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    Prognosis is not good... I had a blood serum test on Monday that was 53. BUT.............................

    I was going to doctor for illness. I had a temp over 100 twice on the weekend and steady 99-100 fever. so went to walmart clinic Sunday and clinic Monday. I go to OBGYN on 5th.

    Seems my mystery "flu" is a bacterial blood infection cause by Listeria. Its a food poisoning. I never even HEARD of it! But I am on Gentamycin for 3 weeks after a shot. because I am allergic to so many meds and very much to cillins.
    I have to use Tylenol only for fever cuz pregnancy and benedryl to control my moderate allergy to it. This sucks. I guess it is a potentially VERY serious illness and bad for pregnant women.
    I get scared when doctors flip thru books, go on net, make consult calls and go Hrrrph!*throat clear* a lot!!!
    I have a bad feeling and today I feel a thing I DONT like. The feeling like your spine is being pulled out from lower back.
    Some of you ladies will know how ominous a sign that is. No spotting though.

    Haven't even had time to figure what I even feel about getting knocked up ahead of schedule yet. I laughed hysterically when the "accident happened.. I cried with panic when the first stick said yes (I thought it crazy he wanted to test as soon as viably possible... which was day before his flight unfortuneately. He is happy and worried. I mean yes I don't mind a houseful of adorable moppets...but seriously it is a bad year to be laid up for any reason. Plus I kinda wanted some time with him as alone as we could manage with my disabled mom and my 8yr old son in house.

    As he said trolly teasing to me.."Vell deahr,, I guess thet at least ansors the question if vee are compatible physical. We may haf to speed up our schedule and have a Plan C. Don't worry .. I vil be har and we were going to be married anyway"

    Plan C is he comes here on Fiance Visa ASAP with the money ponied for the expenses and flight back. I do NOT want. He will get his Eng degree in just a half year left now!!!


    I avoid drama..... now I AM the Drama. Now...at my age... *sigh* MEH! Wish me luck.. I am not sure which way is luck.
    But doctor scare stories said what unluck can be. : ( and the biotic is a class D...
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    I wish you all the luck.
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    Welll....

    I married my husband when we were 45/25. We attempted and succeeded to get pregnant right away. At 3 months we had a CVS done (similar to amniocentisis). It has a small chance of miscarriage, sadly, we were the statistic. Our little guy had no chromosomal abnormalities. After another year of trying, extraordinary efforts and two more early miscarriages, we threw in the towel and pursued adoption through fostercare.

    Three and a half years after we started the process we finalized the adoption of a 3 yr old boy, and 9 year old girl.

    We have a strong solid marriage. I dont think that will ever be an issue. The issue ended up being health issues that I never expected. I was otherwise perfectly healthy. I was diagnosed w Colon Cancer in May, though very treatable, leaves me a bit worried about what my future looks like.

    You never know what the future holds. Embrace today.

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    pickles- are you pregnant or not? i don't get it.
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    GG: pickles- are you pregnant or not? i don't get it.
    Testing says "yes" pregnant.

    As mentioned I had two positives and clinic had a urine positive as well. Clinic drew blood for extra test as the consultant wanted. I don't want to feel anything panic/joy until I am sure this is a sticky. It could be just a blighted ovum or ovarian cyst (had one once -never other yet). I am not on any fertility meds. I just had full medical not very long ago so thankfully cancer is out.

    AND... there can be a ton of complications from this bacterial infection.
    I am not thrilled or planning names because I honestly feel like I might miscarry. It might just be the uterine expansion and what not, but the fever keeps spiking randomly and I am getting crampy. I am in bed on a lap top when not sleeping barely doing anything for 3 days but still feel unwell in a different way from the thing I contracted. I don't get excited til much later since this is clinic confirmed pregnancy #18 (I have 3 living children 18-15-8).

    My blood serum HcG (aka hormone of pregnancy) is 53. That is more than pregnant enough to be referred to an OB... my health plan doesn't allow for more that yearly checkups otherwise. But from what I remember when I was TTC with my X...that is low from what it should be .
    Next is Progesterone test and u/s to make sure it isn't ectopic on the 5th of Aug. Plus seeing if there is any damage to any fetus with the bacterial blood infection.

    I hate when things are iffy. I like having black and white answers.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pickles View Post
    Next is Progesterone test and u/s to make sure it isn't ectopic on the 5th of Aug. Plus seeing if there is any damage to any fetus with the bacterial blood infection.
    Do you mean the 5th of Sept? That's a week away. In the meantime, how is your doctor treating the blood infection?
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    Heh , I notoriously forget the day of week or which month it is. Yes Sept 5.
    And I had a leg cramp so hideous I am awake right now til I can move without restarting cramp or you'd be seeing less of me as I lie down more to try and make it to appt.

    There isn't any specialists that can handle me here in Podunk anyway, but if I can get through this sickness and the next 30 days I am home free. Maybe. *meh*I'm glad I'm moving home to Mesa this November.

    I am taking gentamicin after first injection, because I have true (life threatening allergy) to 'cillins n many other meds. They are worried about it which is why I am getting the early appointment and battery of testing to come.
    I am taking acetemenophine for fever reduce and benedryl to counteract my reaction to that (I am person who can conversely take aspirin longer than Tylenol. Tylenol give me acid reflux, stomach ulcers in first week and eventually cough up blood).

    I am taking weaker Claritin for my allergy promoted asthma as well as my prednisone which they approve to continue because the severe cough and flu symptoms as well as trouble breathing.

    I am not taking my iron binders. They have taken a lesser of evils stand because though worried about having to take these for a 3 week minimum...the risk of not controlling infection is worse for me. I guess had I waited any later it would have meant hospitalization and worse.


    I had back and belly cramping and a spot yesterday (not gonna look right now before sleep). Not good. No use getting hysterical. I have learned after quite a few panicked tearful episodes in my 20s, there are no measure that reliable stop miscarriage at this stage unless it is caused by hormone drop.
    ***I know I sound negative, even uncaring, but with my 18th doc confirmed pregnancy (with first 12 having negative outcomes), I don't FEEL its real til about week 10 when first hump is vanquished (seems I always choose mates with opposite blood type). And I have some problems caused by direct physical trauma that weakened my cervix so have a danger zone when in end months come in . Once discovered at age 30; I've had my daughter and two sons



    Worse thing for me? Hunny is getting really thrilled over it all. if he hadn't been present and insisting for first test -Id have waited to tell him. *sigh* I have become immune to the black heartbreak of the excitement rise crashed later sorrow. As another person that survived debilitating childhood illness; he thought he would be sterile. Now he is musing things future things.

    I'm just glad my offspring are healthy as horses except hereditary lactose intolerant and susceptible to iron overload as half carriers. My illnesses have been lifelong caused by neglectful exposures as a child under 3 to many awful things. Miami must have been a hellhole in 1965. (I have contracted both measles, mumps, rheumatic fever and scarlet fever before age 2 starting at age 3mos. Had whooping cough at age 3.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pickles View Post
    Heh , I notoriously forget the day of week or which month it is. Yes Sept 5.
    And I had a leg cramp so hideous I am awake right now til I can move without restarting cramp or you'd be seeing less of me as I lie down more to try and make it to appt.

    There isn't any specialists that can handle me here in Podunk anyway, but if I can get through this sickness and the next 30 days I am home free. Maybe. *meh*I'm glad I'm moving home to Mesa this November.

    I am taking gentamicin after first injection, because I have true (life threatening allergy) to 'cillins n many other meds. They are worried about it which is why I am getting the early appointment and battery of testing to come.
    I am taking acetemenophine for fever reduce and benedryl to counteract my reaction to that (I am person who can conversely take aspirin longer than Tylenol. Tylenol give me acid reflux, stomach ulcers in first week and eventually cough up blood).

    I am taking weaker Claritin for my allergy promoted asthma as well as my prednisone which they approve to continue because the severe cough and flu symptoms as well as trouble breathing.

    I am not taking my iron binders. They have taken a lesser of evils stand because though worried about having to take these for a 3 week minimum...the risk of not controlling infection is worse for me. I guess had I waited any later it would have meant hospitalization and worse.


    I had back and belly cramping and a spot yesterday (not gonna look right now before sleep). Not good. No use getting hysterical. I have learned after quite a few panicked tearful episodes in my 20s, there are no measure that reliable stop miscarriage at this stage unless it is caused by hormone drop.
    ***I know I sound negative, even uncaring, but with my 18th doc confirmed pregnancy (with first 12 having negative outcomes), I don't FEEL its real til about week 10 when first hump is vanquished (seems I always choose mates with opposite blood type). And I have some problems caused by direct physical trauma that weakened my cervix so have a danger zone when in end months come in . Once discovered at age 30; I've had my daughter and two sons



    Worse thing for me? Hunny is getting really thrilled over it all. if he hadn't been present and insisting for first test -Id have waited to tell him. *sigh* I have become immune to the black heartbreak of the excitement rise crashed later sorrow. As another person that survived debilitating childhood illness; he thought he would be sterile. Now he is musing things future things.

    I'm just glad my offspring are healthy as horses except hereditary lactose intolerant and susceptible to iron overload as half carriers. My illnesses have been lifelong caused by neglectful exposures as a child under 3 to many awful things. Miami must have been a hellhole in 1965. (I have contracted both measles, mumps, rheumatic fever and scarlet fever before age 2 starting at age 3mos. Had whooping cough at age 3.)
    Is that for hemochromatosis?

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