Thread: Question on ageing.

At one point, as we get old, some things suddenly do not work as they used to. It takes more effort to lose weight, it takes more make-up to look pretty, you cannot drink as much wine, it takes a bit of pain to climb stairs or hills. And then we realize youth is gone. Some people take these news with great concern, and it takes some time to get used to the idea that you are over the hill. Some women complain about being invisible, I consider this a blessing. It should pass.

Originally Posted by SheLikesKitties

At one point, as we get old, some things suddenly do not work as they used to. It takes more effort to lose weight, it takes more make-up to look pretty, you cannot drink as much wine, it takes a bit of pain to climb stairs or hills. And then we realize youth is gone. Some people take these news with great concern, and it takes some time to get used to the idea that you are over the hill. Some women complain about being invisible, I consider this a blessing. It should pass.

The women becoming invisible part has always bemused me. Being male I have always been invisible unless someone wants something heavy lifted or a woman thinks I will provide her protection.

Perhaps it is just the women who have always received attention who tend to miss it when it's gone?

Overall though, I agree. Being invisible is a good thing.

Originally Posted by Corsair

The women becoming invisible part has always bemused me. Being male I have always been invisible unless someone wants something heavy lifted or a woman thinks I will provide her protection.

Perhaps it is just the women who have always received attention who tend to miss it when it's gone?

Overall though, I agree. Being invisible is a good thing.

Ah. I see it.

I think it is born of learned worry. Girls are so often counseled from a young age that when they do get their "looks" somewhere around puberty, that it will be short lived unless they take very good care of themselves. Where as with men it is more about their ability to provide and the vanity of looks is replaced with aggression towards their work. And it is only a minority of men who are absorbed in their looks. (and most women harbor suspicions of them)

Where men use their bodies in addressing task, young women have traditionally been about attracting with theirs. The fear of losing this "attraction power" can lead to a neurosis for them. (depending on how over learned her being groomed, wardrobed, made up, etc was when she was a girl)

An old saying goes, "If a woman is beautiful at 20 it's youth, at 40 it's good care, and if at 60, it's her inner beauty showing thru".