Looking for Advice.

Before I can get this advice I'm looking so desperately for, let me explain the situation to everyone.

Now there is this girl I work with lets call her "Ann." Ann and me have worked together for about 6 months, over those for months I have become her favorite person to work with, and she has become mine. Now Ann will do what I consider weird things, one time she stole my Nametag and decorated it with hearts, last weekend she drew about 6 hearts on a small piece of paper and gave it to me. Normally I would have took these signals at face value, and responded. But the situation is far from normal, Ann is older than me by more than 4 years. Now I don't know if this is just how girls in there twenties act, or if she means something by them. Ann is a little immature That said we are both still young. She is in her third year of college. We only work together on the weekends. She does everything she can to work with me usually. And after work we go for drives and just talk. We ignore the subject of a relationship, I don’t know why. Now for the past few weeks she has been the only thing I think about, and occupies my every waking moment. Now I need to find out how she feels, but I don't want to Jeopardize what we already have. That said, I don't want to not pursue this and think always about what could have been. Like I've said, I have no idea how she feels. I just know that she may be one of the greatest women alive, everything about her is great, she radiates warmth, gives me confidence, is beautiful, smart, kind, and funny.

What should I do?

Any help is greatly appreciated.

hi there war Hawk:D
You didnt say how old you were but a 4 year age gap is basically nothing to be too concerned about.
From what you say with the little hearts etc, Id say shes sending a message and hoping youll pick up on it. Otherwise give me one reason to put hearts on your nametag or give you a paper with hearts on it.
You say after work you go for rides and just talk but not about relationships...... well, I think at this point it might be a good idea to know if shes going with someone, married, or not involved, before you get TOO hung up on her.
;) Just thinking since you work with her, maybe you DO know if shes involved with someone else or not already and thats why you dont "talk about relationships" when your out after work:rolleyes:
If you go for rides after work, seems like a good time to me to take things a little farther and maybe say you heard a certain movie was good, would she like to go with you or something.
Apparently she is already willing and enjoys spending time with you after work ( thats a good sign) I say GO FOR IT and the best of luck. :D

Hi Hawk,
Welcome!! I have to agree with Charo. Once youre sure the runway is clear of boyfriends or a husband, I think youre ready for take off LOL. Im not saying to just rush things, I know you love your close friendship and dont want to jeapordize it, just take baby steps to let her know that its a little more in your heart and youre ready to let it grow.
Heck, buy some cute glittery heart stickers and when she's not looking decorate her name tag or other thing...sneakers or lunch box or jacket. Start doing flirty playful things back. Maybe bring her a yummy treat at lunch, grab 2 little cakes or candies and share.
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Oh and about the 4 years, thats really nothing. I know everything is relative and when youre quite young a year or two seems like alot, especially if one or both of you are still students. But trust me, its nothing. As Im sure you'll see from other posts or responses to yours here, there are MUCH larger "gaps" than that---the one in my relationship is 13 years, and technically going to be 14 for the next 6 months as Ive a birthday soon.
Go For It!!

She doesn't have a boyfriend and I'm postive she isn't married. I said the gap was about 4 years, actually it's 6.

six years is still nothing in terms of a gap. we have 11 years and it's not that big a deal

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6 years is really nothing. I almost feel like that could be too close. Are you sure you don't want that gap to increase?

War Hawk

Take Ann for a drive and make it something special. Go someplace really neat and full of natural beauty. Stop at a coffee shop or whatever, just reach out and hold her hand and sing a song on the radio. Reach your hand up and gently touch her face and tell her she is really sweet and beautiful. See how she reacts.

This girl is waiting for you to make a move. Show her a little about how you feel. Girls love sweet. I know I do and I'm far from a girl.

Take a chance, man. That is what it's all about, you know?

Let us know how you made out, ok?

How old do you think I am?

I don't mean to be rude.

Your guessing right.

well, I few days ago I found out about Chris, he is an old co-worker turned Marine. Now they arn't really going out, but they have. What do I do about this?

Not sure I understand. Why do you have to do anything? If they aren't going out, what's the big deal? :confused:

Warhawk.....you two seem to be walking on eggshells around each other....get to the point. Ask her if she's interested in dinner and if she doesn't ask...if her bf/husband/ex/mom can come along......I'd say you're in!!! Stop wasting her time if you're not going to take action.....and more importantly...stop wasting yours.

Best of luck to ya......sending good wishes your way......