Hi Again Everyone,
I posted here a couple of weeks ago ("How Do I Deal with Her Pulling Away After Three Years?") about the difficult and very unsettling predicament I've suddenly found myself with my girlfriend who is 22-years-older than me that until recently has been a wonderful and fulfilling relationship in so many ways--or so I'd thought. As I mentioned, we first met at work in what initially began as a friendship, but progressed to a romance after we both discovered we both had weekend homes in the same beach town near New York where we both live. I'm 47, she's widowed and in her late 60s with a big birthday coming up in November, which she's very insecure about--on top of which my home that my parents owned where she's stayed with me because hers was rented for financial reasons has been sold.
The sale has been a very contentious and traumatic issue between me and my parents, and now that the house is gone its as if my relationship with her is coming apart too--especially since it was such a big part of our lives together as a couple.
I also don't know what to make of this fact and I'm trying not jump to the wrong conclusions about why she's now pulling away, although I do have to say that in many ways it now almost feels if my house was the only reason why she was dating me and I'm now feeling very hurt and insulted about the potential reality of this if indeed it turns out to me the case. We haven't spoken much over the last couple of weeks save for one call and some texts because she's been out of town at a family wedding for her late husband's grandson, on top of which her stepdaughter's husband is gravely ill and is apparently not likely to pull through, so I've intentionally given her space. The last time we did communicate was several days ago and she was very remote. In the meantime, I've been out of town another wedding for a college friend of mine, and today when I texted her asking when she'd be back and telling her I missed her and wished she could have been there at the wedding with me, I never heard back, although I did she that she read my message.
I just don't know what to make of any of this and I'm trying to figure out how/if we can get things back on track when she gets back, which will hopefully be in the next couple of days. I could really use some advice here.
I posted here a couple of weeks ago ("How Do I Deal with Her Pulling Away After Three Years?") about the difficult and very unsettling predicament I've suddenly found myself with my girlfriend who is 22-years-older than me that until recently has been a wonderful and fulfilling relationship in so many ways--or so I'd thought. As I mentioned, we first met at work in what initially began as a friendship, but progressed to a romance after we both discovered we both had weekend homes in the same beach town near New York where we both live. I'm 47, she's widowed and in her late 60s with a big birthday coming up in November, which she's very insecure about--on top of which my home that my parents owned where she's stayed with me because hers was rented for financial reasons has been sold.
The sale has been a very contentious and traumatic issue between me and my parents, and now that the house is gone its as if my relationship with her is coming apart too--especially since it was such a big part of our lives together as a couple.
I also don't know what to make of this fact and I'm trying not jump to the wrong conclusions about why she's now pulling away, although I do have to say that in many ways it now almost feels if my house was the only reason why she was dating me and I'm now feeling very hurt and insulted about the potential reality of this if indeed it turns out to me the case. We haven't spoken much over the last couple of weeks save for one call and some texts because she's been out of town at a family wedding for her late husband's grandson, on top of which her stepdaughter's husband is gravely ill and is apparently not likely to pull through, so I've intentionally given her space. The last time we did communicate was several days ago and she was very remote. In the meantime, I've been out of town another wedding for a college friend of mine, and today when I texted her asking when she'd be back and telling her I missed her and wished she could have been there at the wedding with me, I never heard back, although I did she that she read my message.
I just don't know what to make of any of this and I'm trying to figure out how/if we can get things back on track when she gets back, which will hopefully be in the next couple of days. I could really use some advice here.
