the loss if iner dependance or fear of the unknown??one perspective loss????

i write this in a cold and rainy night as the fear of loosing ones inner dependance sacrificed the element of uncharted grounds as the positive mutual elements of two parties brought the fear of loosing ones soul to another as they were so close in nature and spirit as to create a voide that one may loose ones independance to the other to create an early end,but in lue of this a lesson is learned as not to forfiet the passion on ones soul and hart to seek happiness at the cost of loosing ones self as we all take risk as love has no boundries or definition
chris

chris, let me be the first to ask you for a translation.

Are you afraid to fall in love because you will lose yourself? You will not lose your soul if that is what you fear. Your soul is your own. You will lose your personality? Perhaps if you are not compatable and one is overbearing.

You talk about the void.. like if you become close one will suck the other in? If you are close in spirit you will become one and lose your uniquness. You should be so lucky to meld with another this way. So you read each others minds and finish each others sentences and dream each others dreams.

That is rare and to be greatly prized.

good one swanqueen as you read it well,but alas????it wasnt me as to forfiet thier inner dependance????ok good call as you are begining to see what i am as fear has limitations and risk has no boundries.
chris

Chris, the right person ENHANCES your independence, the wrong person INHIBITS it. The right person enhances your life, the wrong person squelches it.

The only way a relationship can be healthy and happy, is if the two people in it are emotionally stable and already loving themselves. They don't view being with another person as a necessity, rather, they are quite comfortable being alone. They see being with the RIGHT person as adding to their happiness. Not a necessity, but a wanting.

Losing some of yourself in someone else, being so in love and involved with them, is only natural. If the person is healthy and sane, they won't let you lose yourself completely. If they see you becoming too dependent in any way, emotionally, physically, etc., they'll gently push you the other way, to get in touch with yourself again. The same goes for them. They won't allow themselves to become dependent on you for their own security and happiness.

That said, it's more comfortable for a healthy, happy relationship to be faithful, trusting and monogamous. That isn't "losing yourself" or your independence, that's called settling down and focusing on the intimate love of one person, and all the trust and respect that goes with it.

and very well said, especially the part where you wrote: "The only way a relationship can be healthy and happy, is if the two people in it are emotionally stable and already loving themselves. " SO many people truly do not love themselves, thus they do not have the ability to truly love another.