Pregnant.......

I don't even know how to digest this right now, and I'm not sure why I am posting this right now, I'm just in so much shock....

I whent to the doctor today because I haven't been feeling *right* latley... Here to find out I'm 6 weeks pregnant... The shock I feel right now.... So many questions, I'm so scared...

How do I tell T? My family? What am I going to do? I'm 19, I'm not ready to be a mother yet, I'm in college fulltime and work fulltime... A child dosen't fit into my "plans"

I don't understand.... we where so carefull, IE the Pill..... how can I be pregnant?

And There's still issues with T that were dealing with, I mean my god this changes everything......

I'm sorry to ramble here.. I just hav a 1000 thoughts going through my mind right now :(

I'm so sorry you're feeling bad about this. Since I don't want to sway your decision one way or the other I won't say too much, but whatever you decide to do you we will all support you, okay? If you need to talk about this, feel free to ramble all you want.

Don't look at me, it's not mine.:eek:

Oh sorry, got carried away.
I'm with Double P-04 on that one. I won't render any kind of advise but I would suggest that you have a talk with T. More importantly, finish this semester out and see what happen later.

One more thing, hon. I, as well as at least a couple others on this board have been through this ourselves, so if you want to talk about it without it being out here for everyone to see, feel free to PM me anytime.

Softiee.......if you want to talk about this, like Pink Panther said, give us a PM or something. This happened to me 10 months ago......I'd just like to say I am not going to try to convince you to do anything, but I can offer a viewpoint and experience that you don't get from a doctor's office brochure. Nothing is right or wrong.....you have to do what you must, and only you know what that is. There are positives and negatives to every option, so you have to weigh them and decide which is most realistic for you. Feel free to PM me....I know the turmoil you're going through.

Not much I can add to already given advice, other than if you'd like a guys input your more than welcome to send PM's this way as well.

Big Hugs! You know you have support here on the site!

Don

Softie..... Well a baby is a miricle.... So just remember things do happen for reasons ... Yeah it's bad timing and not the most planned out.. but there isn't a birth control that is a 100% except for not having sex at all.... Just don't RUSH INTO ANY DECISIONS1!!!!!! The one you make will affect you for the rest of your life!!! Just calm down and relax everything will be fine and eventually will work out for the best...... Tell T do not hide this from him..... lying would be worse if you ask me..... tell him first..... then tell your parents... but Like everyone said we will all be here for you in the end!!

Good Luck with your decision



Please rub off on me though Because I'm stillt rying to get pregnant :-(

Ok, so not sure if it is congratulations or commiserations yet...

But, it is not the end of the world. But in one respect it is the beginning of the world for one yet unborn.

Just remember....

"I get knocked down... but I get up again...."

Thank you guys for all your support... I don't have much friends anymore sense T and I hooked up (they don't like the age gap) so the only person I really talk to is T... And well on this issue It helps a great deal to have others support....

I didnt sleep much last night, T is out of town until next week... I talked to him on the phone last night, but I coulden't tell him over the phone.. He knows something was up, but I just said I was tired....

I'm just trying to make it through the day today... I work till 5 then have class till 9..... After that hopefully some sleep.... I don't even know where to start sorting things out :(

Thanks again you guys..... I really appreciate the support right now... I truthfully need it.

-Softie

I can't imagine what you are going through. I would be in your shoes if i found out I was pregnant. I would be torn....alas I can't have that problem so I'm safe in that aspect. Please PM some of the folks who have been through this....but also PM those who do have children, had children at a young age or want children....this way you get all points of views. Maybe there is a local Planned Parenthood you can go to...they give you TONS of info there.

All the best....don't hesitate to ramble!

EM

I am 20 years old and I have a boyfriend of 4 years. My boyfriend and I had sex and a couple of weeks later I started feeling sick. I took a pregnancy test cause I thought I might be pregnant but I took the test and it said I wasn't pregnant so I went to Kennywood.

I waited a couple of weeks later to take another one and it said I was. I went to the doctors to get a check up. And I had to get a sonagram done and a ton of junk. The doctor told me I had a miscarriage because she couldn't see a heart beat on the sonagram.

I feel that it was my fault when I had a miscarriage because I had went to Kennywood and I didn't know that I was pregnant at the time.

Originally posted by sassyfrace19
I feel that it was my fault when I had a miscarriage because I didn't know that I was pregnant at the time.

Welcome Sassy!

First of all No it was not your fault! Second of all my telling you that won't help much because your still hurting, and all the people in the world telling you that won't change it.

But unless you found out you were pregnant and said to yourself...I don't want this, I think I'll do something to cause myself to lose it! Then it only falls as fate!

You found out something big, something that changed your whole life! Then just like that....it was gone. Life doesn't work like an Etch-A-Sketch sadly. We can't just pick it up and give a shake and poof!....All the painful feelings are gone. You will probably feel this loss for a long time even if other people don't understand why.

The good news is, your human and you do truely care! Unborn or not you loved it, or started to. Now your mourning that loss.

Best of luck.

Don