Soulmates

do you believe in a soulmate?

If so, do you believe that there is only one soulmate for each of us in one lifetime or can there be several?

I have always been intrigued about how others feel about the possibility of a soulmate... figured I'd throw this out there and see what happens.

I had two soulmates... i guess it would depend.... My late boyfriend that passed away 6 years ago was my soulmate.... and now I am married to my soulmate to ... so there was a plan for my late fiance and he brought me to my husband... I have been blessed... In love and loved by two WONDERFUL men!!!

Originally posted by ByTheSea
do you believe in a soulmate?

If so, do you believe that there is only one soulmate for each of us in one lifetime or can there be several?

I believe in soulmates.

But up until MerAlove explained her soulmate story, I didn't think there could be more than one soulmate in one's life. While Pixie and I clicked the minute we spoke on the phone (if not the minute she read my PM), I would like to think that we may be soulmates but I also don't want to assume it too soon.

Although I do believe that when you meet your soulmate, you know it for sure that their your soulmate.

we have many soulmates, brought to us to raise us to a higher level, or to teach us something.

Soulmates can be men or women... they are people who we knew before who are with us in this life to lead us further on.

If you mean by soulmate a man/woman who is our perfect MATE.

Well I would say no. I would say a soulmate was someone to bring us to a higher level and then perhaps move on when their job was done.

Read Seat of the Soul by Gary Zukav for further explanation.

Perhaps a soulmate will be with us til we die, but that is irrelevant, each person brought into your life that takes you to a higher level is your soulmate.

I have had many, and several have been women.

let me post again because this is very dear to my heart.

I have posted before about a friend of mind named Silver Star, she was my dearest soulmate, so was a girlfriend of my father's named Lou Ann.

My daughter Korinn and my son Kevin are my soul mates.

The "Iraq" guy despite all the lies, was my soul mate, he brought me back to who I used to be. I won't go into details, I know you are all sick of him, but he did.

Doesn't matter, if they die, leave, are your children, whatever.

Anyone who moves you to a higher plain is you soul mate.

If it happens to be a man/woman you love and can share your life together, so much the better.

But that is not my definition.

I think the idea of soulmates can give people a false sense of security, as if there is less need to consciously work on the relationship because "you're soulmates," so of course nothing, barring death, can go wrong. No matter how "perfect" for you someone is, people can still grow apart and fall out of love if it isn't purposefully maintained. And just because someone is right for you now doesn't mean they were right for you (or you for them) at any time in the past. They may have changed greatly to become the person they are when you meet them. If you met the person you consider your soulmate a few years earlier you may not have had the same connection with them.

I do think it's rare for two people to meet who not only share physical, intellectual, and emotional attractions, but also respect one another and are willing to put in the effort to make their relationship work. The attraction and compatability part are necessary of course (and I suspect it's this part that's often thought of when speaking of soulmates), but without the dedication and commitment the relationship will flounder.

I'm not sure I believe in the concept of soulmates, partly because I'm not sure what the generally accepted definition is, if there is one. But even if I did I'm not sure it would matter all that much, as the connection you have with someone is only part of the whole picture, and it's not enough to sustain a relationship on its own.

I beleive in suolmates-and that you can have more than one and on different levels.

My husband is my soulmate-he often says it was serendipity that brought us together based on what we were each going through in life at the time.

My good friend Dan is my soulmate-we've been friends for about 14 years-through thick and thin-always together.

My friend Roxanne and I are soulmates-we've been friends since the first day of kindergarten. We've lost touch on and off during the years because we've each moved a few times, but we always wind up back together and it's like we were never apart.

That's my thought on soulmates.

I honestly can admit that I am not so sure what a soulmate is.

what makes someone your soulmate?

I am in love and have loved others deeply but I am not so sure that I shared a connection with anyone on another level. I mean, there definately was some sort of connection but I always thought that it was chemistry.

I feel that different folks in my life fulfill different needs. I am not so sure that you can get everything that you need in just one person. I have my best friend and my best male friend and then there is my mother with whom I share everything. My guy is great and all and I absolutely could not live without him but he by no means could fill their shoes. I need them all. I really need to find out the definition of soulmate. On the other hand, I believe in fate or even destiny for that matter... but one soulmate just boggles me.

My thoughts are, if I did not have my guy, I would be lovin somebody else right now.

Jocelyne I think you hit on soul mate there. You had one. You will have others perhaps. Maybe when you die you can once again meet his soul and you will know what you both had to teach each other and why it had to be as it was. That is my belief.

Sorry guys, stop reading now if this makes you sick, the "guy from Iraq" who was a total liar and sham, well he manged to bring out the person I used to be, the person I am meant to be. Too bad it was all wrought with pain and lies, but never the less I believe he was a soul mate because he made me see myself again. One never knows where our lessons will come from, could come from a horrible person that is brought into our life to teach us something.

Sorry, I know I am getting off topic, because the post was about soul mates meaning a man/woman who is somehow your perfect other. But I won't let go of the thought, that it is not if they are perfect, only that they were here for a reason.

In Jocelyne's case I think it was the "soulmate" that you think of with soulmates. And the fact that he died... well only meant that his job was done.... and now she will find another. Only it could be a woman or a child.

Am I making you sick yet?

What can I say....I'm a hopeless romantic who will always believe in that magical, fairy tale type, finding your destiny, kinda love. I refuse to settle for the sad, harsh reality that some people live (I believe they create their own sadness)

And for me, this deep love extends out to my friends. I consider some of my friends my soulmates, (of course not romantically) but in the respect that I believe God brought us together and its 'meant to be'. That there is a reason why we met.......and a few of you ageless members, who I will leave un-named, have definitally entered into that area for me :-)

Sea,

I also believe that you can more than one soulmate. One thing you noticed about a soulmate is basically understanding each other ideas and thoughts. Another way is getting a feeling like you "known him or her" somewhere before. Another idea is that sometimes our circle of family and friends were in one time people we have met in a past life. Some of them were also our significant other in a past life.