Thread: A called from a SIL

Surprised call from a SIL to tell me that I should let husband attend a party she is throwing for her husband who is in the facility for alzheimer. She said that she wanted all of us to be there but couldn't afford to buy airplane tickets for everyone. I never knew about the party until I told hubby he could take one kid with him just so that it's easier for me at home to which his sister said it wouldn't work because there will be a party he has to attend. I almost told her I have my own money for tickets but I didn't want to create more drama so I just said not to worry we will figure something out.
The twins sleep with us. Hubby and I sleep in separate rooms and we each have a child. We love to co-sleep..works great until one parent has to spend a few nights away from home, another reason it is hard for me to let him go is because I am terrified to sleep by myself at home. I want to find someone to sleep with me but all my friends are mother of young kids just like me and I don't think they will want to pack and leave their husbands at home to come sleep with me. It is hard for me to pack for a sleepover and it is embarrassing to be honest.
I want to be mature and not play my SIL game. I want to let hubby go for two nights....I think I will survive two nights without sleep. The last time he spent 3 nights at the hospital I almost get sick from lack of sleep. I also just learned that it is not wise to make committments when you are a mom of two toddlers with no relatives near me. The twins have been sick for the longest time... my son caught a bad virus infection that lasted 15 days and now my daughter has it so I expect we won't sleep for another 10 nights at least. But things are mush easier with hubby is around.....he is so great with them that I can catch a nap or sleepin in the morning. Advice please. I am embarrassed to admit to sil that I am afraid to spend the nights at home without husband.