Originally posted by whiterose I mentioned in another thread a wonderful website regarding research done on LDR's. Well, the original URL to that site has changed, but I managed to find it. They had redesigned their site.
Here it is. It was a study on LDR's of American couples, but I think that the statistics could apply to any LDR, no matter how far:
Because this information is so valuable, I am going to stick this thread. Everyone can then add more posts to the thread with great links to info on LDRs as well.
I only just thought to look at this, but it is very interesting. And nice to know that me and my g/f were doing most of what they say we ought to do to make sure it 'works' too!
The bit about feeling a part of each others life I think was interesting. I remember once feeling like I wasn't for a while and that hurt. Luckily my g/f understood tha and we always make an effort to be a part of each others daily lives as much as possible.
I'm currently reading a very helpful and informative book on LDR's titled Long Distance Relationships The Complete Guide by Dr. Gregory T Guldner. There is a page with a list of websites dedicated to LDR's:
I just ordered 2 copies of Dr. Guldner's book, one for me and one for my YM. It shipped today so I will hopefully have it by the end of the week. This is a terrific website, thanks for posting the link!
Not only am I new to this website Agelesslove.com, but I'm also in a one month relationship with a younger man and it is a long distance relationship as well! I am 41 and he'll be 31 this October. A 10-year 6-month gap. According to what I've read online so far about OW/YM, this is "a significance age difference." What I've also read is "age difference doesn't matter." Adam and I first met online, as friends, at ChristianMingle.com. We were also prayer partners on the telephone. We are 374 miles apart. He in Southern California and I in Northern California. When we finally met face to face last month, it was at a Christian Concert in Monterey, CA. We hugged when we met for the first time and truly enjoyed ourselves at the concert. That night, he told me he was falling in love with me. I was caught a bit surprised! As the days went by, we continued to talk on the phone, e-mail each other, and I flew down to see him a week ago. That's when we talked about a lot of things, especially the age difference. We didn't talk much about LDR. I'm the one more worried about the age difference. He said, "What matters most, Norie, is your heart." About a LDR, now that is something he and I need to really sit down and talk about. The website you recommended was most helpful. A study about LDRs is more substantial than one's opinion about them. Thank you for your help.
Welcome to Agelesslove Norie! There are many of us in age gap, long-distance relationships. Some from various states within the US, some from other countries, and some between the US and other countries.
If you have qualms about the age difference, or even about the long-distance, you'll find lots of great people here who can offer you advice or support.
So, post away and you'll soon get to know other people here.
I am very surprised not to find any cautionary LDR links posted in this thread. Google up "internet romance scams" for many links on the subject. But this must mean that no one yet on this site has fallen victim to an internet con artist... and yay to that!
i just wanted to say LDR's can work. I am an older woman, married to a younger man. Our relationship started out as an LDR and it was rocky at first. But with good, crystal clear communication (even talking when we didn't feel like it or being so honest it hurt) we made it thru.