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Hi all,

I am so glad I have found this place, you guys seem great! I am 39 years old and from Boston...and I ALWAYS date younger men! I do have issues with that however, which I will discuss when I have more time. I am enjoying reading all of your posts! I am not too familiar with this place YET, and am trying to get used to it.
I never knew there were so many ym/ow out there!
Well I just wanted to introduce myself and say hello. I have one question and one statement ...

How do you post a photo here?
and DAMN that just_Brian is hot! Whew!

Sorry Brian , couldn't resist. I apologize if you have a woman on here as well :D

Welcome to Ageless, No Spin! Hope we hear more from you. (Especially about "issues"!)

I'm 39 as well ........ for another month........:(

You can post a photo of yourself as your avatar in the User CP (I think in Edit Options?) but it will have to be no larger than 100 X 100 pixels.

There is also a member photo album; you'll find a link in the Photo Album thread in Chit Chat.

I edit photos for avatars as a side business :D ledacb@netzero.net Send me a picture and I will send it back to you with instructions.

Welcome to the board no spin...I too am a Bostonian (well, close) 34 yr old woman. You'll enjoy the company on ageless...great men & women!

ps...where do you meet guys? I've been here for one year and it's been a bit tough.

Thanks for the info!
OneTiger,
I noticed your post cheering the Red Sox! Let's see if they can win the next one!
I meet most men in the gym (where I don't want to meet them), and I refuse to date anyone from the there.
I like to go in looking awful, get sweaty, and do my thing. I really didn't want to change that, until now.(which I'll get into later)

Aside from the health clubs, I meet them everywhere, just going about my daily routine. I do not go to clubs though because I've tired of them long ago.

I am only attracted to younger men, I've noticed here that many people didn't plan on being with a younger guy, but it just happened that way. I wish it were that way with me, but it just seems as though my taste hasn't changed much since I was 28, but I'm getting older :-)

What about you? Hangin out in Watertown?

Hello Spin and welcome to the boards :)

I wasn't attracted to young men specifically before I met the YM I'm seeing now - but I think I may be a convert ;)

And as for issues - well don't get me started :rolleyes:

Oh and I'm with you re just_brian!! :D

Hi,

Yeah, that's the thing..issues, I don't have the time to type my insecure craziness that's going on! Possibly tomorrow I will. I'll have to read more posts to find out about yours!
If someone could convince me that younger men truly preferred older women, I would prob be okay...or is it just sex? Who knows, I'm sure I'll find out sure enough.

That just_brian is exactly my type!! I love that military thing, not the uniform part of it, but the younger, clean cut, in shape, hot , young babes! (sorry guys, couldn't help myself)

Younger men as a class don't necessarily prefer older women. But one younger man could be very attracted to the person that you are - just like an older man might be.

The trick is not to close off any of the options and not to discriminate on the basis of age :>

Welcome to Ageless. Yes, those YM do sort of grow on you don't they? I am not currently in a serious relationship but when I look at profiles, it is the YM that I seem to have more in common with.

More and more YM are open to dating OW. For some it is just for what they think will be hot sex (probably right :p ), others are looking for more serious relationship. I find that no different than what the OM are looking for.

Looking forward to getting to know you better....
For you: http://www.gifs.net/animate/yellowrose.gif

Welcome, No Spin. Actually, I think that I have always been attracted to younger men. I even remember being thirteen years old and having a huge crush on a boy who was ten years old. That was scandalous back then, lol. I had always just assumed that I was alone in my preference for younger guys.

Enjoy the boards No_spin, everyone is really friendly here!

yo dude hope things are Cool. Give us a shout sometime it's 07989 845328.

Welcome to the Board, No_Spin . . . post, post, post and let us get to know you better.

Originally posted by No_Spin
I love that military thing, not the uniform part of it, but the younger, clean cut, in shape, hot , young babes!

Have to agree with you on that one . . . describes my sweetie to a T . . . and no, it's not just_brian . . . i have no claims on him . . . my interest is elsewhere!! :p

Hi everyone,

Thanks for the replies. Okay, this is my issue in a looooooong nutshell.
As I've stated before, I am stuck attracted to men in their twenties, which would be fine, but I'm getting old. My age is making me very insecure, if only I were interested in men my age I would be fine. I do look good for my age and I am also a kid at heart. More about me physically. I am a fitness freak, and therefore workout 2 hours per day, everyday. The only reason I am explaining my physical appearance is because I feel that I have a 19 year olds physique, with a 39 year olds head. ha ha. I'm laughing, but it's really not funny to me.
Most people think I am one of the most confident, strongest women they have ever known and I do play the game well, but I'm not. My age is killing me and it especially bothers me when I am only attracted to young men. My face isn't bad at all, but the fine lines one tends to accumulate are really bothersome to me.
I find I'm comparing myself to 20 year old females, I'm constantly staring at the ageing process in the mirror. I cry about it at times, and now I'm making all these appointments for plastic surgery. I have appointments now scheduled and I'm petrified.
I wish I knew if these younger men are bothered by these fine lines? Perhaps they don't notice, but when I am approached by these guys, I can't even look at them directly for fear I will scare them away!! I live on a main street and when I leave my house there are always cute, young guys driving by beeping and whistling out their windows at me, that is fine from far away, but I dread the day when I have to come face to face with these guys.

I am divorced with an awesome 9 year old daughter and I stopped dating for a very long time because I felt it was more important to dedicate my time to her while she is young. Now I am interested in dating again and have found someone that I am interested in and I believe the feeling is mutual. Here's the problem...

For several days of working out (women's only section of the gym) I noticed this beautiful guy staring at me as they can look into our section, but not workout there. This guy is about 29 years old. (of course)

One day he was really staring at me, so I waved at him. He gave me a big smile and waved back. Everyday since, we would smile and wave. I'm too afraid to go out to the main part of the gym and I would feel uncomfortable approaching him there anyhow.
Now, he can see when I'm getting ready to leave the gym, so on 3 different occasions he grabbed his things and tried leaving the gym at the same time as me. (Once he had just arrived at the gym!!) I believe he wanted to take it a bit farther and meet on the way out. I'm almost positive of this. BUT... foolish, stupid me HIDES in the women's locker room for 15 minutes each time so he's long gone by the time I get out there.

I'm so afraid that if he sees me close up and figures out that I am 39 that he will lose interest. Now I am scrambling to get some type of plastic surgery done before I have to deal with him up close!! I'm such a loser! I hate spending money on myself, especially for something so superficial, but it's an obsession right now and I don't think it's going to subside.
I know he would like my personality, but that's not what one sees at first. Am I the only one like this? My friends think I'm crazy, everyone says I only look 34, but it's still not like looking 24!! I hate getting old!

I'm not really worried about guys being bothered by me having a child, because I would never introduce her to anyone I'm dating. I don't feel it would be good for her to see her mom bringing men home. The only way I would let her meet someone is if I were to get married again, and that's not going to happen! zzzzzzzzzzzz

Sorry for the long story, I guess I just want to know if I am alone in obsessing about my age, appearance etc. Are men bothered by a few fine lines? I think men look sexy with some fine lines, unfortunately it doesn't work both ways....

:(

Lisa - - -

Girl, you are putting way too much emphasis on looks . . . and I can tell you that the YM don't put the same emphasis on the same things you are fretting about.

I am 52 and Joe is 26 . . . quite a difference and I certainly don't look like the 20 somethings he could have . . . but he wants me. Am I going to question that? No!! He looks at me and tells me how beautiful I am and I thank him, because that's what he sees. He apparently doesn't see the lines and the flabby butt and that's fine with me!!

I'm telling you that the YM who are attracted to older women want just that . . . an older women . . . one who might have a few lines (that they don't seem to see) . . . one who is confident in who she is, what she is, where she is going and where she has been. They like it that we treat them like they have a brain and not just a bod and that we listen to them and truly want to hear what they have to say. In return they truly listen to us, carry on real conversations with us, want our input and, yes, give us the most incredible sex we have ever had.

Don't question it . . . if a younger man truly has an interest in you, go with it and ride the wave. You will not be sorry and you will never look back.

Now to the plastic surgery issue . . . which, btw, has been discussed at length before on this board. IMO there is nothing at all wrong with having procedures done if you are doing them for the right reasons. Do not have them done so you will look good for someone else. The only reason to have that done would be for yourself. I had a mini brow lift and eyelid surgery done last January and that was for me and no one else! There is no way I would even consider having something like that done because someone else wanted me to do that. That is strictly a ME item and should not even be considered unless the procedure you are considering is something that you think you need and you want to do. Okay, I'm going to get off my soapbox on that one!!

Well I hope I look as good as you when I'm 52! I don't know where this obsession with looks is coming from....Wait, yes, I do...my age!! :rolleyes: I wish it would go away!
You're right though, and I know exactly what you are saying. I guess if someone doesn't like me because I have a few lines, I'm better off without him!
As far as the plastic surgery goes, I am doing it for myself because it's driving me crazy. I'm sure the other underlying reason is due to my attraction with the y.m.
I will not be one to age gracefully! So how did the eyelid surgery go? I've been looking into that as well! Seems painful and I wouldn't want my daugter get all stressed out if I have 2 black eyes :eek:
You look great!

Yeah, it's not all about looks Spin. Many of us YM like women because who they are...on the inside. I personally go for maturity and personality. A 39 year old person can be as mature as a 12 year old sometimes and that just turns me off. Know what I mean? And as far as personality goes, well me and her get along great and I like her for who she is and love her personality, then I'm sold. :)

Hope this helps a little bit.

I know, you're all right, I just don't know whats the matter with me. Looks only get you so far, I guess I want to at least get my foot in the door so they can see the shining personality;)

I've dated several perfect looking males only to end it because they had no personality...boring!

Guess I'll just have to wait until I finally get to meet him in person!
Thanks!

Thanks for the comps, Lisa . . . you are absolutely right in that if a few lines bother him, you certainly don't need him . . . keep looking!! :)

The eyelid surgery was a piece of cake and I did not have any black eyes. But I guess everyone bruises at different levels and I just did not have that problem. The most painful part of my surgery, and it wasn't really that painful, was the brow lift. The one piece of advice I will give you tho, is to sleep sitting up for about a week. That was what kept me from having the black eyes and kept the swelling down to a bare minimum. Just be sure to do plenty of research and choose your doctor carefully. In my opinion, 90% of the success of your surgery lies with the doctor you choose.

You really do need to work on getting a handle on the obsessing about age tho. It is something you can do absolutely nothing about and so you might as well plan to be as good as you can be and age as gracefully as possible. If you really think about it, you don't have any choice, do you :confused:

You need to meet your YM you have been flirting with from afar and go for it!!! And, of course, as usual, here on the boards, we will want to hear ALL the details !!! :D

Originally posted by peachy51
I am 52 and Joe is 26 . . . quite a difference and I certainly don't look like the 20 somethings he could have . . . but he wants me.

YOU ARE RIGHT ON THAT ACCOUNT HONEYBUN!!! :D


Am I going to question that? No!! He looks at me and tells me how beautiful I am . . .

YOU ARE LIKE, SOOOOOOOOO IMMACULATE!!!


He apparently doesn't see the lines and the flabby butt and that's fine with me!!

Baby, the only lines I see are the ones on your spit soaked feet and toes, and "other" fine bodyparts on you!!!
As far as your butt is concerned, you leave that "surface" to me, 'cause you know I always "take care" of it, sugar plum! ;)

Sugar, I am glad you are so blind to my "faults" . . . and you know, you can "take care" of anything you want whenever you want! :p

See what I mean, Lisa . . . the young men KNOW EXACTLY what they want. Go for it!!!!!! ;)

Originally posted by peachy51
Sugar, I am glad you are so blind to my "faults" . . .


There are no faults, baby, that's you! ;)

I love what you said...maybe it needs to be re posted....

"I'm telling you that the YM who are attracted to older women want just that . . . an older women . . . one who might have a few lines (that they don't seem to see) . . . one who is confident in who she is, what she is, where she is going and where she has been. (ESPECIALLY!!!!!) They like it that we treat them like they have a brain and not just a bod and that we listen to them and truly want to hear what they have to say."

I'll let you in on another thought, Lisa...you work out 2 hrs, every day you said...I never work out, except to powerwalk 30 mins everyday, am 5/4...over 200 lbs and know so many young man in NYC I had to buy a date book from school to keep names and numbers.

What does that tell ya...oh and I'm 44 yrs old and am starting to go grey, if anything I'm told I'm a bit overwhelmingly overconfident, but I know my selfworth and most hispanics I know rarely have body image issues. As my manager once told me (he's a very goodlooking black man) women of colour are into the Essence of life, not that Cosmopolitan sh*t.

Listen to Peachy, and Joe, if anyone can get you to feel better about yourself is them.


Paris

Have I told you lately that I love you?

You are one helluva woman.

You can see it in every post. And I'm sure any man walking down the street can see it. You are one helluva woman.

Hi Paris,

I wouldn't say that I have a bad body image, but a bad ageing image :) . I don't workout so much to please anyone else, I love working out. I also teach fitness which gives me an extra 2 hours of working out on certain days. I also volunteer my time training battered women who want to get in shape and build up their self esteem.
These folks thing I'm the most confident woman in the world, as I stated before..."I play the game well".
I've never had any problems getting dates and still wouldn't if I didn't run away from them
:D
You guys are right though, I'm going to suck it up, be confident, and face them with a big smile, wrinkles and all!!
:D
and if they don't like the few fine lines I have, they can go find themselves a nice empty bimbo!

Just a few more thoughts... on the lines on your face. Are you using something like Alpha-hydroxy and Retina-A or Renova? I used these in my 30's and on into my 50's. They really really make most people's face look 5-10 years younger.

I had my lids done this year. The pain was not that bad. I love the results. However, you are only 39. Do your eyelids really droop that much? I have a hard time believing that you look old at 39. Do you smoke? Smoking will make people easily look 10 years older than what they are. So quiting the habit is better than a face lift.

I looked for the previous thread where the guys posted about what they liked about older women but I could not find it. Maybe someone else can. It is very affirming to read it.

I would love to see a picture of you... I bet you are really very attractive.. Oh, what are minds can do to us.

Hi,

I'm so jealous of you guys who had the guts to get your eyelids done! I'm too afraid :eek: , but will do it eventually I'm sure.
I have tried Retin-A, but gave up on it because my skin was peeling off. I don't smoke, but I love the sun....I know, I know, it's the worst thing for your skin.
I will post my pic when I get a chance, but if you want to send me a private mssg with your e-mail, I will send one to you.
Promise you won't make fun of my hair style though :D . My martial arts school wanted to photograph me for their ads and they styled my hair in some teased 80's look :mad: ...all of my friends make fun of it! haha

Its all the same thing in my book...

How about you define yourself differently, not in body or numbers?

forget all that workout and surgery crap for when you really need it....

Concentrate on those quality parts of your character that will keep that guy there long after your body says enough.

Are you kind?
Are you loving?
Are you intelligent and don't hide it?
Can you laugh, not only at others but at yourself too?
ARe you accepting of others for who they are? In other words, if that man you keep waving at, has a car accident and is disfigured or lame, will you still allow him to wave.
That body is a machine and like all machines will eventually wear out, when you're 50/65/80 years old and the not even crisco oil will move the parts, will you still find joy in laughter, in the fact that everytime you take off your bra, you boobs are running an amazing race of their own to reach the south pole...lol.
Can you love unconditionally? Can you let others love you uncondtionally?
Can you cry at the images of starving children in south american on TV, knowing you have the capablility to exercise 2 hrs a day to burn food you get to eat 3 times a day.

If you're confident, it shouldn't be a game to be play, you are who you are, go out and be who that is. Be that person until it becomes as natural as breathing.

When I was 19 years (and rather shy), i used to go to seminary at my church and once we had to write a letter to Heavenly Father about what kind of person we wanted to be in 20/30 years...do you know what I wrote...(I found my letter to myself exactly 20 years later in one of my journals)...I wrote that I was going to grow up and be
"I am". I believed it so much that its as natural as breathing. So believe in yourself and that "you are".

Paris

Its taken me a long time to get to the point where I can say...

"I am". It started at 26 and its been a learning process ever since. I'm not saying for No spin that she should stop execising, if she feels good about it, more power to her...I'm just saying that at one point we need to stop beating ourselves up so much and just believe in "I am". And believe it until its as natural as breathing.

Paris

Paris,

Please update your book. Aging is a process, the body is a physical structure. I have no bad body images, working out is my job, my love, and my hobby. I wouldn't "forget it" for anything. I certainly don't define myself by my body. The point of explaining my physique was to explain how most men think I am in my twenties from afar, and my fear or insecurities about my "aging process" was getting to me and getting in the way of meeting these folks. I was trying to sum up my issues quickly and that was the bottom line.

My character is also in check, most men I have had long term relationships with have claimed to love me, so I can't be all that bad now can I? I am a very giving person and I always put others before myself.

Now to answer your questions..

Am I kind? YES
Am I loving? OF COURSE
Why would one hide intelligence? Are you assuming that because one is attractive and in tip top shape they act like a bimbo? Not I, I'm not a teenager.
I laugh at myself more than anyone else does...daily.

Regarding the man I wave at, let me meet him first. If we met and fell in love, disfigurement would not change a thing.
Here's a little more...

As stated before, I volunteer my time to help battered/disfigured women build self esteem through fitness.
I volunteer for the American Cancer Society.
I have a yearly Halloween party for children as a fundraiser for poverty stricken people.
I help anyone I can.

Can I cry at images of starving children? What do tears prove? People can feel sorrow and grieve without tears. One of my best friends died of cancer 3 years ago, I did not cry at her wake. Another friend asked me why I wasn't crying. Do I have to cry to make others happy? No, I grieve my own way. I know plenty of phony people who can turn on the flood gates at the drop of a hat.

"The body is a machine and will wear out."
The fitness process isn't all about your body. The fitness process involves a zest for living. The total person has a social, spiritual, intellectual, emotional, and physical dimension.

I am confident in all aspects of my life except the aging process, I don't find any benefits to it. Most people are concerned with their appearance, those who deny it are lying.

Your "I am" theory is great, but you know what? If the whole world had the same theories and personalities, it would make for quite a boring world.

Cheers

OK. The fact of the matter is that of course you don't look 20 anymore. You're not supposed to look like you're 20 when you're 38. It would be freaky if you did. You're not going to look like you're 20 after the plastic surgery, either. You're going to look like a 38 year old who has had plastic surgery.

The point here is that this guy is seemingly attracted to your 38 year old self - and you can't believe it. You think you're pulling the wool over his eyes and once he really finds out how old you are, he's going to run for the hills.

You seem to be discounting the more obvious possibility that he can see exactly how old you are and still finds you attractive. In my experience with OW/YM, that is almost always the truth of the situation, whatever the women wish to believe. They aren't blind.

Just because you aren't attracted to ripe maturity doesn't mean that he isn't
LOL......

However I can tell you that obsessing about your appearance to the point of crying about it isn't particularly attractive in anyone of any age.

Everyone is aging, all the time, and we're lovable and loved, despite it :>

hi NO SPIN iam 19 years old and i enjoi the company of older women......if u are interested just write back or something.....iam still getting use to this site but anyway i guess i hope to hear from u soon...bye

hi NO_SPIN well iam new here too still dont know whats what anyway iam looking for an older woman to share my time with, i have always been atracted to them but i never had an actual relationship with one because the ones that i have talked too are scared of my age....19 is legal age people, lol....well if u are interested please umm write back i guess or reply, what ever...just hope to hear from u, bye.

Hey there...you're new friend from the Boston area.

Yes, I do hang out in Watertown. And yes, I've always too been attracted to younger guys, though I've dated guys a few years older as their personalities attracted me & I became attracted to them physically due to this.

I am a therapist of the counseling sort, so I work on these issues all the time...self-esteem, lookism, etc. I have to say that while wrinkles aren't my best friend, I still am glad that I don't look like a 20 year old. I got a lot less true respect as a youngster than I do now and the guys I attracted in my earlier days were just idiots...who wants a young idiot? I'd rather look a bit more mature and get the young guys who like the maturity!

Anyway - let's cheer on the Sox! Glad they beat the Yanks last night. Yeehaw...Cowboy up!

:D

Hi Matix!

Hi Bri,
No flack from me, I agree!

Hi 1-tiger,
I know what you are saying, but I'd still prefer being in my twenties :D
As far as the respect thing goes, I expect nothing less from men and I usually make that clear. I treat them as I would want to be treated, and rarely run into problems.
You should go out somewhere tonight to watch the game, plenty of men! GO SOX!

well thanks for saying hi at least,,,lol
most women wont even give me the time of day because of my age, well i hope we can chat some more because u sond like a pretty cool person, but u didnt answer my question though....lol lol would u ever date a 19 year old?

Sorry for neglecting your question Matix, my phone is ringing off the hook here (I'm working)
Yes, I would date someone 18, 19, or 50 if they were my type.

iam sorry i didnt understand u were so busy well now i know....so what is your type
anyway? are u looking for true romance? or a couple of nights of fun? u know feel free to ask me anything u want i will answer it with a smile lol....bye

Welcome, No Spin.......What a pleasure to greet you to these awsome boards......
* Ish impressed by peachy's Post. wow what wisdom.
:D

Ok I have a short but sweet story to tell....
:( I just turned @# oct.6th
The morning of my birthday I woke up, and realised nearly a year has come and gone since I met my sweety, and Now Im a year Older!!! I cried, a lil. and asked him if I looked any different today then I did the day before....lol He said "Happy birthday Love" . He told me I looked more beautiful to him then I ever could have.And He loved me more then Life itself.*melts*

They only see us.....spin. Not a lines.
If they wanted younger theyd be with younger.
As with any age, if a guy is with you only because of looks, then he isnt truly in love with what is inside........OUR OUTSIDE REFLECS WHAT LIES BENEATH..... THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBER SPIN, IS ALWAY LOVE YOURSELF,EVEN THOSE LINES, AND ALL THE THINGS ABOUT OUR BODIES WE WISH WE COULD CHANGE,CONFIDENCE IS ALURING.THEY TAP INTO THAT.GUY'S AT ANY AGE SENCE A CONFIDANT WOMAN ALMOST RITE AWAY.AND CONFIDANCE TO ME IS FAR MORE NOTICABLE THEN ANYTHING ELSE.

No Spin, for some reason when I was 39 years old turning 40, I had a horrible case of mid-life crisis or something! I don't know what was going on with me, but the thought of turning 40 was devastating to me. When I turned 50 this past March, it was a lot less traumatic for me than turning 40 was! Anyway, at age 40 I was still in a really unhappy marriage and assumed that, even if I were to "escape" my marriage, my days of being an attractive, appealing female were over.

Well, I am now married to a man who is 26 years younger than I am. We've been together for about 3 years. What Ladie Fair wrote reminded me of what my husband constantly tells me. He also tells me that he doesn't love me just for my looks, he loves me for what's inside - for my heart. He tells me that I don't have to worry about him leaving me for a younger woman, because I wasn't young in the first place when he first got attracted to me, lol.

Yesterday I went to my husband's work to bring him lunch (we had a picnic in the car, lol). I looked horrible; I'd been running around all morning, my hair was a dirty, stringy mess, and I had sloppy old denim capris on. He told me that I looked beautiful and asked me to come into his work, because he wanted to introduce me to all the people he works with. I said, "No way, Jose. Not today. Not when I look like poop (he thought that was funny). Wait until another day when I at least have clean hair." He said, "Please. Please do it for me. I want everyone to meet you." I gave in and went slinking into his work with him. He introduced me to everyone. I was so embarrassed (I looked exceptionally awful yesterday). When we went outside, he said, "I'm so proud for everyone to see my beautiful wife." I said, "you mean you want everyone to see that you have an 'old lady' for a wife", lol. (He's only 24 years old). He was not at all ashamed to be seen with me in front of everyone! I saw, once again, how deeply my husband loves me. Beauty is really in the eye of the beholder. When he looks at me through his eyes, he sees a beauty queen, lol. He doesn't see any of the flaws that I focus in on everytime I look in the mirror - he doesn't seem to notice any flaws at all! So........No Spin........sometimes we are our own worst critics and our own worst enemies.

It used to be, years ago, that I thought I was loved because of my looks, because I had modeled professionally for much of my life - that whole industry was based on looks. I actually hated modeling. But, it was because of having been in that profession for so long, that I'd just assumed that once I hit 40, my "looks" and sex appeal would be forever gone. My husband proves to me over and over again that beauty comes from within, that beauty isn't only found in youth, and that beauty can truly be eternal. And now I know that I am loved just for being *me*

Ladie,

Thanks for the welcome! I guess the consensus is that the ym don't notice the things we obsess about, that's good to know.

Whisper,
Your story is amazing! 26 years younger?! I'm very happy for you! Congrats on getting out of a unhappy marriage! You may be right, it may be the fact that I will be hitting 40 in June that is bothering me, Geez, I'm glad to hear that hitting 50 won't be any worse!

because ""I wasn't young in the first place"" when he first got attracted to me, lol.
That was funny!

I met a new ym 2 days ago. A man came to my home to repair the oil burner. I heard him in the basement and so I went down to meet him. I was expecting a man in his 60's or so. I also looked awful at the time as I had just came home from working out and was quite a mess. When I saw him I was a bit stunned and he introduced himself to me. He was okay cute and sooooo nice. He was far from the perfect YM at my gym, which is a good thing.
He invited me to stay and talk with him while he worked.

He was very funny and inquisitive which I find rare these days. He kept making me laugh and I forgot about my wrinkles and looking messy. He definitely wasn't the player type, or the type that hit on every single woman he comes across, but there was something very different about him, I just can't pinpoint what it is.

When he was leaving, he gave me his phone numbers and asked me to go out on a date with him. We will be going out next week.
The best part of all of this is .. I was up close to him, smiling and all , I looked awful, and my body was fully covered up so I know that he liked me for me and not the outter appearance.


:)

.... and someone from Boston shows up! Hey neighbor! And I wish i could help you and tiger but I've never gone looking for guys in Boston so I have no idea where to go (it's that hetero thing, I can't help it). Your basement doesn't sound like a bad place to start though - who knew? I hope you have a WICKED fun time with this new guy...
John

GO SOX!!!! NOMAHHH!!!!!!!

That is so cool, No Spin. Wow, fast movin', lol. Let us know how is goes.

I had a Roto Rooter man ask me out once. Wish I had gone. He wasn't cute at all but if he could pull my roommates tampons out of my drain and still ask me out he couldn't be all that bad :D

Originally posted by swanqueen
I had a Roto Rooter man ask me out once. Wish I had gone. He wasn't cute at all but if he could pull my roommates tampons out of my drain and still ask me out he couldn't be all that bad :D

EWWWWWWWW :D

aw come on. I mean. They weren't my tampons but he didn't know that. And sure he smelled like sewage but after a good shower he would be fine.

I really wish I had said yes. I think I said no just out of surprise.

No_Spin, I am only in the early stages of my irl relationship with my 19-y old ym (whom I have know online for a year now - I am mid-thirties ;) )

As for the looks issue, I am kinda with Peachy, Lady_Fair and Onetiger with that: we have one view of us, but if they really love us - and I have NO reason to doubt my sweetie - they just totally see us different, and they are attracted to the personality as such ;) looks is kinda just part of the package ...
Maybe it's because we originally met online, but I got to say I kinda feel the same about my ym ;) He tells me everyday - and sounding credible at it - that I am the most beautiful woman he's ever seen and that he loves my personality, so everything else (me waking up in the morning with stringy hair, morning breath and other flaws) becomes secondary ;) And I feel like that for him ;) None of us is "perfect" in general terms, and although I do consider myself generally attractive, I have to put some effort in to look "stunning" - otherwise I am just plain "normal" ;)

I am not going to venture a guess how things would look after spending a couple of years or more together ;) but whenever I make that reservation, my ym reassures me that it won't matter to him, coz he loves me as a person first, and my looks are secondary to him, even tho he says he can't imagine not considering me the most beautiful person ever ;)

Bottomline: it's perception, it's about love, too - anything more superficial or lack of willingness to accept me even at my worst would not be good enough for me ;) guess that's part of whyatI love about him :D

Originally posted by swanqueen
They weren't my tampons...

reminds me of an old joke...

Remember Fantasy Island???

Well, Herbie Velechez (tattoo), bought an island to build a resort for little people.....

He was going to call it..

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.The Stay Free Mini Pad :D

Awsome post whisper and trish......

Loved the Joke SaltwaterBlues, that was too cute.


Carazy:Im also in my 30's my ym is 18. pm me sometime ,Girl. we gots sompin in common.;)