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Bella See, maybe sheila, that's what helps with us. I WAS the leader of the family with my ex husband. I was the main support. Worked two jobs most of the time to do it too. 17 years. We never grew at the same time. I did, he stopped.
I was exhausted. I'm also an oldest child, so taking care of everyone else just was a way of life. And I wore out.
David is honestly a full partner. Yeah, there were things he had to learn. How to balance a checkbook, look for car insurance all that. But the difference is, he wanted to learn, and never once has expected me to do it, like my ex did.
He might be only 22, but he truly does take care of me. And as my older daughter put it, not only does he take care of me, but he takes care of all of us. I've tried, when there is something he doesn't know how to do, to show him, or explain without looking like I'm mothering. I think that's important too.
Again, I can't stress enough, it's not always the age, sometimes its just the person.