Good luck with your adoption process. When I was married to my first husband, we tried to adopt a child, because we had fertility problems and could only have our one son, but it was quite difficult, despite the fact that we were the same age. Priority was given to couples without children.
In Panama, it is very difficult to adopt if you are single. I know that the stability of the couple was considered important for placement. Sadly AG couples are not perceived as stable. AGRs are indeed the last taboo.
What may improve your luck is to try and adopt an older child, maybe 5, or 7 years old.
There is less demand for non-babies.
Have you considered adopting abroad?
Nick and I discussed children in the past, and I told him that if he ever decided to adopt or have a child through IVFS, I would raise him/her as my own, but as years go by, I do not think I am willing to start from zero anymore. He does not seem to want children, but is rather looking forward to being a grandpa.
You know it's love when the pain of being apart is greater than the pain of being together.