judith7
12-21-2003, 09:06 PM
Hi guys,
I've been out of touch for a while, deliberating. And, I've decided that I really need your advice again! Please let me know what you think...
Quick refresher -I have fallen for a guy 34 years my senior (I am 36 he is 70). He is on the west coast for the next 6 months, I live on the east coast. I know he is interested in me (we have discussed living together and other things we would do together in the future) but he is hesitant and reserved in his correspondence with me. So, per our (me and this forum) last discussion, I asked in my last letter to him what his concerns were regarding our age difference. I expressed my feelings for him in a light, non-obligatory way. I told him he had stolen my heart -which is something I have said in the past, he knows this.
I normally receive a letter from him every two weeks. His last letter- the response- came after four weeks. It is a long letter in which he talks about pottery. There is no mention of anything I said, or asked in my letter to him. He opens the letter by commenting that with all the time he has on his hands, one would think he could find space to compose a letter to me but that is not how things have played out. In his discussion of pottery, he includes a lot of metaphors relating to relationships. They are positive, nice metaphors. But again, I love this guy so much, I know that I am projecting my own desires on what he has written. Is it possible that he is speaking to me "metaphorically" about us through the pottery discussion, or is that just TOO much of a stretch? What do you think is up with his apparent disregard of my last letter. I know he got the letter because he makes one very brief mention of an issue regarding his recent doctor's appointment which I asked about in my letter. Otherwise, the dialogue we had, just turned into a monologue by his last letter.
Am I really being a jerk thinking that I have a chance with this guy? You know, when I look at "us" logistically, I think I'm a 'good deal' for him. His finances are very limited -my finances are such that I could support him. I am healthy, fit, attractive, people like me, men like me, and (compared to him) I'm young! We are a good intellectual match. We have many, many interests/hobbies in common. Our life philosophies are almost identical. When we are together, it is electric, we can't keep our hands off one another. What am I missing?? I certainly feel like a jerk being so in love with him.
Oh, help! I'm considering therapy at this point.
yours,
judith
I've been out of touch for a while, deliberating. And, I've decided that I really need your advice again! Please let me know what you think...
Quick refresher -I have fallen for a guy 34 years my senior (I am 36 he is 70). He is on the west coast for the next 6 months, I live on the east coast. I know he is interested in me (we have discussed living together and other things we would do together in the future) but he is hesitant and reserved in his correspondence with me. So, per our (me and this forum) last discussion, I asked in my last letter to him what his concerns were regarding our age difference. I expressed my feelings for him in a light, non-obligatory way. I told him he had stolen my heart -which is something I have said in the past, he knows this.
I normally receive a letter from him every two weeks. His last letter- the response- came after four weeks. It is a long letter in which he talks about pottery. There is no mention of anything I said, or asked in my letter to him. He opens the letter by commenting that with all the time he has on his hands, one would think he could find space to compose a letter to me but that is not how things have played out. In his discussion of pottery, he includes a lot of metaphors relating to relationships. They are positive, nice metaphors. But again, I love this guy so much, I know that I am projecting my own desires on what he has written. Is it possible that he is speaking to me "metaphorically" about us through the pottery discussion, or is that just TOO much of a stretch? What do you think is up with his apparent disregard of my last letter. I know he got the letter because he makes one very brief mention of an issue regarding his recent doctor's appointment which I asked about in my letter. Otherwise, the dialogue we had, just turned into a monologue by his last letter.
Am I really being a jerk thinking that I have a chance with this guy? You know, when I look at "us" logistically, I think I'm a 'good deal' for him. His finances are very limited -my finances are such that I could support him. I am healthy, fit, attractive, people like me, men like me, and (compared to him) I'm young! We are a good intellectual match. We have many, many interests/hobbies in common. Our life philosophies are almost identical. When we are together, it is electric, we can't keep our hands off one another. What am I missing?? I certainly feel like a jerk being so in love with him.
Oh, help! I'm considering therapy at this point.
yours,
judith