Thread: Finding an age gap partner

Imagining exactly the person you want will work for you sooner or later. Start meeting a lot of people and just be casual. That usually worked for me in the past.

Same way you meet anyone else really. Go out or hit the dating sites. Some sites allow you to set the age parametres you are wanting so you can see upfront the women who are interested in younger men.

Originally Posted by nmccay2319

Any suggestions maybe stories about how you and your partner met

Originally Posted by Dillow

Start meeting a lot of people and just be casual.

Yes, I think many people find their partners when not deliberately looking at all. When Ann and I first met (waiting for a shuttle bus at a folk music festival) neither of us meant to meet someone, but we did, and that was 26 years ago now.


SW

Do not set any age requirement. Older women are like any other women, some are bitter witches who never matured. Others are angels that came from the heavers to be your life long companion. Others are in between. Ditto with younger women. Keep your mind and heart open, and put yourself out there. IMHO dating sites are a bit artificial, you may set requirements, and someone may meet them all, but you do not click, yet you may click with a person you would not have anticipated.

Originally Posted by SheLikesKitties

Do not set any age requirement. Older women are like any other women, some are bitter witches who never matured. Others are angels that came from the heavers to be your life long companion. Others are in between. Ditto with younger women. Keep your mind and heart open, and put yourself out there. IMHO dating sites are a bit artificial, you may set requirements, and someone may meet them all, but you do not click, yet you may click with a person you would not have anticipated.

They are artificial and cynical mostly full of fakes. But at the same time if you are careful it's an avenue to find someone. I'm not sure if specifically targeting a quality is wise anyway. I may say my type is a tall, curvy red head but if a short skinny brunette came along and we hit it off I wouldn't walk away.

Look around while at events or places you like, more likely to find more in common. Don't really set an "age". Hunny and I were good friends in an an MMORPG for a while. This led to that and bang! I think we have something here!
Meeting was great. Have much more in common than not in common, even ended up being each other's type in RL physical appearance. The decision to be a pair was over 5 years ago and still we are attached to each other. : 3

Good Luck Dude!

There are many ways, as others have said. I find that online dating is a good way as you can set age limits and write in your profile if you are interested in older women. There are sites for age gaps. Are you religious, hobbies, etc? There are all kinds of sites you can try both free and for a fee that are good (now there are also apps I'm sure).

I was a divorced 69 year old woman living in a condo, I have always worked out and did my best to stay youthful, but never presented myself to attract a younger man. I would have never entertained anyone more than 5 years younger at most. Then a young man moved in, he just purchased the condo and at first it was a hello here and there. Then he volunteered to help me with the groceries and as we got to know each other, he helped me with things around the house. He was always pleasant, never aggressively pursued me at first, was just a great guy. I then started taking him to dinner because he was so helpful, we became better friends. Eventually he took me to dinner on a saturday night as very special place, we enjoyed each others company along with dinner and drinks. We then kissed, it just happened and we ended up at my place for the evening. That was 2 years ago, he is now 32, I am now 71 and we have close to a 40 year age gap, he is 15 years younger than my daughter who was in initial shock when I told her. We moved in together within 2 weeks after that dinner, married 6 months later and the rest is history. We are both a very happy couple and never again would I put any age restrictions on myself. Anyway my point is, you need to be creative like my husband was and win her heart. Go to functions or places where older woman frequent and just be nice and be caring. Initially don't push it, start a friendship and then one thing can lead to another. Many woman are not open to this, so the best way to convince them is show you really care about them without being aggressive. Be helpful, go a mile out of your way.