39yr old male, too old for 24yr old female?

I could really use some opinions right now.

When I was 17 I met a man who was 32. We hit it off immediately. I've always been of a mature nature. I really appreciated the fact that I could have a decent conversation with him, that didn't revolve around gossip.

Well, we went out one time and though we hit it off, we never really went out again. Both of our lives became hectic and we lost touch. Then when I was 21 years old, I called him up one day, (admit... out of boredom). Anyway, we went out again. He seemed really tense around me. Though we hit it off again, things didn't feel the same. So, we again, didn't go out again and we lost contact. Well, now I am almost 24 and he's almost 39. I once again called him up because I was curious about the time his band was playing and I figured he'd definitely know that information. hehe Anyway, I went to watch his band play, we talked and chatted a little. Then a couple weeks later he called me back. We spent like an hour on the phone catching up. Then about a week after that he called me again and we went out. Once again, we hit it off BIG TIME. He admitted that he's always been attracted to me. Of course that made me blush, but I admitted the same. We spent the night drinking coffee and talking. I once again felt myself feeling the way I did when I was 17. I was aw struck at the fact that he hadn't changed in all those years. He was still attentive, funny, attractive... etc. He gave me a huge hug and awesome goodnight kiss at the end of the date. It was perfect. (Between the various times of losing contact, our paths would always cross one way or the other. Either in passing at the grocery store, or some other public place. And I do not live in a small town, so it's not just "one of those things")

I know that the age difference is 15 years, and some people consider that to be an outrageous difference, but I don't. When I'm with him, I don't even see an age difference. I just see someone whom I feel comfortable and safe around. I however feel a little reluctant to get too serious because of the influence society plays on relationship status.

What should I do about this? Are there ways to overcome these thoughts of reluctantcy?

I honestly believe that this could finally be the one for me and I don't want to ruin it by worrying and analyzing the situation to death. Thanks!

Welcome Butterfly,

And welcome to the world where age means nothing*....LOL
(*insert over 18 disclaimer here)

But seriously 15 years is a small gap for alot of the members here. And many of those here will tell you it can be great (myself included with a 22 yr gap) once you get past the initial shocks and worries of being 'out of the norm' but much in love.

Best of luck and hope to see you posting here more often.

Don

Welcome BUtterfly....


I don't think 15 years is outragous... My husband is 17 years older than me... and I love him more than life... we are trying to have a baby.... and we are planning our life. I am 28 and he is 45 ..... Love doesn't have any disclaimers so go with how you feel.... Life is short.... go for it..



Don hun she doesn't need the disclaimer shes 24 years old :-)

Originally posted by MerAlove23
Don hun she doesn't need the disclaimer shes 24 years old :-)

LOL@MerA,

I meant that for the websites sake not hers!
Or just the fact that there 'is' one point where age becomes a factor. She did meet him when she was 17 after all, it just didn't work out till now.

Don

Don :p

I have a feeling that the way your relationship with your OM is...is the way mine will end up with D. It's on again off again and I have a feeling that he needs time to wake up and smell the coffee. However, it maybe too late by the time he realizes that. At any rate...we are 17.5 years apart. We still maintain a friendship, and I would go for him in a heartbeat.

D was always scared of what society would say, and how others would view us. It really doesn't matter. You live your life. If people can't except it, then screw them all! You do what makes you happy....you don't judge others for the the choices they make. This would be a test to see who your true friends really are.

Best of luck,
EM

First and foremost, welcome to the jungle of Ageless Love, Butterflymoon.

BUTTERFLYMOON? Your board name is quite familiar because I used to chat with someone on AOL by that name a few years ago. Hmmmmm.......But enough about that.
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Much like everyone have just said, 15 years in a fraction of an age gap when you consider the age gap of our SO. MerAlove's 17 years, EMCAD's 17.5 years, mine, also 17 years. And yet, she's only the 2nd youngest woman whom I've dated in my life (the youngest was a year younger than her, 18 yr. gap). Her concern was more about what her parents would think than society. Needless to say, her Mom wasn't too crazy about her dating someone who was close to her Dad's age.

And much like the relationship with your OM, my relationship with my YW is also off and on. I can't speak for EMCAD, who believes that her relationship is also headed for off/on, but I kinda like it that way.

Welcome and post often people here are great!! a little crazy but great!:D

My husband is 26 years my senior. We met when I was 24 and he was 50. Now, almost 8 years later we are happier than ever, with a love that just grows stronger and stronger with each passing day.

Think of your relationship this way (as a poster on this forum a long, long time ago told me), is this man good to you? What are his best qualities? Why do you love him? If he were your same age, these are the issues you would focus on. And, rightly so, because in the end they are all that matter.

Love is a gift that should be cherished, don't waste your time on the things you cannot change.

Best wishes.