I read somewhere that....

Maybe this shouldn't go here in relationships
and would be better in Chit-Chat,
but I figure this section could use a little
diversion from all the "affair threads".
(Whew! Something in the air or what....)

Anyway,
I read somehwere awhile back that a good
way to gauge if you will be with your partner
forever, is if you could truly imagine the two
of you in your Golden Years.

I had read this when I was still married to my ex-
and for the life of me,
when I pictured me older, (much older),
and thought about what life would be like for
me then, the hubby was nowhere to be
found in what I was envisioning.
Nowhere

I saw my kids, I saw some future grandchildren,
I saw my cats, dogs and birds, even saw the beach house
I will be living in, and saw other family friends and so on...


This was almost the first real clue,
if you will, for lack of a better word,
that I was in a mess with my marriage.
Of course this article I read is not the reason
that I ended up divorced-
but I just remember it bringing a lot of reality
into play for me in reading it.
It was kind of like,
the "beginning of the end" for me,
as far as how I viewed our marriage.

What do you think?

How do you envision you and your partner
when the Golden Years fall upon you?

Think there is any validity in this article I read?



<FONT SIZE=5 COLOR=768A76 FACE="Lucida Handwriting">~Sage~ </FONT><img src="http://ChasingDownTheBlue.homestead.com/files/lilfairy.gif">

<FONT SIZE=2 COLOR=Black FACE="Tempus Sans ITC">I don't want no one to squeeze me-
they might take away my life
I just want someone to hold me
and rock me through the night
This youthful heart can love you
and give you what you need
But I'm too old to go chasing you around
Wasting my precious energy
Give me one reason to stay here-
and I'll turn right back around
</FONT><FONT SIZE=5 COLOR=Black FACE="Freestyle Script">Tracy Chapman</FONT>

I just have a hard time envisioning tomorrow let alone many years from now. I am strictly in the 'get through today' mode and have been for as long as I can remember. I actually thought that living day by day was a great thing, but now am wishing I could be more future oriented. :(

Something to think about...I myself am to "wounded" by my past experiences to think past today. I remember when I was young thinking about growing old with whom ever I was with at the time. It was a wonderful feeling. Maybe as a result of my own health issues (I completed a year of chemotherapy last July) I truly just live for today as I know I am not promised tomorrow.
Beautiful thought though!

Joi

Sage,

That was an excellent question. I think about it alot. I cannot picture me with a walker and blue hair and Matt in his black leather jacket and tight jeans holding my arm!! I have thought about more realistic versions of that scenario and, unless I am a BAD judge of character, I don't see it happening. I'm with Matt for the dance. For today. I almost think my "twilight years" would be better spent with someone who remembers what class he was sitting in when Kennedy was killed. (Latin class, Mrs. Terwilliger)

LOL Abby!! Texas History class here. :D

I am not a big dweller on the future either. It isn't promised or guaranteed to any of us. In fact, in light of the past two years and all the turmoil in the world, I do believe we should treasure each day and live for the moment. I'm not saying there shouldn't be some planning for our golden years, but I certainly don't spend a great deal of time on that. I am not going to waste much of precious today worrying about a tomorrow that is not even certain.

GOOOD QUESTION and I have to say that NEVER ever have I envisioned myself with ANYONE at the end... I'm always in a cabin on the mountains... or in my camper van alone... AND LIKING IT.

May have a new spin on that if God is willing.

OH...now I think that's RIGHT ON...i dont like to dwell on the future either....seems as tho SOME DAYS...i cant believe i will make it for the next HOUR;)....think that statement is why I still love the movie ON GOLDEN POND....and love Nick Sparks book...THE NOTEBOOK. I can imagine older years....and I definitely have someone who will make one HE$$ of an old man!!...he feeds the canadian geese regularly and sits and talks to em...weird=)..hahah...well not that he's so bad rite now, LOL. Geez..ima glad he doesnt come here to read the stuff i say about him=)!!