Thread: How to talk about illnesses?

old age, sickness, death is inevitable and just a day-to-day part of the human condition. face it directly. ask her first how she might want to plan for any future caregiving needs...if she can't handle this discussion, bring in family to assist but i can't imagine any grown woman being unable to honestly discuss the truth of her own parent's health conditions and future death. we're all dying... it's just life.

That's what I'm used to say, actually. But somehow I don't feel it's enough.

you can certainly add "i love you and i will be here to help." but she needs to face reality, if she hasn't already. are you sure this is a problem for her? is she in some kind of denial or unwillingness to discuss this?

Just offer your help, and be there. That's all one expects from a loved one. There are no words that will ease the pain of seing your loved ones die, so don't worry, pain happens. Just be there.

She always cut the talk in some moment saying "oh please, let's not talk about this now". I can see it makes her uncomfortable, but on the other hand I can also see that it is bothering her. Seems that she's not ready to face the fact that we all die, or maybe simply doesn't want to.
So I'll be there for her.

That's really a very sad situation. And I understand what you must be going through. May be, you could just be there always. I mean, at times, actions speak better than words.