I feel for you.
I was married before Internet dating came on the scene, so I can't relate exactly to your situation, but I used to meet people through newspaper and magazine personals ads and I know what you're going through.
What really aggravated me was when someone answered my ad, I wrote back, and there was no response. Period. Not even to acknowledge receipt of my letter. I felt that it would have been polite to at least write back and say something, even if it's to say thanks but no thanks.
Like Abraham Lincoln once said, "You can't believe everything you read on the Internet."