Hazelnut
08-27-2003, 01:40 PM
Hi all,
Been lurking for a week or so, finally joined up and thought I'd say hi. I'm a 24-year old graduate student living in central NY, and I recently started "dating" a 42-year old acquaintance (who just moved from 45 minutes' to three hours' drive away -- how's that for timing? :( ) I've known him socially through the Society for Creative Anachronism (www.sca.org) for close to three years and was always a little interested, but intimidated by the age gap. Anyway, we were hanging out on vacation three weeks ago (www.pennsic.net), and he asked the question (well, said he wanted to ask a question, then kissed me, actually), and I realized I just didn't want to say no ... so here I am. I'll probably get to fussing on the support board at some point, but that can wait. So, um, howdy!
SilverMermaid
08-27-2003, 02:08 PM
We look forward to your fussing away. Sometimes it's healthy to get it out of your system.
I think it's great when people meet through a common interest like that. How did you become involved in the anachronism society?
EMCAD80
08-27-2003, 04:41 PM
Welcome Hazelnut!
We're always happy to see new people signing up! Glad you decided to join and emerge from the darkness :)
SUSAN203
08-28-2003, 09:58 AM
Welcome Hazelnut-we're in NY too-right now Westchester County and as of next week Putnam County. I'm 31, he's 61. We've been together 6.5 years and were married in May.
EMCAD80
08-28-2003, 11:36 AM
NY folk~
were you guys in the middle of that black out!?!
SUSAN203
08-28-2003, 02:18 PM
Yup we were-for 26 hours! HAd a good time with the neighbors though-we all brought food over and we BBQed at one house. It was pretty aggravating but when I saw how some people were stranded in NYC and slept on the sidewalks, I didn't feel so bad!
EMCAD80
08-28-2003, 02:39 PM
Poor NY...so much has happened to you guys....in such a short amount of time :(
Hazelnut
08-30-2003, 02:03 PM
I'm all the way over in Ithaca. The power didn't go out at Pennsic, so I missed the blackout entirely.
To answer SilverMermaid's question, I got involved in the SCA in college when a friend of some friends set up a group on campus our freshman year. I didn't start playing until the end of the spring semester that year, so it's been just over six years now. While it's wonderful to meet through a common hobby, it does have the possible disadvantage, in common with college dating, of lack of privacy: we know enough of the same people that there's no keeping the relationship quiet for long. (See my new thread for concerns there).
Then again, OM/YW and other "nontraditional" relationships are relatively common within the Society, so maybe that's actually a plus. Flirting is considered something of an art form, and it's not at all uncommon to discover that the courtly gentleman across the campfire is actually quite happily married. (The flip side is that, happily married or not, his intentions may still be serious, and his wife may or may not mind! Things can get ... interesting.)
SilverMermaid
08-31-2003, 11:51 AM
Your hobby sounds like great fun, Hazelnut. I'm waiting to see what people have to say to your new thread about reactions of friends and family, as I'm in a similar stage in my relationship (he's wanting to go very slowly) and I haven't told many people yet. My guy friend and I are in a performing arts field, also an area in which non-traditional relationships are quite common. He's about 22 years older than I am, and so far people who have observed our developing interest in each other have been mostly amused.
Best of luck in telling your mutual friends as your relationship progresses!;)
