lamia
12-16-2003, 11:41 AM
Has anyone ever had to deal with their ym being concerned about the social circles you would be in? Like age differences in friends that kind of thing. This was something that came up with mine and I didnt really know quite how to answer. He was always a little uncomfortable around my friends, not that he didnt like them just said he felt out of place. He also had concerns about my not really wanting to have children, I just dont know if I would want to again. Has anyone had to deal with that one?
Desert Spring
12-18-2003, 01:12 PM
Well, I'm not quite sure how you "answer" (it sounds a bit like a debate), but here's what we do at 40 and 24 after 4 1/2 years.
a) He has his friends, I have mine. I know his friends to say hi to and he knows mine to say hi to, but we mostly socialize independently and then come home and spend couple time together. Obviously this works better if you live together than if you don't. But I still think it's important to give yourselves permission to socialize independently sometimes, especially with folks you like, but your partner isn't super comfortable with.
b) Fact is - I'm not having any natural born children. I don't want too. At the moment, he doesn't want any either, so it's not a problem. If your guy wants kids and it sounds like he does, then you'll have to decide if a pregnancy in the next 3-4 years is doable for you. If it really isn't, then tell him so. This is one area where it is really a good idea to be clear with each other.
