I agree. Firstly life experience plays a part even in a similar age relationship. Add a few years or even decades to that and it increases even more. Attraction is one thing but it takes time to convert that attraction to really being able to relate to each other and sustain a relationship.
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Age is nothing but a number
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I agree. Firstly life experience plays a part even in a similar age relationship. Add a few years or even decades to that and it increases even more. Attraction is one thing but it takes time to convert that attraction to really being able to relate to each other and sustain a relationship.
SheLikesKitties
OW/YM 21YR GAP
I always feel like a little girl that is trying her mom's high heels and pearls. I feel that 100% maturity will always be out of my reach. I am smart enough to understand what it takes to be professionally and financially successful, so I fake it, but that is just knowlege, not substance. At one point I was afraid my husband who is 21 years younger than me would catch up with me and leave me behind, but he is much a Peter Pan as I am. 
On a similar note I always find it amusing when I hear "Ï am old enough to be your mother!" That never makes sense to me, a woman my own age is old enough to be my sister!
I've heard that one before, and you're right about the sister analogy. When someone once said something to me about a guy I was dating at the time, about being "old enough to be his mother" I just replied, "But the important thing is that I'm NOT his mother!" lol
I've heard that one before, and you're right about the sister analogy. When someone once said something to me about a guy I was dating at the time, about being "old enough to be his mother" I just replied, "But the important thing is that I'm NOT his mother!" lol
I've said that to women as well that they aren't my mother! I think they just say it as a reactionary thing and hoping they will shame you to be really honest. On a common sense level it is a fail.
paperboy
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But does one's calendar age "really" describe or define them? Talk with some people in their 50's, 60's, and 70's+ and see if they don't tell you that they feel about the same at their stated age as they did 20 or 30 years earlier. Sure, they can look at old photos in a picture frame and then in the dressing mirror and see the advance of time. Yet not see or feel about life much different today than they did in those earlier photos.
This is the point at which calendar age becomes much more abstract than the number that represents it.
As an aside, I'd point to a movie with Jack Lemmon titled "Save the Tiger". Lemon delivers a line, "we live in a country that worships youth like it's some kind of a God". (or something like that) But when you think about how marketing shapes our perceptions, it targets people in their primary acquisition years until they become empty nesters. Around 45 or so. People after this age have generally accumulated everything they need and aren't so represented as being young people any more. After that they may become active in volunteer organizations or social groups and feel about the same as ever.
This is the point at which calendar age becomes much more abstract than the number that represents it.
As an aside, I'd point to a movie with Jack Lemmon titled "Save the Tiger". Lemon delivers a line, "we live in a country that worships youth like it's some kind of a God". (or something like that) But when you think about how marketing shapes our perceptions, it targets people in their primary acquisition years until they become empty nesters. Around 45 or so. People after this age have generally accumulated everything they need and aren't so represented as being young people any more. After that they may become active in volunteer organizations or social groups and feel about the same as ever.
That's all about marketing and money. Younger men will tend to spend more because they aren't thinking about their futures and are also accumulating the things they need or think they need.
Older people have most of what they need and will even go without updating phones, computers, cars etc for as long as they can. That is why so many TV shows are aimed at the younger crowd. To the point where most shows now don't even have older people in them!
