Relationship Apologies

[SummerBob]

One theme I've noticed on some of these threads is that people seem to apologize for their relationships. They say something like: "I'm not attracted to older men (or younger women, or younger men, etc...), we just 'stumbled into' a relationship. We didn't mean to. We wish we were the same age, blah, blah, blah". Some of these threads sound more like a support group for victims than a board for people to encourage and inspire eachother. I understand that love "just happens" to some people. But please admit that there are people out there who are genuinely attracted to other-aged people; both men and women, in both categories (YW/OM & OW/YM). We don't need to apologize for it, act like it's not "what we were looking for", or pretend that these relationships are all accidental. Different people have different needs, and there's nothing wrong with having an age preference. That includes young women who are genuinely attracted to older men, without being gold diggers, home wreckers, power/status hungry, or any of the other negative stereotypes that are associated with it. One poor man started a thread asking women what they like about older men, and all he got was a cascade of "Oh not me.... I'm not atracted to older men....". That certainly didn't answer his question.

I hope I didn't offend anyone; I'm just expressing my opinion, for what it's worth.