What have you learned?

What has being in an OW/YM relationship taught you:

For me there are many things, but a few of the things I have learned are:

1. Age is irrelevent
2. Acceptance
3. Patience (well I am still learning this one)
4. Today is a Gift

1. That I am a 26 year old stuck in a 44 year olds body!

2. That true love is worth fighting for!

3. That absence makes the heart grow fonder and CRAZY!!

4. That beauty is in the eye of the beholder...(Thank God!!)

trust..
and never look back

Originally posted by Joi
1. That I am a 26 year old stuck in a 44 year olds body!

2. That true love is worth fighting for!

3. That absence makes the heart grow fonder and CRAZY!!

4. That beauty is in the eye of the beholder...(Thank God!!)

You took the words out of my mouth..or off of my keyboard? (except I just had a birthday last week so I am 45 now)

That I am a woman, he's a man. So nature says it's a very good match! :)

I learned to never say never...

oops, I just did. Well, just the one time... ;)

Ok I can only talk about my marriages... 8 yrs younger and 10 yrs younger..

Age had nothing to do with it...ever.. at all.

I'm ashamed to admit it, but I have had to work through some pretty deeply felt prejudices against young men, which I didn't even know I felt so strongly. I've learned some very suprising things, such as:

1. Young men are interested in long term relationships
2. Young men can be as deep, wise, and self aware as older men
3. Not all young men limit themselves to partnerships with younger women
4. young men who love older women are not suspect, users, or after a mother figure
5. Young men can be stable partners
6. Young men can committ without needing to do any wild oat sowing
7. Young men can want to marry and have a family
8. Young men can be complex, sensitive, and want a lot more than sex from a relationship

Can't believe I believed in so many myths!

1. That age may have nothing to do with intelligence, intuition, kindness, character, or passion.....but only age and experieince impact your level of wisdom and courage

2. Someone whom you allow to be dependent on you (emotionally, financially, socially, or whatever) -even if they want it that way- will later resent you for it...and think that YOU prevented them from finding their independence.

3. Everything happens for a reason

4. Girlfriends are an irreplacable source of comfort and support...don't ever allow your connection with them to be usurped by a relationship with a man

Originally posted by Swan
Ok I can only talk about my marriages... 8 yrs younger and 10 yrs younger..

Age had nothing to do with it...ever.. at all.

EXACTLY!!

All my 3 husbands were younger then me, infact the last time I as much as 'dated' anyone older then myself I was 16 an he was 19 LMAO ....... Age really is just a number !!


Joi an Tru I have ya's beat:D I am 47 (nearly 48) going on 24 an getting younger all the time :D

1. Acceptance - of my body, my youthful enthusiasm, my zest for life.

2. Perserverence - that if I just hang in there and keep focused on the prize I can achieve my goals

3. That love and laughter is not just for the young but for me too.

4. Connection - that there is really a magical connection between lovers that I hadn't remembered about for a long time

5. Joy - that being open to the possibilities can bring it to your life.

6. That after raising kids, and tending a marriage and a home, and feeling less than significant for many, many years, there is a new life ahead of me.

7. The only limits I have are those that I place on myself.

That miracles do come true to those that help them along.

I learned that.....

1. I am an old soul in a young man's body (past lives...many lives)

2. Anyone that applies themselves with persistence and taking action to make their dreams come true will have the potential for success.

3. I have a purpose in this world and that is to heal people and being a good listener to all.

4. Touching the lives of others makes me happy and I feel like I done something to uplift their lives in some little way.

that young men can be so much fun,

that I very much enjoy having the different perspective they bring from having grown up in a more recent time than I,

that we can learn from so many people at different age points and have friends of all ages,

that I don't ever have to settle for sticking to traditional limits on life as a woman (in other words, that I can be MYSELF)

that I don't ever have to settle for a man who can only respond to me from a traditional and limited view of who I am or can be (in other words, that I will be seen, and loved, AS myself).

:)

not to limit my life by fear, avoid regrets at any cost, live in the moment, enjoy my youth my health, i look forward to tomorrow and plan to live longer than i did before i met Adam, i want to be healthy and beautiful for a very long time, i dont want him to ever be lonely without me, i take better care of myself on every level.

I echo Pink Cat:

Never, but never - say never :>

Does anybody but me remember the old Romeo Void new wave song by that name?

:D

Yep, it was in heavy rotation back in the early 80s. Funny how so many bands back then were of the one-hit wonder type. :)