Tips For Men ~ What Women Want

My daughter and I were discussing the "Perfect Man" the other day, (you know, the man that really doesn't exist).
:p

And as much as the "Perfect Man" does not exist, neither does the "Perfect Woman".
BUT-
men CAN strive to be as "perfect" towards their woman if they really want to.

My daughter and I were thinking of things that make a man wonderful for us and it got me to thinking that some of the men that visit Ageless might like to know what some of these little things are that make a man so perfect in a woman's eyes.

So gals, here is your chance to list those little endearing qualities and gestures that makes our hearts go pitter-patter towards a man.

And guys-
this is YOUR chance to find out some great hints on getting a woman to be, well, ....smitten by you forever!

Great manners!

I love having a guy hold open car doors, other doors, hold my coat so I can put it on, walk me to my door, etc. It makes me feel cared for and is very thoughtful. I think part of it comes from my dad always doing those things and then working with kids from the south.

I love it when a guy remembers the little things without being reminded or asked

Like...if he switches the laundrey loads and completes the cycle for me while I'm out !!

The best book I ever read on this exact subject. Should be required reading for every man who wants to be loved, adored, respected and passionately made love to as often as possible (got your attention, guys?):
"What Women Want Men to Know" by Dr. Barbara De Angelis
You can get in on half.com for under $5....worth every penny of the investment.

Originally posted by onetiger
Great manners!

I love having a guy hold open car doors, other doors, hold my coat so I can put it on, walk me to my door, etc. It makes me feel cared for and is very thoughtful. ...

Now, I understand where you are coming from, and what, generally, you are getting at. And you have my agreement.

But I would wonder if Gloria Steinham would concur? Or those of what seems to be the many of her ilk.

I think a term devolved for such as Steinham is FemiNazi. But what decent guy would want to 'date' a FemiNazi anyway??????

(stirs pot)

Here are some characteristics that I find particularly appealing....

1. First, and foremost, a wonderful sense of humor. I love to laugh and love a guy that can keep me laughing.

2. A compassionate, open-minded individual. Someone who is not critical of others, but instead is able to view the world from someone else's perspective. This also means being adaptable to change.

3. Ability to have a calm, intellectually stimulating discussion without becoming overbearing or aggressive or trying to force his opinions on me.

4. Someone who shows me deep respect at all times. Someone who doesn't just think of himself.

You evil man, SWB! ;-)

I am a feminist...because I too will hold open a door for anyone, will display quite great manners...but I expect it for myself as well! I just think that manners are a lost art in the world right now and it's sad. I've tried to teach some of the kids at my school how to smile & say "hello" as they walk by another person, how to hold open a door or say "thank you" when someone else does...regardless of gender or age!

As a feminist, I also want the right to earn as much as a man in the same position. Want the right for my voice to be heard. I know that the message that I send might be confusing as I'm asking for a guy to hold open my door, but also treat me as an equal...but in my mind you can do both and be both a gentleman and a man! And I can be a woman and a feminist. :p

I LOVE the Woman's Movement OneTiger. It is absolutely wonderous to behold......

especially strolling down the esplinade, and about 20' back

:D ;) :p

Things that make my heart go flutter...


* When he's noticeably happy to see me.

* When he knows what I'm thinking and feeling without me having to tell him.

* When he makes me laugh.

* When he flirts with me.

* When he says "Call me, I need to hear your voice again".

* When he's not afraid to show his vulnerable side... sharing his hopes and dreams and even his fears.

* When he tells me that he's going to be my hero.

Can I say all of the above.

Mostly a man can endear himself to me when I know he accepts my less than perfect moments.

When I can be myself, and he still craves me.

When I don't have to be totally giving, like I had no needs of my own.

If I EVER ( and so far I have never ) meet a man who can see my true self without any gauze, and can say ... Leda you are beautiful beyond measure.

I would love that man to the end of time. He would know a devotion and a passion beyond measure.

Originally posted by LadyInWaiting
Foot rubs and back massages!

Mmmmmmmm . . . I'll second that Lady . . . definitely toward the top of my list!!:p

All the above posters have listed valid traits, but I also want a man I can respect and one who respects me.

Truth and trust. I have to know that a man will always tell me the truth, from a place of love not from a spiteful place. That in turn builds the trust.

Hi all,
Too tempting of a thread to pass up...
I agree with most of the above..just two things I can't agree with.....No such thing as a perfect man??? So untrue...if you see prefection assomeone orthing constantly growing and changing listening to his heart like he listens to the wind.

And foot massages..I love to give them but my feet are way to ticklish to receive them!

Things that are so needed to me are...

The way he asks what I am feeling...not just because we have run out of things to say but because it is the most important thing for him to know at that moment...

The way he treasures our silent moments and allows worlds of wisdom to pass thru into each other doing those times....

The way he plays and the fact that he knows how important it is to play...

The way he knows me so well that with just one word he knows all he needs to know about my day and yet still lets me ramble onand onand asks more questions, as if his craving of knowledge of me will never be satisfied....

Thoose are just a few things thatmake him prefect and the icing on the cake is that I do the same things to and for him.

Love the way you want to be loved and you will get it right just about all of the time :)

So many of you are saying things I agree with and should also have said.

Flytrapp:

* When he's noticeably happy to see me.
When he flirts with me.

* When he says "Call me, I need to hear your voice again".

* When he's not afraid to show his vulnerable side... sharing his hopes and dreams and even his fears.


Swan:

When I can be myself, and he still craves me.

Tru:

Truth and trust. I have to know that a man will always tell me the truth, from a place of love not from a spiteful place. That in turn builds the trust.

Angel-breathes:

Everything she said.

Welcome by the way Angel breathes, I hope you post more :D

Thanks Babes...you said it better than I! I totally don't want to be a man. And yes, it's tough because both men and women don't know how to act or be now. Is it any wonder that the messages young men and women are getting are so completely wacked? Girls are learning that they need to be both super sexualized and strong. Boys are getting a similar message but they also have to be more feminine. There are such conflicting things - it makes it hard to date, to have fun, to be who you are. We no longer have rules about conduct and it's hard to figure out how to act. Girls today have told me that if a guy actually asked them out on a date and treated them with the respect I talked about, they wouldn't know what to do...or they'd laugh at him. That's a shame. I feel bad for both males and females these days. Who are we supposed to be?

Speaking of feminism, I was thinking today about the phrase - a way to a man's heart is through his stomach - is there some equal phrase for women? This thread addresses that issue, but has it been so unimportant to society that it is only what pleases a man that is important?

(actually - I was cleaning up the kitchen after bf had made a delicious dinner for us! The way to him surely wasn't thru his tummy with this girl!)

also, I am a feminist in that I feel women should be given equal opportunities if they can do the job. I went to court over this. But I still like to be feminine, flirt, etc. It is two different things.
duh!

I just want to be treated as a human being: with respect, honesty, equality,
humor, compassion and generosity.

If that makes me a feminist - and in my book, it absolutely does - then count me in.

Treating other people humanely - no matter what their gender, race, or creed, is my marker of what my people call a mensch - a good person.

I don't think I want to be treated differenty than any other person on the planet - male or female.

I was trying to come up with some coherent thoughts on this, but DS beat me to it.

My preference is that a man just stops worrying about how to treat a woman, because I don't want to be pigeonholed according to some "like a woman" (whatever that means) stereotype -- I want to be treated as a person. An individual. With my own likes, dislikes, and idiosyncrasies. Behave toward me no differently than you would toward your best buddy -- with respect, honesty, consideration, and kindness.