The Blahs

I think most of you know that Tom and I finally split up a few months ago. Since then, I have had a major case of the blahs, and nothing seems to help. While I was with Tom, I was either floating on cloud nine, completely in love, or I was in tears. Now I feel half dead. Breathe, sleep, eat, work, repeat.

Any suggestions?

I'm so sorry your feeling bummed out....I know how it feels to be 'blah'. But, you are in CA (like myself) and there is always something to do here! Spend more time with friends and family...assuming you would want to :-) Try to think of something you would love to do, but haven't yet. I'm not sure what part of CA you are...but, if its near the beach, the possibilities are endless!!! If your not by the beach, you could still do something like go hiking, or join a gym, or take a class at the nearby college (like art or something fun!). It always helps if you have girlfriends...I don't really have any at this time and it stinks!

I really hope I could help a little....maybe we could all plan a get-together in CA for all the ageless chicks?!!

Thanks Bella. You are so sweet! I'm actually not too far away from you. EMCAD and I got together for manicures not too long ago, which was fun. I know there's so much to do, and I have wonderful friends, but I feel like I'm just a drag right now. I am normally up for anything, but I just want to stay in bed. I think this is called situational depression, and my non-situationally depressed (as in perpetually) friend has suggested medication, but I'm not ready to resort to that. I should go to the gym. You're right. I guess I just need to decide to start being happy again.

Easier said than done, you know?

Okay, now this is getting scary. BellaLove really is starting to think like me. OMG:eek: Does that mean that my grey may turn blonde? LOL

I was going to suggest one of those ideas that Bella posted and that is joining a gym. Yeah, yeah, yeah.....I know that I'm a fanatic about working out and stuff. But there are numerous advantages to joining a gym.

1) Of course, it'll help you become more fit.

2) You'll become more energetic.

3) If you're ever feeling "BLAH", take it out on the weights or cardiovascular machines.

4) If you're not careful, you may actually meet someone there.

5) This I can definately vouch for........It'll build your confidence.

Like myself and BellaLove, you're in California and there seem to be a dozen different gyms in every city, except Apple Valley.

If you need any help in that field (i.e., the type of gym that you're looking for or which would fit your needs, etc.), just flip me a PM and I'll see what I can do for you.

Just a thought, World Gym and Gold's Gym have free 2 week pass on their website.

Thanks Chosen. I actually have memberships to 2 gyms already. I haven't worked out lately because I injured my back a few months ago while lifting too heavy, and I have been scared to go back. I will though. You are both right. I need to ease back into it.

Hey now!!! You guys went for manicures??!!! WHATEVER!!!!!(PSHHHHH....talk to the hand!!!)http://www.gamers-forums.com/smilies/otn/other/jpshakehead.gif

That sounds like fun ;-)

Anyways...even if you feel like crap, go for it!! It is soooo much fun to go out at night with the gals :-) Or go take a class at your gym like spinning or yoga; I've actually never tried yoga, looks interesting though.

And Chosen...ahhh my Chosen...you will be my fellow blond-ette before you know it http://smilies.jeeptalk.org/otn/wink/1bluewinky.gif

Originally posted by emmiegirl
Thanks Chosen. I actually have memberships to 2 gyms already. I haven't worked out lately because I injured my back a few months ago while lifting too heavy, and I have been scared to go back. I will though. You are both right. I need to ease back into it.

I know what you mean, Emmiegirl. I'm not sure if you've noticed my past posts but I was out of the gym for 4 months, due to an occupational/lifting knee injury. And it SUCKED ROYALLY, since iron pumps in my blood (and I'm not referring to the mineral). I could have picked the doctor up and twirl him around like a kid when he told me that it was okay to train moderately again 2 weeks ago.

Several years ago, I had injured my back in an auto accident and in order to recoup from it, I increased my back workouts. I'm not asking you to go to the gym tomorrow and deadlift 500 pounds though. Just work it slowly but only if you're able.

Originally posted by BellaLove
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And Chosen...ahhh my Chosen...you will be my fellow blond-ette before you know it http://smilies.jeeptalk.org/otn/wink/1bluewinky.gif

Yeah well, even if that does happen, I still don't eat BUFFULO........LOL :eek:

I haven't been on the site for a while...but I'm glad I saw this!
Girl...I know where you are at!

I think this is called situational depression, and my non-situationally depressed (as in perpetually) friend has suggested medication, but I'm not ready to resort to that. I should go to the gym. You're right. I guess I just need to decide to start being happy again.

When I went to therapy...she said I had situational depression and that she WOULD NOT give me any medication....phew...cuz I didn't want any!

I knew that this time was the last time w/ me and D. You know that too....so for about a month and half...maybe even more I was so depressed. I lost a lot of weight. I never ate...I just wanted to sleep and shut out the whole world. I stayed in bed when I didn't have to work....and when I was at work I was completely zoned!

It's hard and it's sad, but you do move on after a while. I know it will probably take you longer because you and Tom were together for so long...but it does get better.

From Legally Blonde:
Brooke exercised. Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don't kill their husbands.

See...even though you didn't kill anyone...you can still be happy! :) It was hard to exercise because I would always think about D...but then my frustration, sadness and anger came out in my work out. So yeah...go back to the gym...and start w/ yoga...it should help your back more than anything else.

I miss you! We totally need to get back together for manicures :) but this time we won't leave out the tequila...and Bella....you need to come down...or maybe even a road trip is needed :D :D

All the best....call me if you need to! :D

Evett