How far is too far?

My questions for all of you is ...

How far would you travel to meet an interesting YW or OM?

Assuming you made a long trip and hit it off, What changes would you make in your life to make a relationship work?

Thanks

GF

Here's why:
I don't think I would consciously seek out a relationship at this stage of my life (and I mean the 27 years old stage, not the desperately in love with a man who won't have a child with me stage), with an OM, or any man for that matter. I guess I would rather just have it happen naturally, and in person. At the same time, I can certainly imagine a situation where it would be possible for a person to "meet" someone on the internet or something, feel some kind of connection, and want to meet. If it were me, I just don't think I would want to go way out of my way to find out that it was all smoke and mirrors, or to start a long distance relationship, when there are probably 1000s of eligible men right in my area, some of which I might find interesting, and vice versa.

Sorry to rain on your parade there Gray. I didn't intend to.
I should point out that I would travel to the ends of the earth for someone I love. But not just for someone interesting.

Emmie

Hi GF:

I don't think I would feel comfortable travelling to meet a man I'd never met before. Safety issues and steel magnolia upbringing

:D

If I were a man, tho, I would certainly consider traveling anywhere on the (N.A.) continent to meet someone if I were really really interested.

As far as rearranging my life.... well, he'd have to have a very good career for me to do that because I have an established career here and I enjoy the lifestyle it affords me.

Hm. I feel uppity tonight
:D

Good point morag_phin.
I left out the whole psycho internet stalker possibility. You're right.

OK Ladies....Now my feelings are hurt....

GF

So, we all know that our population has a small percentage of sociopaths wandering around in our midst. We're not saying YOU'RE one of them!

I travelled to London a few years ago to meet someone I had met online. He was great! Nothing came of it, but we remained good friends.

My fiance has travelled to the United States from Australia twice to see me within the past year. We also met online over 2 1/2 years ago.

G-fox, are you a sociopath? :o

:)

See what happens when that seed gets planted.....Emmie, Morag...

Can you come up with a sociopath detector test????

My reputation.................

LOL

GF

OK GF: I hereby declare you a normaliopath :D

The furthest that I've ever driven to meet a YW was about 375 miles and it was a 6-7 hour drive. Was it worth it? Definately so. To this day, we're still friends.:)

My husband and I lived 3 1/2 hours apart for almost 5 years. We typically saw each other twice a month. Ultimately, he relocated to where I live and we are now living happily ever after.

I was 2 1/2 hours away from my Ex for over a year, including six months after we were married while we waited for his military orders to move us out of state. That was tough, especially since I was doing most of the driving and we saw each other every weekend. That much travelling takes a toll on you.

Growing up in Texas it's pretty normal to drive a lot though, maybe more so than in other states. I've gotten used to travelling a few hours for outdoor activities, festivals, and things like that. If I'm willing to drive three hours for an Oktoberfest, I'd better be willing to do it for someone I love, right? :D

Plus it helps that SomeNight lives near my hometown. If he was three hours in the other direction it might be harder to see him as often because then I'd have to choose between seeing him and seeing my family. I'm definitely hoping to keep the long distance part of our relationship as short as possible, though we've still got the logistics of my grad school to work out. But I'll be out of school (for now) in May and we'll be able to live like normal people then. :D

i met my last bf locally, but he moved 1500 miles away within days. maybe that was part of the appeal. i don't really know at this point, now that it's been over for a few months. we only saw each other 4 times, and one of them was to see each other after we broke up, since we had earlier agreed to see each other one last time if we ever broke up, just to make sure we really didn't want to be together. i was sure.

i'm glad i took that chance, it was overall a positive experience, until it wasn't. but i doubt i would do anything like that again, unless it was for someone i had been with for a while.