Reality

Okay so reality sets in now. T comes home tomrmow.... The last few days I have been trying to I guess you can say ignore my situation, and now I have to come face to face with it...

How do you sit and tell a person? I mean I know in my heart he'l be suportive but still.... I'm scared.

All let you guys know what happens tommrow... :(

Well.. there is no way else to tell him but to tell him .... just be calm and t hink out your words.... and be honest with him.. If you want the baby then have it.. if not then make sure you are making the RIGHT decision.. don't rush this decision.... Don't let him make you do what he wants this has to be what you both went.....

Softiee,

Best of luck and let us know how it goes. We have you in our thoughts here.

Don & Crystal

hey softiee, good luck. just sit down, hold his hand and tell him what you told us. I'm thinking of you. Please let us know how it goes. ((hugs))

When you're ready we're here.
There's only one thing you can do...be open and honest and try not to cry.

Good luck to you Softiee, lots of people are rooting for you.

Thinking of you Softie. I'm not a big subscriber to the "don't cry" theory. Depends on the circumstances. In your particular circumstance your hormones are kind of overtaking any kind of rationality that you try to impose on yourself. No shame in crying if you need to.

Gillian

Hi Meena and JLY - those were kind things to do and to say. Don't be too harsh on yourelf Meena - threads sometimes get highjacked and take on new lives of their own.

Gillian

Oh you guys I wish you hadent of edited out your threads... I appreciate all the support, but it was nice to read about other people clicking in this thread....

Please continue your conversations.... I really didn't mind.. And thank you all for the support.....

Originally posted by Softiee19
Oh you guys I wish you hadent of edited out your threads... I appreciate all the support, but it was nice to read about other people clicking in this thread....

Please continue your conversations.... I really didn't mind.. And thank you all for the support.....

That's kind of you, Softiee19. But seriously, there are too many thread hijacking on the board and we have to stick to the topic at hand. Otherwise, we'll be getting no where.

Originally posted by Meena03
Thanks Gillian but i soppose it was partly my fault. When i did see a post from Jonny asking about myself i should have sent him a PM instead of continuing it by posting on Softiee's thread.

Very well then.
20 slash from a wet noodle for you, Meena.
And don't cry because this punishment is going to hurt you alot more than it's gonna hurt us........LOL

you're 19 years old. are you ready to commit the next 18 or 19 years of your life to raising a child? are there any guarantees your boyfriend will be around for all those years? can you cope with sleepless nights, round the clock feedings, diaper changing, hours of screaming and crying, always being tired, never getting enough sleep, not having enough money for whatever your child wants, or for quality childcare? are you ready to do the hardest job in the world? are you willing to sacrifice everything you love in order to bear, give birth and raise this child? to give up the average activities of a 19 year old girl? will your boyfriend agree to support the child until he/she is 18, as the law says, regardless of whether you stay together or not?

if the answer to any of these is 'no', don't have the baby.

if the answer to any of these is 'no', don't have the baby.

these are all valid concerns and certainly MUST be considered, but i don't think that the fact that you, softiee, are only 19 is the most important factor. unexpected pregnancy is scary to say the least and this is likely one of the hardest things she has ever faced. i am sure she has worried about every one of the fears that were mentioned and i'm sorry but i don't think that it is our place to be making suggestions or judgement calls one way or another as she has not asked for advice or answers, only support. i don't mean to step on any toes, of course, that's just how i feel about this.

please keep us posted, and know that you are in a lot of people's thoughts right now if it makes any difference.

I'm thinking about you, Softie. Wish you the very best.

Very well said, Melisande.

And SOFTIE, in case you haven't picked up on what we're saying yet. Whatever you choose to do Sweetie, we're behind you 120%. You have our support, Love.

But I'm sorry, I'll have to leave the diaper changing to EMCAD or BellaLove because I know nothing about that........LOL

All and all, you're forever in our prayers, Softie.

Again I love you guys! and thank you sooooooo much for your MUCH NEEDED support!

And Chosen... Well Hmmm I don't know much about dipaper changing either....... Heck I dont even know the proper way to hold a baby.....


Uhhhhhhh I wonder if they have a motherhood/baby for dummies class on the east coast................;)

you'll be fine!
It's called Mother's Instinct!

I agree completely EM!!!
We are women!! Its what we do :-)

19 isn't too young...maybe for some people who have some maturing to do still...but you come across like a very straight forward, mature individual ;-) Its going to be fine, its another step in life and you will be able to rely on your maternal instincs to guide you. *kisses your way babe!*

also, I agree with calybo.... its not our place to make 'in-direct' suggestions as to what softie should consider doing with her child. I'm proud of the way she is handling her situation.

We are all sending support your way softie ;-)

Originally posted by EMCAD80
you'll be fine!
It's called Mother's Instinct!

I agree with EMmie.
You'll pick it up instantly.
And if not, I'm sure you can find
"Motherhood For Dummies" or "Parenthood 101"
on Amazon.com ........LOL