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Thread: "I'd marry you but I've got 6 years on ya"

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    RandomBloke is offline Neophyte
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    "I'd marry you but I've got 6 years on ya"

    Okay so, there's this girl who I'm insanely in love with, she's smart, funny, cute, she's basically got it all. She's my reason to smile, we have deep conversations as we look into each other's eyes smiling at each other. We met at college and we have been talking for some time now and we are both extremely close, we go out together, we study together, and we have these long conversations over the phone. Basically is we are not face to face we are either texting or calling each other. we have our own inside jokes and we are comfortable enough to tell each other anything and everything. But she sees me as just a friend, she often says to me "you're the best, I'd date/marry you but I've got 6 years on ya"
    I'M 18 turning 19 in July and she's 24 turning 25 in late November. We both know that we'd be prefect for each other and I don't mind the age difference but she does. We both agree that we would be prefect for each other and that we'd be a prefect couple, but she just thinks that its weird that we have 6 years between us. I have no idea on how to convince her or tell her that our age difference doesn't matter.
    Anyone got ideas on what I should do?

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    SummerBob is offline Super Moderator
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    Hi! And welcome to Ageless.

    I wish my "problem" was that I was "only" attracted to people 6 years apart from me. I was in my mid 30s and seeking women double digits younger than me.

    I think your bigger problem than age is this "eternal friendship" type of relationship you have with the girl. It's very hard to go from being like a brother, or a pal to "hang around" with, to something more than that. I had a friend like that in college who was only 3 years younger. The only thing I would say is to keep building the friendship and enjoy what you do have with her. If and when the time is right you both will realize that there is something more than friendship. In the meantime I would stay open to other opportunities.
    Like Abraham Lincoln once said, "You can't believe everything you read on the Internet."

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    Slow Worm is offline Senior Member
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    Quote Originally Posted by RandomBloke View Post
    she just thinks that its weird that we have 6 years between us. I have no idea on how to convince her or tell her that our age difference doesn't matter.
    Any idea why she feels like that?

    The trouble with asking here is that this site of full of people who never did think that way, and haven't much insight into why anyone else would.
    There are members here who started out with prejudices around age gaps but changed their views, but for many it just never occurred to us that their might be any problem.


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    SheLikesKitties is offline OW/YM 21YR GAP
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    When I was starting my relationship with my now husband, I had certain misgivings, so he pointed me to this website where you will find happy stories of couples with 10, 20 and 30 age gap differences. The board is not as active as it was 14 years ago when we started, but you can find old threads about all sorts of topics. My husband and I are have a 21 years age gap. I am 58, and he is 37. We are also an interracial couple... and an international couple. Anyways... I can honestly tell you that our age difference does not accept our relationship at all. Things like who gets to walk the dog or who does the dishes are the main causes of "stress" in our relationship.

    Is there any way you can convince her to have sex? Some people are more willing to have sex with someone than to have a relationship. Sex for sex's sake does not consider the age of the parties, just the attraction.

    Anyways, if she says no, I guess you will have to have patience, while at the same time think that there are other fish in the ocean. Good luck!
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    degausser is offline Senior Member
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    How seriously have you discussed the possibility of being more than friends?

    As Slow Worm said, as someone who doesn't have a problem with an age difference, it's hard to speculate. But I'm trying to imagine someone else's perspective, and I'm still having trouble understanding that someone would wouldn't consider a relationship with someone they were interested in due to a mere 6 years. That's why I'm wondering exactly what conversations you've had. Have you told her how you feel, and she said she has feelings for you, but isn't comfortable with the age difference? Or are these kind of casual, joking comments about being perfect for each other if not for a 6 year age difference?

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