Advice

Hiya people,
Most of your posts involve the ow talking about the ym.. well I'm the ym asking about ow... I'm dating an ow of 8yrs age gap... That might not be much, but it IS significant when I'm only 19, and she's 27, once I hit 23 or something, it might be accepted..
We get on well, we laugh talk and... cry... well I don't, but she has done before... My dad hates the idea, he can't stop it, but he's told me that he really thinks i should end it... as his grounds stand purely on the age basis, to me, thats not a good enough reason...
by the way she acts, you would think that she was 23.. but i havn't hidden her age to anyone... because I am actually proud to be important to her... Its not love just yet... at my age... i'm not sure what it is.. but I'm not going to disclose the issue... if it happens it happens...

so yeah... i came here just to ask, isn't there a time when it does get bad... so like.. my dad was on about... if it does work, and I'm 30, and she's 37, it will get bad and it will be significant....

Help me out... just through your own experiences... I think i've covered it all...



Hope to get a reply soon


Don!!

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Don, believe me, if you are in love it can only get better!

The more you age, the less you'll feel the gap. As you said, it's not much of a gap, it just seems so now because you are 19. That hasn't stopped some couples with much larger gaps around Ageless to be very happy though!

As for your father? Well, it's your life. You are both adults of legal age, and you are dating, where is the bad in all that?

Around here, eight years is considered fairly insignificant, except as you say.....for the age you are now. In the future, your ages will be fine and you'll even be on a similar life page.

There have always been relationships that last between people with five or eight or ten years difference. Some of the couples on here have 20 and 30 years difference and are doing well. We also have a longterm married man with a large age difference and he's very happy.

If your lady is a great person and your Dad's only objection is her age, if something does develope like love.......I think he will come around in time. But he probably worries that for now, you may miss out on what he thinks is important for your youth. If she is a good lady, she will also be mindful of this and allow you to grow at your own pace. That may impress your Dad in time.

Good luck and welcome to Ageless.....

Don, Welcome to the Board BTW, but you need to go to the Chit Chat section and read the thread entitled Ageless Person of the Week. Scroll down and read the thread about CowboyTX and maybe you should have your dad read it too.

Just follow your heart on this one and ignore what other people have to say. They don't have to live your life, you do! :)

I'm 30 and my bf is 20. The longer we are together, the less of an issue it is. Your gap is very small, and your dad, I'm sorry to say, is very silly and has a prejudice.