best friends and best friends truely care about how the other one feels.

we don't play games,we're not jealous or envious ,we are just really thankful for what we have and LOVE doing stuff TOGETHER.

maybe we are like this because we were friends first and it turned to love,I don't really know,but I HIGHLY recommend falling in love with a friend ,it worked for us.I'm glad I noticed the guy that had been in front of me all along...well ,as I said:


"real life issues have a way of getting in the way of the "honeymoon phase" sometimes,but no matter what we have a way of staying "best friends",which is the most important thing to me "


so whether we are still in a honeymoon phase ,I don't know,but we are in love .

6 months after dating. 12 months after marriage/living together. That should about cover it.:D ;)

Originally posted by nafadda
I mean we liked each other as "people" and we REALLY knew each other at that point.
It is really wonderful! I guess my problem is I was brought up in girl schools. So, I really do not know how to be friends with guys. I do have two guy friends but there are no sparks at all.
Originally posted by nafadda
if we both want to go,we go.we hate going without the other one,because it's just not as fun...like something is missing.
You guys must be a pair of cute couple. : )
Originally posted by nafadda
we don't play games,we're not jealous or envious
... but sacredly trustful
Originally posted by nafadda
but I HIGHLY recommend falling in love with a friend ,it worked for us.I'm glad I noticed the guy that had been in front of me all along...
So... did he ever have any girlfriend before you guys fell in love, but after you knew each other?
Originally posted by nafadda
whether we are still in a honeymoon phase ,I don't know,but we are in love .
BEAUTIFUL... really... please let your other half know how much I admire your team. I wish you loving each other ever after.

Thank you, nafadda... :)

you are so sweet mqt.....and once again I will get back to you later today....I have to take my cadaver dog's out on a run today.:)

your post made my day.thank you:)

I will be back on later to respond to your post.

ok mqt,told you I'd get back to this,and again thanks for the nice stuff you said in your post...and I did read it to my husband and he said the same thing,"how sweet and that you sound like a really nice person":)

as far as this goes:I really do not know how to be friends with guys.

well first off I would suggest to just be yourself,do not "try" too hard....guy's can tell when a woman is comfortable with herself and it's easier to be friends with one that is....and one thing I did was to NEVER take myself too seriously ,I mean,I tried to keep things light and have fun.I had way more guy friends then woman friends,and yes they were "just friends"...be fun to be around and they'll want to be friends with you.worked for me:)

You guys must be a pair of cute couple

well,I like to think we are;)

sacredly trustful

we have a great level of trust with eachother...my husband works around lot's of pretty woman and it doesn't bother me at all....total trust.

So... did he ever have any girlfriend before you guys fell in love, but after you knew each other?

oh yea,he and I both had other relationships when we were just friends...2 for him and 2 for me.we each had a long term one and we each had a shorter term one and then I just didn't want to date for awhile and him and I continued our friendship and I wasn't even thinking about dating him and then it just "HIT" me...someone asked me who the cute guy that would stop by and see me at work was and I said"a friend of mine" and then I looked at him,I mean for the very first time I LOOKED at him,and I thought why hadn't I ever thought of him as more then a friend,he had asked me out twice,I said I couldn't go,he was sooo cute and sooo nice and then I realized that the kind hearted guy that I had been looking for my whole life had been right in front of me...just like a movie.....:) :)

well there you have it mqt,that's why I recommend being friends.

:p Thank you.

U R welcome mqt...and I did get the email and responded to it,hope you got it and it helps:)

I grew up in a heavily populated "female" family so for a long time I thought men were strange creatures just to date not to be "friend'.

I was also TOO aware that I was with a guy and found it hard to be myself. Then I read... "Pretend this is a female that you are with". I did that at first, and it really helped to bring men in my mind back to being just people.

It did not take too long that I started making male friends and I took them off the pedestal. I thought that maybe that little "mind" trick might help. Good luck!

yellowrose, that's a great idea!! Treat them as women.

Originally posted by mqt
yellowrose, that's a great idea!! Treat them as women.

i disagree...can we say:
1. kiss of death
2. friend zone
3. i like you but i dont want to have sex with you.
4. I see you as my brother

;) :D :p

Originally posted by youngguy914
i disagree...can we say:
1. kiss of death
2. friend zone
3. i like you but i dont want to have sex with you.
4. I see you as my brother

;) :D :p

:) These are witty ideas, youngguy914.
I guess yellowrose and I were really talking about how to be ourselves in front of guys, given that some girls are not brought up in a co-ed environment. Some girls just don't know how to make *friends* with guys.