Dating....

I haven't dated in six years! Right after F I met D and I never had to do the whole fish in the sea gig. How does this work?! I don't know what to do...I've got guys contacting me like crazy, but most of you know me, I'm too nice.

It was funny though...let me share a quick story. This kid, and I should say that because I'm only 4 years old...but dating older men makes me see them as such, contacts me and says he liked my profile. Super...he's 18! Not that there is anything wrong with this, but there are so many things I can't do with him. Now I know the OM with YM may or may not feel this, but can I get some honest answers please?

Do you feel like you are limited to the things you can do. Obviously if you're committed it's different because you'll go where your love can go, but in the dating scene!?
This guy wants to take me cosmic bowling...cute huh! yeah, sorry, not my cup of tea. Should his mom drive us? lol

*Where's Lara when I need her...she feels my pain on this one*

Anywho, I told him that I generally go for older men. The lil' booger says:

Is the age gap too big?!

LMBO! No! It's just that he's a little too young? Gosh, does this sound bad to the people who are in love with 18-20 year olds? I hope not...I don't mean it in a rude way.

I do have a new toy...and you all have seen the goods ;), but I don't want to limit myself just to him because what if he's not looking for something serious right now? Things are okay for now and I think it's a little to soon (and looks a little desperate and eager) to say "Hey, are you looking for a committment?" He's great company and fun to be around, but I still want to keep my options open if he's not Mr. Right. Does this make sense or do I totally sound shallow?

Well, in fear of making an @$$ of myself...I'll leave at that till I get some responses.

Em No your fine with that and I agree with you .... You should keep your options open....

You just got out of a relationship... DOn't rebound it's not worth it it doesn't usually last... be very careful... this is YOUR time to take care of you.. You don't need a man for anythiing... Just make yourself self suffiecient and when the Right man comes along trust me YOU WILL KNOW IT.... but play hard to get ... date around see whats out there...and if it's worth it or it's right then he'll be there... If he asks why you don't want to be 100 % commited just tell hiim that yOu just got out of a serious relationship and you want to take things slow.....

I hope that helped!!!

xoxo
Mer

Also, Em - you are a very kind person, but you don't HAVE to go out with everyone who asks you out. (And I'm sure they are beating down your door! ;-) You don't have to give the 18-year-old a "reason" per se, just tell him you are not interested (in your very tactful way.)

You don't need an excuse!

I think you are being very wise about the toy.....I mean boy. And man is he ever a looker! I think it is the right thing to take it slow, get to know each other, enjoy just "dating" without getting into a serious relationship.

GO GO GO EMCAD! :-)

lol, you guys are all fantastic!
I saw J the other night, and I must say it may not be the feeling of love, but it was great being cuddled again!!! I went over J's house Saturday night after midnight bowling at 1:30 in the morning :eek: he waited up for me and I spent the night...no, no sillys...we just cuddled and kept each other company. It was very sweet....well....some kissing was involved, I'm not gonna lie :D

Thanks everyone, I'll keep you posted!

I haven't dated since I was 20, and now I'm faced with the prospect of dating again, and I am S-C-A-R-E-D. I have friends with friends, and a few people who have expressed interest, but I don't think I'm ready. But I don't know. Hey, EM, can I borrow that 18 year old? Kidding. I think that would be too weird for me given what I'm used to.

How do you know when you're ready to date again? I think I'm still in the sweatpants phase...not quite to the strippers phase yet. (sorry, quoting from a Friends episode again).

When you figure it out EM, let me know.