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  • piles of paper

    12 60.00%
  • old magazines

    10 50.00%
  • books you haven't opened in the last 5 years

    10 50.00%
  • clothes that don't fit

    12 60.00%
  • expired food or spices

    3 15.00%
  • expired meds or cosmetics

    6 30.00%
  • electronics or appliances that have been broken for over 1 year

    5 25.00%
  • mystery cords and cables

    11 55.00%
  • toxic relationships

    3 15.00%
  • other

    8 40.00%
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    "clothes that don't fit"

    Most clothing clutter falls into the "doesn't fit" category. It sits in your closet taking up precious space for years and years, because it's either too big or too small*....

    the jeans you can't zip up, not even lying down
    the blouse you can't button because it pulls across your bustline
    the jacket that's too tight on your upper arms
    the belt that won't buckle around your waist
    the skirt that still needs hemming... for years
    the pants that are so loose, they fall off (this happened to me! )
    clothes with the tags still on them... from stores that have gone out of business by now
    the shoes that kill your feet, but you "paid good money" for

    Then there's the worn-out shabby stuff....

    the holey socks
    the tattered underwear
    the sweater that's mostly pills
    the ragged t-shirt
    the sad old saggy bra
    the stained anything

    And the "just in case" stuff...

    the stretched-out maternity clothes in case you get pregnant again
    your old wedding dress in case... ???

    What else can you think of that I left out of these lists?

    Oh yeah... the clothing you haven't even tried on in YEARS. Do it now, I dare you... one by one, try on each piece of clothing, each accessory, each pair of shoes, and stand in front to the mirror. Do you love how you look? Does it make you feel good? If you had your money back, would you buy it again?
    Is the answer Yes?... then WHY don't you wear it?
    Or is the answer No? Then give it away. Make room in your closet and dresser for clothes that look and feel good NOW.

    Clutter Busting with Brooks Palmer: Clutter Busting Your Clothes


    * N.B. ~ Unless you are making true progress on losing weight, it's crazy to keep clothes that are too small. Why? If (and that's a big IF) you finally reach your weight goal, chances are those old clothes will be outdated anyway. Then what better reason to go shopping?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Faith View Post
    the shoes that kill your feet, but you "paid good money" for

    Then there's the worn-out shabby stuff....

    the holey socks
    the tattered underwear
    the sweater that's mostly pills
    the ragged t-shirt
    the sad old saggy bra
    the stained anything
    ^This right here!

    I hit that stuff about 5 years ago, but omg it was hard. I could still cut that up for rags!

    It's *still* hard. Once a year, I go thru my socks and undies and get rid of those items who need to be put out of their misery.

    Quote Originally Posted by Faith View Post
    Oh yeah... the clothing you haven't even tried on in YEARS. Do it now, I dare you... one by one, try on each piece of clothing, each accessory, each pair of shoes, and stand in front to the mirror. Do you love how you look? Does it make you feel good? If you had your money back, would you buy it again?
    Is the answer Yes?... then WHY don't you wear it?
    I didn't wear it because I felt I didn't deserve to look that good.

    MM
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    Quote Originally Posted by MissMuffins View Post
    I didn't wear it because I felt I didn't deserve to look that good.
    Wha...???
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    Quote Originally Posted by Faith View Post
    Wha...???
    Yup.

    My emotional affect tanked as a result of workplace bullying and receiving extraordinarily low compensation. When your supervisor is allowed to be nasty to you, it's tough to not let it get to you. When you're poor, society at large treats you like you don't "deserve" anything; pretty soon, your start to feel that way, too. I went back to wearing jeans, Tshirt and sneakers instead of skirts, blouses, "dress shoes" accessories, etc.

    A friend saw my closet and lovingly confronted me with, "You have all this, and you wear that to work?"

    I think, too, reverting to that mindset is a defense mechanism: if I make myself less attractive, I won't receive unwelcome attention and won't get assaulted.

    I believe it also has its roots in being forced by my mother to dress casually/unattractively after the abuse started...that way I wouldn't look quite so appealing to my abuser.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissMuffins View Post
    I think, too, reverting to that mindset is a defense mechanism: if I make myself less attractive, I won't receive unwelcome attention and won't get assaulted.
    Oh dear. I can relate, though. I had a hard time letting go of the bag-lady look, as it had served and protected me during my most vulnerable time.

    This book is helpful:
    Clutter Busting Your Life: Clearing Physical and Emotional Clutter to Reconnect with Yourself and Others: Brooks Palmer: 9781608680795: Amazon.com: Books
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    All of the above, except from toxic relationships

    I'm trying to declutter as much as I can before my mother and father in law arrives in June... I'm not doing to good though...

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    Heads up ~ Dr. Phil episode on hoarding this week

    For viewers in the US, Dr. Phil's program centers on a hoarder in denial, this Thursday, May 15.
    Check your local listing for the exact time and channel.

    A Hoarding Mother: Her Kids or Her Clutter

    Chandra and her siblings say that their mother, Pamela, has a huge hoarding problem that is tearing the family apart. Pamela denies being a hoarder and says her family's problems go much deeper than her mess.

    *NEW EPISODE*
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    What kind of clutter do I have?

    At present... mental clutter.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Faith View Post
    For viewers in the US, Dr. Phil's program centers on a hoarder in denial, this Thursday, May 15.
    Check your local listing for the exact time and channel.

    A Hoarding Mother: Her Kids or Her Clutter

    Chandra and her siblings say that their mother, Pamela, has a huge hoarding problem that is tearing the family apart. Pamela denies being a hoarder and says her family's problems go much deeper than her mess.

    *NEW EPISODE*

    Did anybody here get a chance to watch this show? What did you think?

    If you missed the broadcast, you can watch it online at this link, as well as read a partial transcript of the show.

    Dr. Phil.com - Shows - An Ultimatum for a Hoarding Mother: Her Kids or Her Clutter
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    donated all the outgrown clothes. *nodding* the he11 with it

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    PAPER

    lbs of it.


    An old document has saved my bacon more than once while battling every 3 years with my X.

    I also have all my military records. My job records, my business records. I am the family archivist so have geneology records (lost a few when my x spiteful burned a lot of boxes of documents to hide evidence not realizing important stuff has duplicates in second locations). Tons of photos. My art portfolios and animation. a few select comics and magazines, vital records, vehicle , and medical.

    I do need to organize it to a useful state once I am in my own home again.

    Also I keep receipts but only need those that have big purchase, electronics and such until those items are gone. When in Arizona I usually live in the high country and work in the Valley so need full summer and full winter alternate wardrobes. I have clothes i outgrew and clothes that dont fit not yet selected from the herd.
    And box of cords because I know they BELONG to something
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