Well, it's different for everyone. And it can even be different at different times in the same person's life. There's no one way to look at this.
Most of the women here will tell you they weren't looking for someone younger, in fact they wished at first that the guy was not younger.
Some of us, like me, -did- begin to prefer someone younger and looked specifically for that. (But I didn't pick my man ONLY because he was younger. He had to have a whole host of other qualities as well, qualities I would insist on no matter what age a man is - point being, although I wanted a YM, I wouldn't have taken any old YM. Faaaaar from it.)
How it went for me in life was, I always dated guys my own age until I met and married a guy who was 11 years older. I had really not dated older guys until then. After the many years I was with the OM, I -myself- got older, so when I left him, for the first time I was faced with the possibility of dating younger guys. Although I was open to guys my own age for a while, I came to realize I preferred younger men, and that's how I still feel.
My honey and I found each other over 2 years ago, both of us knowing we preferred OWYM, and we've never been happier.![]()