How often do you say the words?

Ok, this is something I've been meaning to ask on here for a while, but I've been so busy that it slipped out of my mind. But it's recently occurred to me again, so I thought I'd finally ask it.

Back during the California recall campaign, I stumbled across an article about Arnold, and specifically his relationship with his wife, Maria Shriver, that kind of made me mad. It didn't really have much to do with them, specifically, but the comment that was made kind of pissed me off, because it felt derogatory toward me and people like me.

Also, in a bizarre cult-like ritual, every day they tell each other 'I love you'!

(The article is at http://slate.msn.com/id/2088021/ - scroll way down - if you're interested).

Quite frankly, I found that statement insulting. The YW and I also tell each other we love each other every day, it's a staple before we say goodbye, and we often say it much more than that just because we feel like it.

Now, here's the question: how often do you say this to your SO? How often should you say this to your SO?

I'm of the opinion that it's important to say it frequently, because too often, the words go unsaid, and people start to forget that they feel that way or that somebody feels that way about them, and it just feels good to hear somebody say that to you. But at the same time, you don't want to cross over the line and say it so often that you stop meaning it, or appear to stop meaning it.

What are your thoughts on the matter?

I alway tell my boyfriend I love him at least once a day, usually more though, always at the end of our conversations and more often than not when we first start chatting too. P often says that the time I stop telling him I love him is the time he'll start to worry :D Take care

I say I love you constantly to many people. My friends, my children and my SO if I have one.

My second husband in the 4 years I knew him never said it to me unless I asked do you love me? One time I asked him about that, I said I say it to my kids all the time, he said I know and I think its creepy.

My best friend that died of a heart attack at the age of 56, she died on Friday. I had seen her on Thursday. To this day I am so grateful that the last words I said to her were I love you.

I am longing to say it to the guy I'm seeing now but I don't want to freak him out. To me it is a natural thing to say to people you care about.

I love several friends here on Ageless so if I say it to you it is because I love people. I love you too Rhad.

By the way I was reading in my Dictionary of Folklore and I found your name, very very interesting name Rhadamanthus LOL

Hmm, I think that quote is rather bizarre! I mean, really, who thinks it is "cult-like" to tell your spouse that you love them every day.

That being said.

My husband and I say it to each other, but not every day. Probably once or twice a week. We say it when we feel the urge to say it. I never, ever, ever doubt his love for me. I have been in relationships where I wanted to say it all the time, but those were not strong relationships, and I realize now that the reason I so desparately wanted to say it was that I so desparately wanted to HEAR it, and that was usually the only time I did.

I don't think there is any frequency with which people SHOULD say it. Say it enough to let the other person know that it is true, say it enough to know you have expressed your love for the other person. If that is once a day - great! If that is 60 times a day - great! If that is once a week - great!

I will say that even if (god forbid) I never saw my husband again, I would always know that he loved me, even if it wasn't the last words I heard him say.

Plus, when he was gone last weekend (camping with his buddies), he called me and said "you know when I dropped you off when I left, I drove away and I thought to myself: 'I love her SO MUCH!' And I just need you to know that."

That will last me a long time before I need to hear it again. :-)

Hey Rhad, being a fan of Slate, I figured this was the case, but I just want to reassure you that they were only being facetious. They were making fun of the National Examiner for pretending that saying "I love you" every day was somehow abnormal. So it's the National Examiner we should all be mad at, not Slate. Slate wouldn't ever hurt anyone. Slate is very nice. :) Here's the whole quote for anyone who wants it:The American Media tabloid empire has finally run an Arnold Schwarzenegger/Maria Shriver expose, and it reveals ... brace yourself ... "Why their marriage works"! Among the shocking National Examiner revelations that have turned the historic California recall race upside down:

Asked by a fellow parishioner at St. Monica's Catholic Church in Santa Monica, Calif. why she's always smiling, Maria answered: "It's Arnold. He keeps me laughing."

An "insider" discloses that while they may seem really tight as a couple and as a family and as buddies:

They are really tight as a couple, as a family and as buddies. Whenever you see them, they're holding hands, laughing into each other's eyes ...

Also, in a bizarre cult-like ritual, every day they tell each other 'I love you'!

To answer your question though, I say it all the time. Why not? It's not like it takes any extra energy to remind someone how you feel about them. :)

I tell my girlfriend I love her everyday on average of about 15 times. I usually call her a few times during the day just to say I love you.

I think you should say I love you as often as you feel like it. If you look at your partner and just feel like saying it, the best thing for you to do is just come out and say it. The worst thing you'd ever want to do is leave your partner under the impression that you didn't.

I suppose i'm a little clingy with my I love yous.

To be quite honest, I feel neglected when she doesn't say I love you back to me when we're on the phone and I know there is no reason why she can't. I know I know, its silly, but what can I say? I need my I Love you's.

Steve

I never knew my family was unique until very recently. Every time I'm on the phone with Mom, Dad, sisters, Grandma, my best friend, the conversation ends, in a "bizarre, cult-like ritual..." The last words are always..."take care...love you!" I thought everyone did that with their family...lol...and seriously, it's only recently that I've overheard enough "other" people talking to their family to know that not everyone says it.

I say it to my love, oh, AT LEAST every day. Usually more than once. Usually, LOTS more than once. I would say it has to do with the long distance thing...but even when we are face to face, we say those words every day.

Will it pass? Is it a phase? Doubt it, but I don't know. I think those words are too important to ever let a chance to say them pass me by.

After all, love is....

We tell each other ATLEAST 100 times a day. Probably about 10 times during a single phone call!

x

I don't think there are any set rules..... I say it to my husband as much as I can... I can't count how many times I say it in a day.... ALTHOUGH I do think there shouldn't be a day to go by without saying it though... SO I do think you should say it as much as you can or feel necessary but I do think it should be at least once aday

Originally posted by PinkPanther_04
Hey Rhad, being a fan of Slate, I figured this was the case, but I just want to reassure you that they were only being facetious. They were making fun of the National Examiner for pretending that saying "I love you" every day was somehow abnormal. So it's the National Examiner we should all be mad at, not Slate. Slate wouldn't ever hurt anyone. Slate is very nice. :)

Ah, thank you! I couldn't find the original article I saw, and just found that after a Google search, so that's why I posted it. I didn't think it came from there originally.

I'm a big fan of Slate myself, but don't confuse that as them being nice - I've seen them say some pretty crazy things too. Like any other magazine, they've got their good writers and their bad ones and their nuts. But overall, I'm a fan.

Good responses, and that's pretty much what I thought, too. I don't think there's any set amount it should be said, because that's just silly. But the idea that those of us who say it a lot are somehow bizarre or cultish is just downright insulting, I think - especially since, from the looks of things here, there are quite a few of us.

The main point of the question, actually, was just to get to know everybody a little better and see how often you say it in your relationships. ;)

Does this thread apply to saying those words everytime I look in the mirror?

Oh, so it's just me. My bad.:(

Well.....we say 'I love you' to each other repeatedly throughout the day.

Once when we wake up.......like 10 or 15 times during the day.....once before we go to bed................and alot of times if we uh ummm. :o :p :D

I don't think that's saying it too much.

Crystal