Gossip!

Isn't this just disgusting?

I am not talking about the healthy, caring attitude of wanting to know how that or that person is doing. I am talking about meaning to hurt someone, to find out their secrets, their private stuff, just to be able to hold that information and pass it on, and be accepted in the group because they are good source of gossip.

I usually talk about common friends and am happy for them when things go fine, am sad when they don't, but I honestly don't have any interest in knowing any "dirty" gossip about anyone. I tend to not trust people who come to me with gossip, because this is a disease that knows no limits and one day I will surely be their target.

By the way, being the target of gossip has happened so many times (I am sure I am not alone, but why do they stick to me?) that I am thinking of stop talking at all about my life!

Why don't they come to us directly and ask what they want to know?

Those frustrated papparazzi, let's stop listening to them! :mad:

That's so true. But face it, without gossip:

Jerry Springer's ratings would go down.

Sales of National Enquirer, US, and People magazines would fall.

Entertainment Tonight and E! Channel would go off the air.

In other words, GOSSIP MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND.


Which reminds me, did you hear the latest on the new R. Kelly video that he's done with the Olsen twins? LOL

Everyone talks about other people behind their backs for good reasons and bad.
They take stock in who is up, who is down, and what is going on in other people lives.
People want to know where they stand in the group relative to other indiviuals. It gives a person a sense of where they stand in the world. Griz
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Good point!!

Have you ever noticed how we often idealize celebrities and people of social or financial power but almost crave for something bad to happen to them (as in, divorce, bankruptcy, etc. but not anything physical)?

Well, I think it's a very unhealthy thing. People who love gossip often hurt others, spread rumours, believe anything they are told, when they don't invent things themselves.

I remember from the bible something that says, it's very easy to let feathers fly in the wind (was it feathers?), but try to gather them back and it's an impossible task. So many people have been hurt because of lies that people spread!

No, it's not because everybody is doing (I am not!) that it's okay, it's acceptable and it's unavoidable. We can avoid it, it's easy, don't listen to them!

Please, never come to me with gossip, I don't like it! :mad:

Maria...I'm with you...there are people that thrive on that kind of thing. It feels like personal power to have such information that is shared:( Read an article once that said EVERYTHING that you tell someone else in private is disclosed to at least ONE other person....from that person on...you can only guess. I, too, share very little private information with others...except for those few that are tried, true, and trusted friends. I think part of being a GOOD friend is the ability to have empathy and listen without passing on information....I try to be that person for others...it's sad tho that relatively few people hold those same values in friendship:( Chosen...you are so right...the 'wordly' way we do things in marketing others pain....is disgusting to me....some of those shows make me wanna PUKE. It's so unbelievable to me that so many WATCH that crap and they PROFIT from it.

I'm right there with you, Maria.

Gossip just stinks!

Despite my previous posts, I don't care for Jerry Springer or celebrity gossip magazines and talk shows. Unfortunately, gossip seems to be a popular issue. We've seen the popularity of shows such as Inside Edition and Entertainment Tonight and now E! Channel created a show called Celebrities Uncensored, where they show the reactions to the celebrities when they're being stormed by the paparazzis. Personally, I can't believe anyone can be interested in that.

But I agree with you, Maria. As I see it, if those type of people spent more time seeing the good in others rather than the negative, maybe they'll be a little more happier with themselves as well.

I actually think it's a bad reflection on the person who is just dying to give me some dirt on someone else, and when this happens, I usually ask myself why. How does telling me benefit anyone? If indeed telling someone something in secret is ultimately for the benefit of that person, or in order to help them in some way, then I don't see it as malicious gossip.

Sort of like when kids tell on each other. Is it because what they are doing is hurtful to themselves or to someone else, and can be helped? Or is it just to inflame or incite with no ultimate good to anyone, and possibly with the intention to hurt?

In the past, I used to hear alot of gossip whenever I was working in an environment where I'm the only male on the premisses. I remember working at a Shell and Exxon gas station 20 years ago and every woman at the stores had something to say about the other. I used to get so annoyed with that. Don't get me wrong, btw. I'm not saying that all women do this; most likely just some.:(

Damn! I came here after reading the title of the thead, "Gossip!" and thought I was going to hear some! :D

Seriously though, we gossip in the chatroom, just to be lighthearted and joke around. I've never seen anything vicious in there, just "Who can we talk about who isn't here?" :D See, that's why you have to go to the chatroom, so they won't talk about you! :D Just kidding. But really, sometimes people are wondering what's really up with a person, especially if they're posts are disturbing or something. Sometimes people just talk about how annoying someone can be. Sometimes we just want to gossip about DAAANNN, because he's just such a fun topic! Other than that, I've never seen anything damaging here.

I feel for you mods though, I'm certain you see a lot more "behind the scenes".

Originally posted by Polly
Damn! I came here after reading the title of the thead, "Gossip!" and thought I was going to hear some! :D


It was done on purpose, Polly! :D

And well, behind the scenes not only of Ageless, but of everybody's lives, there will always be innocent talking about common friends or people we know, and mean gossip. The mean kind is usually caused by jealousy and envy... the one listening to this kind of gossip often knows whether the other person is volunteering that info just to harm someone or not.

Originally posted by Polly
Damn! I came here after reading the title of the thead, "Gossip!" and thought I was going to hear some! :D

Seriously though, we gossip in the chatroom, just to be lighthearted and joke around.

Say what? Ageless has a chatroom?

It's been empty eversince I've been on the board. I thought that it was inactive.:confused:

I agree with polly we do talk about one another, but how we do it is important. Is it to gain insightful infomation about the person, trying to understand how we connect with that person, or how can we help them. That is all value creating and fine. Or do we seek to belittle someone or can gain the favor of someone else by talking ill of the third party? That is negative gossip, when we try to bring the person down to a lower level. Griz

Very well said, Grizzly! I agree completely....

And Chosen, lately I have had some free time to go to the chatroom, and have met many interesting people, including Grizzly!

Btw, glad to see you posting, Grizzly! :)

Uh-Huh, Polly...*LOL*

Figures, Polly would be the one to head up the charge of people gossiping about me. She just can't get enough of me...always has to find out the latest scoop on the size of my *ahem*....and all the latest trouble I've gotten myself into...*LOL*

Not to worry, though...her panties sell nicely on Ebay...*LOL*

Don't worry, Danno, everything I say about you is GOOD!:) There is such a thing as GOOD gossip!

Iffin my panties are selling nicely on EBay, wonder what your jock straps would go for???:D I could say, "Former owner is a computer genius...wear this and it'll make you smarter!"