OK beat this week

I'm venting here, and really not looking for support, actually it is meant more in humor. Like gallows laughter.

I took my income taxes to a guy to do because I owed $1000 and thought maybe he could do better, well, turns out I owe over $2000 because of the 401k that I cashed in so I could divorce my ex.

On Wednesday I came home for lunch and found that my house had been broken into and my laptop was gone. I called the police and they immediately suspected that my son had something to do with it because they broke in through his bedroom window which he left unlocked. They asked about his friends and I said I knew all his friends since third grade cept one new one that he started hanging around with about 2 months ago from the trailer park. They said is his name J. R. ? I said yes, turns out this kid has a rap sheet on him longer than Magilla Gorillas arm. I was shocked since I had talked to my son many times about trusting him and hoping this new friend was good and all. Even talked to my older kids about it and they said don't come down on him till you have reason to. Well the police finally realized my son had nothing to do with it since MANY of his items were stolen. And now this kid is "out to get" my son and my son is afraid because he is the kind of kid that fights with lead pipes, and puts kids in hospitals. I told my son, don't invite a snake into the house and then be surprised if you get bitten. (my son is on extreme restriction and actually is quite compliant) Insurance should cover most of it. Oh they stole my cell phone too, and used it. I keep asking the police if they have looked into the numbers that were called but I guess they don't have enough time. Like they said breakins aren't big crimes compared to murder and rape, well I'm sorry but there has never been a murder or rape in my city, guess the Krispy Kremes are calling.

So I missed a day and a half of work, talking to police, my son, then trying to get the insurance claim together.

I go to work today and at 2:30 my son calls in a panic and says MOM COME GET ME..... I figure J. R. messed him up. No he put his hand through the glass in the front door trying to shove it open. 3 hours and 40 stiches later we leave the hospital.

This was a bad week to quit drinking and smoking.... LOL

OH I almost forgot, I talked to the "guy from Iraq" and he admitted that he had COMPLETELY LIED to me about everything although he claims he acutally did go to Iraq (he was injured and came home in November) but that everything he had told me about himself was role playing, he was pretending he was his friend. I guess in his eyes it got out of hand and he didn't know what to do and he was sorry and never meant to hurt anyone. Well..... GUESS WHAT YOU DID.

I won't date for over a year, mark my words, I need to take care of my son, get my degree, and get my finances in order.

No time for BULL CRAP.

Swan, I have been following your ageless life since you have been here.
I think your in a bunch of crap right now, and you need to take a firm hand and get it straightened out.
I think you are dwelling on messed up so called guy from "Iraq' WAY to much, They guy is fake and buffed you, get over it, he was not real, at least not real as you thought he was.
I think you need to take a firm hold on your son and get his butt straightened out too, I think he is playing you just as much as the guy from Iraq is, I think its time for Swan to get everything straight and worked out. Now this is my 2 cents from what I have read, I love you Swan, I just think you need to set your damn foot down!!!
Quit letting Son and Iraq man run your life.......
You know in you heart the truthsI am sorry if what I say upsets you, BUT........This is a public message board and this is my opinion.


PS, This is all I am editing/adding, I see the OP has edited the post and added a few more lines in so my post now looks invalid, so be it :)

Snowprincess I could never take anything you say offensively

The Iraq thing was more of a curiousity since October

The rest of what you say is true

I need to take hold of my life, and I am

I am dedicated to my son foremost
my job second
my education third
my finances fourth

I have made this vow

which is why I have also vowed not to date anyone.

the guy in Iraq means nothing to me except solving old mysteries

I love you Snow.

If you question my priorities ask Thunder, I drive my son somewhere everyday, my son's friends are over here all the time. My only failure recently, was trusting his judgement on this new friend. But he is in lock down now for a long time. Don't want to do lockdown til you have a reason do you?

btw my son has never been in trouble.

P.S. I only post about the Iraq guy because people who were here "when" it all came down MIGHT be interested since it was a five star thread that got more posts than probably any other.

Hi Swan,
I am soooooo sorry for the troubles
that you have been having!!
Whew!
What a crummy week!!

I know how it is with teens-
they bring home every stray kid they find!
I have always lectured myself blue in the face
to my kids about bringing home friends
they do not know well.
They only see the "good" in them,
so matter how "bad" they are.
I have been ripped off by my teen's friends too,
so I know how you feel.

I am sure your son is just as mad about the
situation as you are- if not more!!
I am certain he will be much more careful in
who he brings to your home in the future.
I hope things between your son and this other teen
do not get elevated to anything worse.
As betrayed as your son feels-
he needs to "let it go" and not want to get
any type of revenge.
And he really needs to "watch his back" now
with this other teen too.
It's just terrible how it has gotten with
our teens nowadays isn't it?

Yes, it does sound like you need
to buckle down and take care of things
on your home front and I am sure you will
get a handle on it.
Dating is very secondary when there are
issues at home.
(Been there, done that)

I wish you the best and I know you
can pull out of this-
you have a good head on your shoulders
and you are a strong and capable woman too.
Just take it one day at a time-
it's all you can do.

Hugs to you and I am keeping
you and your son in my prayers!

Really? You were edited? I didn't think your first response was BAD.... just a little harsh LOL. Well I didn't complain so ... well. Sorry you were edited.


EDIT: Ok I missed the words OP, I forgot I had taken a line out of the first post. I just meant to clarify what I was trying to say, sometimes I read it over and it doesn't say what I meant. I did not mean to make your post look invalid SnowPrincess. Sorry.

Originally posted by SnowPrincess
Swan, I have been following your ageless life since you have been here.
I think your in a bunch of crap right now, and you need to take a firm hand and get it straightened out.
I think you are dwelling on messed up so called guy from "Iraq' WAY to much, They guy is fake and buffed you, get over it, he was not real, at least not real as you thought he was.
I think you need to take a firm hold on your son and get his butt straightened out too, I think he is playing you just as much as the guy from Iraq is, I think its time for Swan to get everything straight and worked out. Now this is my 2 cents from what I have read, I love you Swan, I just think you need to set your damn foot down!!!
Quit letting Son and Iraq man run your life.......
You know in you heart the truthsI am sorry if what I say upsets you, BUT........This is a public message board and this is my opinion.


PS, This is all I am editing/adding, I see the OP has edited the post and added a few more lines in so my post now looks invalid, so be it :)

Thanks kimmy, I may just take you up on this. I'm going to talk to this guy again, I may be able to deduct some expenses that I have taking my son to all these skate contests, since he wins prizes... its like a job and job expenses, some slant like that.

Sage, yes I have read posts from a few women here who have problems with their teen sons, seems there is a whole world of trouble they can get into and I have acutally been very fortunate so far. Like the cops finally said, he was looking from the outside on this lifestyle, he hadn't crossed into it yet.

My son and I have a wonderful relationship. We spent the day together today getting stuff to fix up the house and he is helping me with repairs.

Swan ---

If it's any consolation, I have had a sh*t week too!!! I know stuff happens, but it really starts to get you down when it all happens at once.

You might want to talk to your tax person. If you make a withdrawal from a 401K because a QDRO order has divided a qualified plan, you don't have to pay the prepayment penalty. You only have a one-time withdrawal that this applies to, but if you made a withdrawal due to that, you will not have to pay the penalty.

Hope things start looking up for you . . . just keep the faith!! :)

Swan...sorry to hear that things aren't going your way. Knowing how much you put your heart into things, I'm hoping that the world will begin to pay back to you. I'm sure that this episode with your son has scared the begeezus out of him (explains why he's going along with the lockdown)...he probably had no idea of the reality of what would come from hanging out with a thug. So many kids think that the lifestyle is "hot" as they only see the media side on MTV and don't hear about the reality of destruction and death that many are plagued with. I hope that your son now understands that there are many people that you can't trust in this world. But do keep your eyes open just in case.

Good luck with it all my friend!

My father died on 2/24 at 4am. Things can always be worse.

Oh Trish... damn. You told me about the tests, Oh I am so sorry. This breaks my heart.

Ok you beat my week. Marcy you too. Well, yes they can always be worse.

Your weeks could be worse too, don't forget that. You could be dead or dying. When I was in the emergency room with my son several people were in there, one older woman with cancer, one man who binged drank to the point where he is in severe physical pain, another older man who is probably dying.

I told my son, sitting in that room sure made me value my health, and made me fearful of age at the same time.

I'm so sorry Trish and Marcy.

Yes you beat my week.

You are both so right...

It could ALWAYS be worse for all of us.

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EDIT: Ok I missed the words OP, I forgot I had taken a line out of the first post. I just meant to clarify what I was trying to say, sometimes I read it over and it doesn't say what I meant. I did not mean to make your post look invalid SnowPrincess. Sorry. [/B]

****BALLS!!!
I forgot to mention, on how sad I was your day was crappy!!
I was too pissed about what the Iraq guy did to you and your sons ex friend, that I overlooked that you need a super hug!!
Hugzzzzz, things will work out.

Originally posted by SnowPrincess
****BALLS!!!
I forgot to mention, on how sad I was your day was crappy!!
I was too pissed about what the Iraq guy did to you and your sons ex friend, that I overlooked that you need a super hug!!
Hugzzzzz, things will work out.

Snow, I just want to say, I thought about this a lot, because it seems to me that you're mad at me... maybe just being defensive.

When I write a post sometimes I keep it on my screen for a long time, heck maybe for almost an hour, I go back, re read it, and if I don't like it I edit it. I think I edited this one before I ever read your response. I truly did not mean to make your post look invalid. I know I obsess a bit about "Iraq" and you were right.

So just don't think I tried to cut you off at the knees because I didn't.

we've always been "friends" more or less. I'm sorry.