Ok I don't know where to post this

I don't mean to make a big deal out of it and I don't really expect a "thread" but I just wanted to vent

Met a guy on match.com

Talked for a week, very good conversations. A laugh a minute. He is a college professor.

Was going to go out for coffee, he talked me into dinner.

Well the bottom line is I now remember why I hate dating.

He was who he said he was. No problem there. Very attractive and successful. Fine. Liked me. Seemed to think I was "pretty" enough. Good conversation for a while.

Turns out he has had sex with 90 to 100 women including prostitutes. Sees nothing wrong with that. Had sex with a woman about 2 months ago who also had about 100 partners. That was fine. Couldn't understand why I thought perhaps he should get himself tested for AIDS. Doesn't like rubbers.

He kept saying so now I would have to wait for 5 months for the incubation period and get tested?

I said well I didn't plan on boffing you right now anyways.

Do the math, if all his partners had 10 lovers and the one woman who had 100 lovers each of her exes had 10 lovers, and if each of the 10 had 10 lovers....if I slept with him I would basically be sleeping with North America in one shot.

Well dinner was good.

On to the next one.

What gets me is WHY would even tell you this on a first date? Keep on looking... :rolleyes:

Ewww. I'm guessing he doesn't teach biology or medical courses, eh?

Hey, at least you found out before you wasted too much time with him. :)

I Second the Ewwwwww
Swanqueen, your better than that, lol though it might look good in a book :) You should write one........
Maybe that is where this is all leading, you being a best seller of online relationships.
Hugzzzz
~Tammy

Originally posted by SnowPrincess
I Second the Ewwwwww
Swanqueen, your better than that, lol though it might look good in a book :) You should write one........
Maybe that is where this is all leading, you being a best seller of online relationships.
Hugzzzz
~Tammy

Trust me I have thought about this LOL

It has to be an entertaining read. Of course I won't use "real" names.

You guys will get mentioned too.

SQ,
I just gotta say, I am so glad that you are out dating :)
And I am glad dinner was good.
Dating can be fun, its not all about sex, you can get a good meal and hear a "story" lol (or you can be a good meal and eat a story :D )
Your out there girl, now you have the ball in your court. I bet it feels good.
Happy Halloween

Better yet the professor should write a book.

Maybe call it "Free Willy." :D

LOL@Moon Free Willy LOLOLOL

I'm sorry Swan, what a crummy date.
Glad dinner was good.
It's dates like that you order a good stiff drink, preferably a double, and then order as many expenisve items on the menu as you can!
LOL

I am amazed that he told you all this on a first date too, but then there are some very strange people in this world.
It sounds like a date I would find myself on.

It's crazy to think that people are still out there having sex like that with all the danger of STD's out there. Especially AIDS.
In a way, it is a VERY GOOD thing that he was up front with you about his sexual habits before you were tempted to have any kind of sexual relationship with him. Some men might not even mention it and put a woman at risk without any thought.

I know you'll find a man that suits you.
Guess we have to go through a few "duds" to find the perfect man for us.
I know, the "duds" have a way of making us feel defeated, but don't give up!

Like I have stated here before, just when you least expect it, the perfect man for you will light up right in front of you!

This thread really isn't for support, just to share really. I mean it had no emotional impact on me.

I was just flabbergasted. LOL

One more thing I didn't mention.

You all know why I divorced my ex, it was because he couldn't stand my son. Well this guy divorced his ex because he couldn't stand her son.

Well the evening went downhill fast, like an avalanche LOL

Good Lord! That must have been a shocker!!!!

Definitely on to the next one. I had an evening like that once too. I used to have problems with codependency, and I had recently entered the dating scene. My mother told me, Hey Jody, this time try to avoid men that drink, and any man who had a really traumatic childhood.......I think this was her way in trying to help me avoid abusive men, alcoholic men, and men with emotional problems.

So my brother fixes me up on a blind date with a Marine friend of his. Nice looking guy, clean cut of course...and we are to meet at my brothers house for dinner. The guy even baked an apple pie from scratch. I bring my kids with me....

Flash forward to end of the night.....Marine man has now consumed many good-sized portions of wine....is now sliding out of his chair...has spilled red wine on my brothers carpet...TWICE, has revealed that his mother literally abandoned him in a ditch when he was little, and has kicked my car door when he walked me to my car because he could not get the door unlocked (btw, the door was unlocked the entire time....). *sigh*

Appearances can be so deceiving!!! What a let down.

Sometimes I hate to share the same gender with some guys.

Keep trying, Swan, you'll be fine in the long run.


Steve

I have never been into the "body builder" type guy.
For one, I am not that attracted to men built like the Hulk.
And I can't stand it when men obsess about muscles.
:(

Sure I like man to have a "six pack" and I would rather not be able to beat him in arm wrestling, but muscle bound men look rather, "odd" to me at times.

I have always been drawn to the tall, lean type of man.
I am most attracted to their creativity and compassionate side.

As far as "manly traits" go, there is nothing more sexy to me than a man geared up and ready to do some salt water fishing, or a man all sweaty from chopping wood.
Guess I prefer the muscles that a man aquires being active in nature, not a gym.

I know this is not a thread about what we find most attractive in a man, but it just got me to thinking, (and dreaming).

Maybe we should start a thread on this subject.
I could list LOTS of things that draw me into a man.
LOL