Cultural references

Hi,

I would like to ask everyone with experience of an OW/YM relationship about any cultural issues that may arise.

For example, are differences in musical tastes ever a problem? Are any of you together despite having record collections that are like chalk and cheese? Or maybe like a shared sense of humour, shared artistic tastes are a necessary part of the attraction?

In my case I don't mind cultural differences, since I adapt very easily to any situation, but you mention sense of humour, and this is maybe one of the sensitive points for me.
I have to be with someone who has a great sense of humour, who doesn't mind being teased sometimes (in a nice way). As for music, I'm very ecclectic, I like almost anything and am very eager to learn.
In my case maybe the differences are more noticeable regarding our different origins, than regarding the age difference. Being from different countries is a huge thing, although it has often worked for me and not against me. It's fun to discover new things in life.
I don't think I have ever had a problem with those cultural differences to an extent that they would disturb my love relationship.

SB, couldn't he learn ??? Ym are so much more adaptable don't you think ??? Perhaps one of the reasons we like them so well ???

Just my opinion ... :p

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Of course they could.... that is why I said it takes compromise and growth..... but until those two are met, the road could be bumpy! Or in the instance of the pair I mentioned, unsolveable....

I am not in the least worried about the cultural differences between my guy and me. He is from Romania and I am from the U.S. So far, we actually haven't run up against any differences yet. But, it is early yet.

However, I have had past experience with being involved with a man from another country. I was in a 3 year relationship with a man from another country while in college. Our cultural differences never got in the way at all, despite the fact that I am Christian and he is Moslem. The reason they did not get in the way is because we did not let them. For example, at that time, he would never touch alcohol, but I did drink. And, he did not judge me for that. And, I did not force my opinions upon him.

It's all about valuing and respecting the differences between us.

Thanks for your responses.

When I said "cultural", I wasn't really thinking of national or religious boundaries, but from what you've all said, the likes and dislikes of different generations are very unimportant, maybe even exciting, when compared to the challenges you've described.

And the fact that people can be accepting of differences, as Whiterose described, is a very good advertisement for love.