Where's Peachy??

There's a couple on Dr. Phil right this minute - the woman is 48 and the boyfriend is 29 or something like that. The daughter is appauled! I'm going to go watch it.....my mother had it on while I was bringing her dinner. It's super interesting.

Yikes. Dr. Phil grabbed a woman out of the audience and said that she's near 70. He said that he's in his 50's. He said that the differences between a 30-year-old and a 50-year-old aren't that great but that when the woman is closer to 70 and the man is in his 50's, the differences (healthwise, etc.) are much greater. He looked at the 69-year-old woman and said something like, "Would you want anything to do with me at my age?" She said, "No." Dang, I'm going back to the gym, lol. Oh, I'm so sick of other people's opinions. I'm convinced I won't be anything like that woman on T.V. when I am her age. Maybe I'm living in a dreamworld. Oh well.....We're so happy.

Here's something from the show.....
http://www.drphil.com/show/show.jhtml?contentId=2050_whatareyouthinking.xml

I overheard my roommate watching that, so I heard the whole thing, but I hadn't seen any of it. That lady looked like she's eighty or older. Not typical for 69 necessarily.

I thought a lot of what he was saying up until that part was good, but he really dropped the ball there by going so far out of his way to try and make a point (then again, that's what he usually does, isn't it?).

PinkPanther, I'm with you. I thought that a lot of what he was saying up until the point that he pulled that woman out of the audience was good. After he did that, well............that did it for me. I was starting to feel really sorry for my husband! I was feeling like a guilt-ridden cradle robber.

I, too, thought that the woman on the show looked much older than 69. My mother is bedridden, has all kinds of illnesses, is 77-years-old...and she still looks much, much younger than that woman on the show. I don't mean that as an insult against that woman, but my mother just looks way younger. It gives me hope. But....as my husband often reminds me, "I didn't fall in love with you for your youth."

My biggest fear is the exact topic of the Dr. Phil show. I just went through the slide show on his website.

I feel better now. If I look that old at 69, well, geez, I mean - no way. I won't do that. No. Crumb.

That is a depressing thought. It's an unrealistic picture of a 69 year old woman, isn't it???? There is plastic surgery, skin treatments, hair color, heck - hair style. No I won't go that way into my good night. No.

Ohhh.


Cindy

If you want to see someone that looks good at 69 look at Joan Collins. There is a picture of her and her 38 year old husband in this weeks Star magazine and they almost look the same age. The article is about Demi and Ashton and has some other age gap relationships that work

I saw the show too and Dr. Phil blew it by picking a woman who looked way older than her years. Another thing that was never mentioned was that men have been doing this for years!!!!!!!!!! It's nothing for a man to choose a woman 20 years younger than himself but let a woman do it, all of a sudden we have controversy, what's up with that?!?!?!?! Also was there anything said about love and happiness here? If I remember correctly not a whole lot was said about that. Plus, I thought the daughter was pretty imature for being 25. That segment had some mixed signals in it. Just my two cents.

Terry

Whew, good point, Terry. Men *have* been doing it for years, and I don't see any television shows warning men about what's going to happen when they're in their seventies and the women are in their fifties, for example. Real good point, Terry.

Hey, ladies. Chill out. Why are you going to give up your men and your hard-won unconventionality because of what some psychological Jerry Springer says. Younger men with older women are with their women BECAUSE THEY ARE OLDER! Phil supported both sides of the issue, but his choice of an older woman to stand beside was bogus. Most of us here who are in our fifties look FINE and we will look fine when we are 69 (actually, except for the height difference, I thought Phil and the lady made a good-looking couple). We need to write to Phil and complain about his choice for his example. Also, Phil led people to assume that the younger guy will not age at all for the next 20 years. Peachy, Whisper, YellowRose, etc., and I can all offer to appear on the show so the world can see how great-looking we are and what good life attitudes we have, which is what has drawn our younger men to us in the first place. We need to invite Phil to check out the site here to get the real picture.

I bet if Catherine Zeta Jones was the guest and he pulled Michael Douglas out of the audience to stand by her...no one would have batted an eye. So tired of that! Don't they have a 30 year age gap!!!???

My counselor is 68....she is soooooo trendy, classy, beautiful, intelligent and kind. She looks 50!!! It's all a matter of who you are and how you will choose to maintain your looks, health and mental growth throughout your life. Hey, when I'm 69 I'm going to be HOT !!! (you will be too won't you?!?) . I think OW who prefer to be with younger men inherently have a focus on staying attractive and healthy. And that won't disappear because we hit 65.

Dr. Phil is too opinionated for my taste anyway....strikes me as chauvanistic as well...not my style in general. I looked at the slide show online....it struck me that his specific goal was to shock young men "back to reality" by picking out the oldest looking woman EVER to proove a point (which seemed to me to be "how can THIS be hot? You're not gonna want THIS in 20 years"). Low blow. For him it was all about physical appearance...if she had been my counselor, the show would have been flooded with calls of young men wanting to "come out" with their attraction to older women. Sometimes I hate the media for the power it has to promote prejudice.

I did not watch the show, but I have talked to many who did and I read all the posts here and I read the slides on Dr. Phil's website.

From what I can tell, Dr. Phil was on the right track with the daughter in telling her she had a right to her opinion, but she also should mind her own business. Then the show lost all credibility when he got a woman out of the audience who was 20 years older than him and asked her if she had any interest in him. (By the way, this woman did look older than my 85-year old aunt.)

I sent an e-mail to Dr. Phil and told them my feelings about this and the fact that I felt that was an unfair analogy. I told them that we are in age gap relationships because we found someone who had similar interests, tastes and values as we have and they just happen to be younger or older than ourselves. We are together because we got to know each other and clicked. Just the same as with any relationship regardless of the age. I told him about our site here and that it might have been good for him to have come here and read our posts before he had done the show. That older men have been going after younger women for ages and that's okay, but now when we are seeing older women with younger men, it seems to be cause for alarm.

And I have to say here that if I hear one more time about Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher starting something, I am going to gag. They didn't start anything!!! It was 1976 when John Travolta fell in love with Diana Hyland who was 17 years older than him. She died in his arms with breast cancer. And who's to say that if she had lived, they would not be together today. And it was in the early '80's when Gloria Loring fell in love with Don Diamont who was cast as a love interest opposite her in Days of Our Lives. I believe she left her husband, Alan Thicke, because of this affair.

So my belief is that society is just going to have to get over it!! We are here to stay and there is nothing wrong with it!! And the great couples on this board are proving that every day! :D

Originally posted by peachy51
And I have to say here that if I hear one more time about Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher starting something, I am going to gag. They didn't start anything!!! It was 1976 when John Travolta fell in love with Diana Hyland who was 17 years older than him. She died in his arms with breast cancer. And who's to say that if she had lived, they would not be together today. And it was in the early '80's when Gloria Loring fell in love with Don Diamont who was cast as a love interest opposite her in Days of Our Lives. I believe she left her husband, Alan Thicke, because of his affair.
:D

Let us not forget Dinah Shore and Burt Reynolds...

Yes, Sage . . . good one . . . I had forgotten about their relationship.

I thnk it would be interesting to find
out what Burt Reynolds would have to
say now about his relationship with Dinah.
Of couse, being that she has passed on,
I am sure he has nothing but loving and kind
words to say about her,
but it would be interesting to find out
how he feels about the experience
of being with an OW.
And when he was with Dinah,
they were pretty much the only OW/YM couple
in the Hollywood crowd, (that I recall).

Maybe there is something on the net with his
thoughts on it..
I'll check around if I have time today.

Good for you, Peachy! I have to send Phil an email today, too, as soon as I can get Hikmet up and out of the house to work. He worked all night, so is having a sleep-in.

Phil is clever. He supported both sides of the issue. He put the daughter in her place and then proceeded to discredit the mother in a fashion Jerry Springer would applaud. Hopefully, we can get him to check out the Ageless site. If he has any kind of open mind, he may change his tune.

Another famous age gap couple was Eric Roberts and Sandy Dennis. She also died of breast cancer and he was devastated. I can't remember how many years they were together but it was a while.

I'll be interested to see what kind of response you get from your letter Peachy. Glad you wrote to to Dr. Phil and told him about our site. Now if only we can get that couple who was on the show to see the Ageless.

Terry