I thank God for this site. I was married for many years and my husband at the time, decided one day that he wanted to be single. So he left me and we ended up getting a divorce. I made a promise to my self that I would never get married again. I was so hurt by the way that he left me for no reason at all. We were married for 181/2 years have three children together.
I never thought I could ever be able to trust another man ever again. So I was prepared to be single. I figured being single is not that bad my mom never remarried after divorcing my dad, she is perfectly fine.
My friends kept telling me that I should join a singles site. I said no. Then I decided I wouldnt mind haveing someone as a friend, just someone to talk to and help me through my depression. So one day I joined A singles site. I didnt really like what i was reading in the profiles because the men seem to be looking for something that I was not interested in. I got an email about another singles site and that if I joined they would send me some sort of gift card so i said ok just for the fun of it. LOL.
It was about the second day and I got a couple of emails from my ym it said he really wanted to get in touch with me because he thinks I am beautiful and he wants to talk to me. I said to my self heck no he doesnt even have his picture up, then I thought what if he is ugly LOL, all sorts of thoughts came to my mind. Then something (must be God) said to reply so I did. We started chatting online. The first thing he said was. "I dont know if you are the one for me but I want to take my time to get to know you". I said well all I am looking for is friendship.
We talked for hours the first couple of days and by the first week we knew we were in love and meant to be together. He helped me to heal from my previous relationship and to get over all my insecurities. Oh I must mention that he lives in Africa. I cannot tell people about this because I get alot of criticizm. The age gap (he is 22 and I am 35), Us meeting online, and him being from africa. I almost broke up with him so many time because of the negative things I hear. I feel so excited about our relationship he loves me and my kids, we are so happy together. I feel sad because I have no one to share these happy feelings with.
He treats me like I am a queen. He calls me his African Queen. We have been together now for almost a year and I am planning to meet him in person for the first time in february, I am going to Africa. The things we do for love. I would have never thought I would leave The U.S. and go all the way to another country to find love. I am very nervous about my trip. This is all new to me, but everything in me tells me to go for it. I feel so weird because of all the negativity.
This site has really help me thank you all so much. Sorry this is so long. Please feel free to give me any Advice, or encourageing words etc.